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a co-worker who is trying to pull you down? We have different duties and responsibilities as far as the office system is concern. She is appointed to do the accounting system and me i appointed in the purchasing office. Even if we have our own duties and responsibilities in some office tasks, she seems to power play. She seems superior to me when in fact she is not. As far as mine is concern i am diligent with the task given to me no problem with that and at the same time i coordinate with her. She has an attitude problem and when she gets upset because of personal matters, she so mean and rude and gives false information about a task to our superiors esp if things went wrong and she puts the blame on me. She accuses me if things went wrong about the work system. And by the way, she has a special feelings of attraction to one of the superiors. I can sense that she hates me if superiors give praise to my task well done. I don't fight back .How can i deal with her? What shall i do?

2007-08-18 21:25:25 · 9 answers · asked by Angelique 4 in Politics & Government Law & Ethics

i use to be in her position before since there is a change of managment i have different position as well as duties n responsibilites last week she ask me to sign and receive a summary of listings of sales collections and remittances. i did not sign and recieved it coz i need to check the figures and i found out i did not have the cash and check in my possession but still she included it in the listings so i returned it to her and told her to refer that to superior. she got mad then the following day the superior ask me to check all collections if i have it with me so i told superior not all i received, superior was furious and he approached her and ask why she let her sign the summary when in fact i did not have it all in my possesion. she fought back with superior and admitted she mistake but i knew she did it in purpose coz superior gave her also the list of figures that i did not receive, they had an arguement and she shouted at me infront of the superior. i was so shocked!!!!

2007-08-18 23:56:47 · update #1

my co-workers told me that she wants me out of the company by blaming me on some job, she is planning to give me mistake so that the management will document it and i will be termintated. i think this has to do with legalities now. what shall i do? i am honest with my duties and she seem so demanding and tend to manipulate. I am afraid that the management will favor her and put me in hot water.

2007-08-19 00:03:34 · update #2

she and superior have special understanding all of us in the company notice it. right after the superior got furious and approach her because of her accusing me of a job, they both went out dating. How can i document it and inform the management now when superior is the management too

2007-08-19 00:10:39 · update #3

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Keep up the good work you have started. Don't mind her, just do your job. Sooner or later your superior will know who is telling the truth.

2007-08-18 21:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You need to speak with your superiors and not the one whom she has feelings for (if he reciprocates). From the point of a manager I know that they would rather you let them know of any problems that are occurring in the work place. Document conversations and instances when she is acting unprofessionally. Also make sure that when you do speak with your manager that you do so in a way that is professional. If you come across as a complainer or a whiner then that will just make you look bad and give them a bad impression of you. You want them to see that you are only interested in having a better work environment so that everyone involved can do their jobs in the most efficient way.
The last thing I want to tell you is that although you probably think you should talk to her first, this is not a good idea. It will only make her hurt and angry. This will only make the situation worse. By going to your supervisors it can be handled in a appropriate and professional manner with less risk of worsening your situation.

2007-08-18 21:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by KatyCat 3 · 0 0

Document, document, document. And more importantly, express your concerns about her actions to a superior.

Most likely nothing is going to make her stop, and it's very unlikely that people don't already recognize this about her.

I'm currently in the same kind of situation at work, with a coworker that goes on some MAJOR ego trips and attempts to pull some fast ones. Fortunately my manager, after a nice long discussion, started to see what I'm talking about and has actually been able to bring the guy down a couple pegs to near human status.

It's not great, but it's better.

2007-08-18 21:37:17 · answer #3 · answered by cyber_phobic 3 · 0 0

You should follow your chain of command. First go to YOUR superior. Tell the superior what is going on and it would not be a bad idea to file a complaint. This will get it down on paper. If the problem persists, go to your superior's superior. Tell them that you have filed a complaint and nothing was done. Continue up the chain of command if the problem persists until something is done. But you need to get your grievences down on paper in case it has to go to court.

Some companies offer mediation to help with inner office problems, as well. Find out if your company has a mediation program or if it offers an anonymous complaint hotline. Then, follow the chain of command if the problem persists.

2007-08-18 22:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by Theresa B 2 · 0 0

2 ways.

You have to stand up to the bully, if you dont want to report it and leave it up to the higher management.
Tell her, save your attitude for someone else, and correct her when she gives you attitude or falsely blames you.

Its the ol "I want to dominate you" mentality.
Let her know that youre not effected by it all, and you wont tolerate that.

OR

You can simply go to your supervirs and explain to them that shes creating a hostile working environment with her attitude,
Ask them if they can remind her that she should leave her attitude at the door, and show them that you have that team player mentality, and you treat her with respect and courteesy and you would like her to act the same.

Best would be to have her in the office while you say this to them.
Just alittle "sit down" that willforce her to adjust her attitude whether she likes it or not.

P.s. and if it continues on and on -- do as 1 and 2 responses advise. Document it.

2007-08-18 21:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by writersbIock2006 5 · 0 0

forget approximately approximately her is my suggestion actually. i understand which would be extra convenient suggested than completed yet attempt. She curiously isn't doing her job if she retains going to the boss telling him/her of each thing suppossedly incorrect you're doing. as long as you're doing all your job you're able to be super. making a private telephone call final time I checked replaced into not a sin in the artwork place. as long as you at the instant are not making very own telephone calls like a mad guy then that's ok. Why not pass and ask the boss? Mr.Smith is it ok if I make a rapid very own telephone call? neither is speaking to a co-worker. lower back in line with hazard pass perfect on your boss and say, whats up i replaced into speaking to Janice and we got here up with a great thought to extend revenues. Or in spite of in line with hazard the case. Coming decrease back a touch late from a smash. i could attempt and alter that. Bosses do tend to look down on that one. So attempt your superb to purely do your artwork and enable that tutor what you're able to do. strikes talk louder than words. And believe me your boss is going to get very unwell of her working of their place of work snitching on you. So sit down their understanding that she will't get to you. some people actually attempt on objective. I had a matching subject and caught it out and proved i could desire to do my job. She have been given fired. I have been given promoted. LOL good luck!

2016-10-16 02:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

What you describe here is a hostile work environment. Two things to note. First, they'll take your soul if you let them. Second, you can sue for this. You should outplace and sue them into oblivion. Talk to a women's rights attorney.

2007-08-26 01:02:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

first of all its very important to trust of your self ,then make your job in order without any complicated or confusing ,other think if you have any good idea for any improvement to your job first ask for advise to any person you trust of him and give your opinion .and try to be as a module and so gentle wiht her with no harm,it will take time then you will approve your self in the future.

2007-08-18 21:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by mars 1 · 0 0

Document her violations and report her to your superior so that appropriate action will be made against her.

2007-08-18 21:30:05 · answer #9 · answered by FRAGINAL, JTM 7 · 0 0

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