When I am around new people, or even people that I have known for a while, I feel really awkward and inadequate. i feel like my nerves get the better of me and a behave oddly and inauthentically. It is horrible because I would just like to feel relaxed and be myself.
I am starting a new job soon and I really want to be there for a long time so I need to build up good relationships with my colleagues.
2007-08-18 22:35:22 · 8 answers · asked by nesta 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you are on right path, and if you dress well, and speak gently, do not unnecessarily poke any body's nose, there is no reason why should be overtly reactive. Just unwind yourself and feel that you are a perfect person. People will admire you for what you are.
2007-08-22 18:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to feel the same way too. it was awful. coz I've always gone out with my friends and family so i never had the chance to be alone anywhere. all i had to do was to face being alone in public places. it was hard at first but then i got used to it. it's OK to say sth stupid or act weird. but u'll find Ur way through and get a long with different ppl. so go to different places before u start Ur new job and see what u can do alone. try to start Ur conversations with the most popular subjects. for example>> the premier league has just began so ppl -especially men- might be talking about that a lot. when u talk, try to sound confident and well educated. be yoUrself and let them know the real u from the start. always tell yourself what a great person u r. write some encouraging phrases on papers and hang them on the wall in ur bed room.. that shall raise the confident. and if u wanna make a good first impression, go shopping. buy some new good looking suites. the apparel is very important.
i guess that's all i have.
good luck ;)
2007-08-21 22:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I know what ya mean. I always have moments when I feel a little awkward, like I'm just thinking about everything WAY too much. It does make it hard to just be yourself and really get to know those around you. All you can do is be yourself. I know, easier said than done. But just think of those people in your life who know you for who you really are, and love you just the same. As long as you're a good person who's good to others that's all you need to be. Now with starting a new job it can be intimidating making new relationships. Since you said you plan to be there for a while, don't feel pressured into impressing everyone on the first day. You'll have plenty of time to get to know those who you can get along with. As long as you're happy doing what you do (people can pick up on how a person feels) and are nice, people will like to be around you, and you can get comfortable at your own pace.
2007-08-19 06:12:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to work on building your self esteem, because that is most likely where the feelings come from - you think you are inadequate and so that is how you think others will see you. There are a number of ways to build self esteem depending on what you think will suit you, for example you could try getting a few self-help books (which is probably the cheapest option), hypnotherapy, counselling or life coaching.
2007-08-19 06:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good news is, you're perfectly normal! One way to help you get around work without feeling awkward is to think, act, and be confident. That's probably going to be a common solution, but I think that it's better for you to feel confident about yourself to feel confident around others. Okay, well I used the word confident a couple times, but you get the point. Try to be happy :)
Ways to shake out that awkward feeling around others:
-have more positive outlooks on situations and thinking
-don't think of yourself less than others
-try to look at your concerns: look deep into what really bothers you
-be satisfied with yourself (mentally and physically)
I really hope my advice helps. Best of wishes to you and your new job! :]
2007-08-19 06:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and do this: find someone who you think looks friendly and engage in a conversation, if you find yourself starting to act weird talk about something else eg how you find your new job.
2007-08-19 05:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by Your little helper 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey just be yourself
as you said you have friends so you must be a decent sort
so if stangers or new work mates do not like you thats there loss
good luck in new job and the future
2007-08-19 06:45:54 · answer #7 · answered by itsa o 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to relax!
everyone is wary of meeting new people stop putting pressure on yourself and be you !!
remember not everyone is going to like you so whats the point of trying - be yourself and smile !!
2007-08-21 12:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by Swan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋