I wanna come out,. but there's just so many obstacles in my way,. My friends won't understand, and my family is more or less conservative,. I wanna wait till college,. but it's just so far away, and I'm just tired of lying to people and deceiving women., please can some one give me a personal story, something that can inspire me and give me courage to come out,.
<3,. thanx
2007-08-18 22:03:27 · 10 answers · asked by Kindled and Confused 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Why do you have a need to tell others what you do in your bedroom? Do you think others want to here?
This is your private business. Keep it that way. I think anyone that feels they have a need to share their sex life with me is strange, and I would avoid them.
2007-08-18 22:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by Dr Jello 7 · 0⤊ 10⤋
1) i admire your courage, it's a big step.
2) give your friends some credit,if they are truly your friends they will have your back. It may take a while for them to get used too.
I don't have apersonal story but when I was in school, there was a football player big buff dude all the girls liked. Very butch.
After a few months he started changing he got more and more femme. eventually he was a total flamer. But....... all his friends still liked him, the girls still talked to him it was different because it was more about weave and stuff. But the point is he was happy his friends stood by him, and he had the nicest, cutest boyfriend.
Im not saying this is how all gays come out it was this particular guy.YMWV
2007-08-19 05:33:03 · answer #2 · answered by maitraya 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it seems hard, but its probably better in the long run to come out now. I waited until I had left school and was going to college and things have turned out fine, but sometimes I regret not doing it sooner.
I know you're probably thinking that people will be more accepting in college and they will, but don't forget that no-ones gunna even know you're gay unless you tell people now.
Oh and btw don't feel pressured to tell everyone you know if you don't want to.
2007-08-19 12:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself and you ought to be okay, if you need some moral support in order to come out, then ask some of your friends that are into the lifestyle to help you to accomplish this, but you might want to wait til you have your degree in hand before announcing to the world that you are gay.
This is my own personal opinion!
Thanks,
Fire'n'Ice
2007-08-19 05:13:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are what you are. If you know that you are gay with all of your heart than know that you are doing yourselves the biggest gift you could ever give yourself. FREEDOM! The stigma will end when the shame of being gay does. God didn't make accidents. Gay people would not exist if God didn't want them to. I don't care how people have interpreted the Bible, gay people are God's creatures too. Period. I'll challenge anyone on this topic. I'm not gay but I believe strongly about this topic. Let me know if you want to talk. I'll be glad to listen and try to help. Good God. Don't believe in luck, believe in God.
God's Speed and Grace,
Nancy
nme1022@yahoo.com
2007-08-19 05:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by Nancy E 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well my sister went through the same thing. some girl asked her out and she just couldnt refuse. everybody already knew that the other girl was lesbian so my sister decided to come out herself. it took a while for the family to get over it but she already knew what was comin. u just need to take responsibility and come out whenever ur ready. make sure ur comfortable with yourself. i wont lie but you will notice a few changes. ppl might stop talking to you at first but it'll get better in the mean time. come out when you feel the time is right.
2007-08-19 05:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by eminem wifey 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is come out. Unless your family is turning a blind eye, some might already suspect.
2007-08-19 05:33:50 · answer #7 · answered by dtravelbiz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
come out when you feel confortable.. if your parent are anti gay, you might want to wait till you could support yourself. As for you friends , find someone you can trust. just find an activities in school to do. remember comeout when you think you are ready
2007-08-19 05:46:05 · answer #8 · answered by Carlos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I admire your desire to be honest, but it is probably in your own best interest to wait. After college, when you are on your own and they can't hurt you so bad, that would be a better time to tell them.
You might look into XY:
http://www.xy.com/
Peace
2007-08-19 05:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by sudonym x 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When the time's right, the time's right. You be the judge of when is the right time for you. For me it was while I was watching TV with the family.
2007-08-19 23:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by flash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋