Why are gay men allowed to cheat on one another and sleep around?

Question

Now that I've got our attention- I've noticed the media portrays most gay relationships as 'open' or 'uncommitted,' where the
couple is together, but allowed to sleep around and fool around with other men while in the relationship. Why is this such a phenomenon in gay culture? Why is it allowed? Why is the prominent portayal of gay couples not one of complete fidelity?

Why don't such gay couples hold themselves to the same standards as straight couples- where any sort of cheating/fooling around outside the relationship is not permitted without any angst?

Hopefully I don't sound too ignorant- this would help me understand why/how/how many gay couples actually want marriage rights like straight couples, but don't necessarily hold themselves to the same standards (not to say that all relationship standards of straight couples are high).

Now that I've got our attention- I've noticed the media portrays most gay relationships as 'open' or 'uncommitted,' where the
couple is together, but allowed to sleep around and fool around with other men while in the relationship. Why is this such a phenomenon in gay culture? Why is it allowed? Why is the prominent portayal of gay couples not one of complete fidelity?

Why don't such gay couples hold themselves to the same standards as straight couples- where any sort of cheating/fooling around outside the relationship is not permitted without any angst?

Hopefully I don't sound too ignorant- this would help me understand why/how/how many gay couples actually want marriage rights like straight couples, but don't necessarily hold themselves to the same standards (not to say that all relationship standards of straight couples are high).

I should add:
I am interested b/c i'm gay and have seen this in real life. This disappoints/discourages/irritates me

Answer 1

It's a complicated question. Part of it is the media portrayal which always goes for the lurid. Part of it is the negative stereotypes purposely promoted by anti-gay, pro-bigotry groups to make all gay people seem incapable of love and commitment. There are also gay couples with open relationships. Finally, due to our rejection by many Christians and the refusal to let us marry, some gay people don't feel they should be bound by the rules which apply to heterosexuals (which are also overlooked often by heterosexuals themselves).

As a Christian gay man, I feel that gay people and our relationships should have all the same rules as heterosexual relationships. This does not mean I'm perfect, because I'm not. But I do believe I should not be having sex with someone I just met and I try to follow that rule.

There are gay people in committed relationships, but you don't hear as much about them.

What you need to do is start with yourself. Look for quality and not quantity. Get to know a guy and love him before you have sex. Say no. If you stand up for your principles, others will see your example. And remember, our grandparents did that and their relationships lasted much longer than the ones most people, gay and straight, have today. So, they were doing something right.

Answer 2

That's a false portrayal of gay relationships. Straight couples can be just as promiscuous. Of course, there are people of all sexual orientations that cheat and such. Most of us queers hold our partners up to the same high moral standards of monogamy as heterosexual couples. Homosexuality has more to do with love and attraction than just sex. Get your information from a more reliable source than the boob tube.

Answer 3

Keep in mind this is the media's portrayal of gay life. This is not real. The media only does what helps them and brings in advertising dollars. When was the last time you saw a TV show where there was no trouble at all? The media only does what serves them, even on Logo, I haven't really even seen too many shows that are all that representative of LGBT life. They're better but not quite there yet. So I wouldn't put too much trust in the media if I were you.

Answer 4

That is bs. I've known tons of gay couples over the years and I know maybe 3 single homosexuals that act that way. On the other hand most of my married str8 friends have or had somethin on the side. Heck when Im single I am more hoish than 10 gays could dream of!

Answer 5

Ok I haven't noticed that but maybe I am wrong, I know many gay couples that have been together for years and have not cheated.

Answer 6

Don't take to much to heart about what the media says, You'll find just as many or more straight guys or girls doing as well!

Answer 7

The media WANTS you to believe that gays and lesbians are unfaithful. LGBT couples are just as commited as straight couples.

The media is just trying to make you believe a stereotype.

Answer 8

who says they are?
I have been married to the same man for eleven years. We have adopted two children. We would never think of cheating on each other......If you are truly in love and in touch with who you are you would never think of cheating!

The better question is why do you care what others do in their bedroom?

Answer 9

With gay men, it's about the sex, not the relationship.

Case in point- George Michaels. Caught In Public Park having sex at 3am, he screamed at the papparazzi, saying "Are you gay? No? Then f*** off! This is my culture!"

Answer 10

My feeling is because the biggest part of the relatiohship for two men is sex. The relationship is based on sex and just because they are gay, they are still men and men suck. BUt you are right I have encounterd gay couples and had them both hitting on me at the same time