Questions about middle names?

Question

We never found out if we where having a boy or a girl during the pregnancy we just had two names picked out. The middle names where never hard my husband and I both have middle names that have been passed on for 3 generations so we where going to use ours. (mine has now been passed on for 4) So here comes the problem if we have a girl next time what should her middle name be? I want it to have meaning but how do you do that without causing jealousy? Another thing my biological father was a jerk and my mom divorced him after she had my brother and I. I was still a baby when my mom met my dad who has always loved me as if I was his own. I wanted to name one of my kids after someone from his side of the family can I do that where technically they aren't related to me. Like my maiden name I loved it would that be weird if I gave it to my baby when I was born with a different last name? I know there are a lot of questions here baby names are a big deal and they fluster me easily.

Answer 1

No one except you and your husband can make rules about what names to give your child. If the dad who raised you is "Dad" in your heart, what more beautiful way could you express that than giving his name to your child!

As to the middle name of a second girl, why not name her after someone special also. That way her big sister will have your middle name (looks like your family's "right of firstborn"), and your second daughter will know she has the name of someone you cherish.

Or, if your first daugher is old enough to understand a little, why not involve her in the naming process. I don't mean letting her pick the name, but discussing with her what different names mean, and talking about giving her baby sister a special middle name, just like she has.

Answer 2

Your step dad is your dad. Do you have a family that will take issue over names? My middle name is the same as my mother's middle name. She really pushed for me to use that name for my daughter. I never liked the name and used another family name. She kept hinting, but I figure it was my baby.

Sure if your madien name matches a first name I say go for it. I think it is a lovery thing to do.

You biological father hasn't been part of your family for a long time. And to me the person who raised you is your step dad.

Answer 3

Name your baby after the one who makes you feel special. The one who has special meaning in your life. You don't want to name it after your biological father if you have those feelings about him, it wouldn't be special for you or your child. My oldest son is named after my mom's dad. He died when she was in college and I never met him. But I admire him and love him with all my heart because he gave me my mother. My other son is named after my husbands grandpa, because of the great relationship he had with him. And our next son (due in 2 weeks) will be named after my husbands father whom recently passed away. Don't worry about causing jealousy amongst other family members. Do what's in your heart. Name the baby what feels right to you. It's your child, not everyone elses!! Good luck!

Answer 4

Good advice from the other posters on this one! A name is a gift that you give your child. You and your husband can pick any name that you like. If the name has a special meaning or honors a special person, that's great.

Answer 5

Not at all. Kate Hudson (actress, daughter of Goldie Hawn) did it!

She named her son Ryder Russell Robinson after her step-dad Kurt Russell whom she is very close with.

Answer 6

I think it's totally fine for you to use your adopted Dad's family's names, even if he didn't adopt you legally, it sure sounds like he adopted you emotionally and was a "real" father to you. I say go for it!