#2) How should we learn " Not " to get attached to People & things ?
#3) Is it always possible to take rational & sensible decisions
in life ?
Thanks everyone for your kind response. :-)
2007-08-18 22:33:27 · 27 answers · asked by ♪♥*B.B.K*♥♪ 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
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2007-08-20 05:36:19 · update #1
1) I think being practical is better with one qualification. You must also possess empathy and be able to feel people's pain. I believe that emotions do tend to get in the way most of the time. It is best to use your emotions when you want to have fun and otherwise just stick to the task.
2) Being happy with who you are and self-reliant is the key to not getting overly attached, I believe. If you do not have regret and insecurity then you will be able to make due with what you have without jealousy and will be able to have healthy relationships with others.
3) No, rational decision making is not always possible. For one, we are driven by our desires which our non-rational. We can use our rational mind to mediate our desires and to some extent mold our desires but non-rational desires will always be present.
Pure rationalism might not always be desireable either. Consider this scenario: Your last surviving family member, your father, has just died in your house. You can A) Pay $500 for proper burial and pay your respects even though he has no friends or family other than you or B) You can eat him. From a rational perspective, why pay $500 for a burial when he is dead and needs nothing? Plus, eating his dead body would save you money. But emotionally, few people could do this. Some emotional needs such as respect for the dead, while not strictly rational, serve a function so deeply rooted in the human psyche that one just can not eliminate them.
I will conclude that we should try to be as rational as we can be but must leave room for empathy and be realistic about our emotional needs.
2007-08-18 22:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
1) both of them are good as long as u feel good about yourself ,it depends on your character, a practical person can never be emotional ,and the opposite is right, it's up to the person, where do u feel more happy and comfortable and right . some ppl can make a balance that's good too! personally I'm more emotional then practical and I'm happy.
2)it's not something bad to get attached to something or someone if it's the right thing or the right person , that's a part of the human nature we need to be attached to something ! is a sign of love and commitment it's a sense that we have and we can control it so it wont become like an addiction! i don't know if I'm speaking Chinese but it's the best that i can explain.
3) i can't really answer this question I'm just going to give a personal opinion . for me decisions in life belongs to the person who makes it, what's rational and what's sensible only u know, coz you r making your decision in a certain situation you are in. so in that situation what seems rational for u ,for others might seem not! so how do u know that u made a rational or sensible decision? just live ur life as u see it right no one is perfect and every1 makes his own path in this life and we should be responsible of our decisions and never regret anything we have done only regret something you wanted to do or to be and you didn't . believe in yourself.
2007-08-19 07:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by guiermo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation....i think in general and for the most part, its better to be practical...but in the matters of the heart, you should "think" with your heart...so in those cases, i guess in a way its better to be emotional....so you know for sure that you actually do have something you feel for that someone....its always a difficult decision to choose which way to think or feel...but for the most part i guess none of us can really control how we feel, whether it be being too emotionally attached, or being attached just enough that you can still be practical....
#2) Im really sorry, i wish i could help you with this question, but i honesty have no idea how to not get attached to people and things....im still kind of trying to figure that out myself...but i wish you the best of luck and i hope you find your answers. :)
#3) No i most certainly dont think its always possible to take rational or sensible decisions in life...i mean well, i guess it is possible, but...i dont think a single person on this planet is capable of being so flawless....humans make misakes, thats how we learn and grow....
I hope this helps. Thank you for the interesting question. :)
2007-08-19 06:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by Jaded 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
#1: Being 'emotional' can lead you the wrong way because emotions will sway you from one extreme to the other in a very short amt. of time. [love/hate] 'Practical' is when you have time to gather all the information about an issue and you have chosen which is the best of all answers.
#2: Attachment stems from the 'emotional' part of your thoughts/feelings. "Attachments" can become obessions... if you let them be. Think things through well and for some time period. [Esp. if it is a valued thing to become 'attached' with someone/something.] [ask yourself "do both parties receive the best?]
#3: NO!. At one point, the best answer [at the time...] will be chosen and later, you may regret the 'right thing' that you have done. Sorry, life can get tough, but it's from experiances that we learn. good luck!
2007-08-19 05:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by caves51 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be practical and polite. Do not assume that all decisions taken in life whether rational or sensible will always prove right. If you are practical you will admit mistakes and change the decisions without any ego hassles. There is nothing wrong being emotional too. Warm hearted people are emotional. But do not be carried away by your emotions while taking vital decisions.
2007-08-19 05:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by Mani 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot exclude either one. People who are emotional and impractical cannot hold down jobs or get along in social groups. (This would be the "drama queen" at your workplace or in your family who always has some drama going on, but can't manage to show up on time.) People who are unemotional and practical are stifled, boring, and unable in the long term to cope with problems.
Why would we want to learn not to get attached to people and things? I'm rather attached to my husband - the institution of marriage sort of requires getting attached to your spouse as a basic tenet. As for getting attached to "things" -- it depends on the thing. I'm rather attached to the earth and would prefer that the ice caps didn't melt and flood the western part of the U.S. That said, I agree that there is a pursuit of material wealth that sometimes clouds peoples' judgment and morality.
No. It is not always possible to make rational & sensible decisions in life. Love, faith, and mercy are frequently not rational or sensible. Yet they are sorely needed by most humans.
2007-08-20 01:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Being practical considering intellectual as well as emotional facts is good
2. Attachment cannot be increased or decreased, it just happens. Dont reduce your attachment, but dont show it to the concerned as then you will be more prone to get hurt.
3. No, decisions are completely irrational sometimes, but they are taken on the basis on circumstances. And if at that moment that irrational decision will benefit you, you should go ahead with it.
These questions come to your mind when you become thoughtful, you should take life easy, dont think soo much.
2007-08-20 02:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by Charismatic_guru 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister was always the drama queen & it worked for her. My family still caters to her every whim. It sickened me so much that I became nearly too practical minded.
We never know if the decisions we make are gonna be the right ones, but we do know right from wrong. Theres a whole room full of vices we could choose from if we want to claim one....... they will always be there.
As far as getting attached to people, I try to side step situations that I know I may fall headlong into, and I dont have the time or energy for.
Being attached to things can be a burden, you gotta watch your stuff all the time.
2007-08-19 05:54:07 · answer #8 · answered by chickem 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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We should learn not to get attached to people by not telling them everything and by keeping a distance between them!Yes, it is always possible to take rational and sensible decisions in life, but you have to be clever and make the decision!
2007-08-19 15:16:46 · answer #9 · answered by тн¡иК™ツ- proud ¡иd¡αи 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An even balance of the 2 will work wonders. It's hard not to get emotional with some things. But you can't think like a robot on every matter either. You have to know when it's a good time to use on or the other. Some situations will over ride your thought process and you'll just react from emotion.
2007-08-19 05:40:25 · answer #10 · answered by BOB C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋