free of charge, while men go of to sporting events, men usually spend quite alot at the weekends on these things first there is petrol,then parking, a couple of beers probably more before the game, very often lunch in the corporate suits, then a few more drinks after the game, while the wife or girlfriend is stuck at home looking after the children,many of the men do not even ask the women if they mind. I would like to know how many of these men organise and pay for childcare so their partners or wives can have a nice saturday afternoon?
2007-08-18 20:29:23 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Other - Politics & Government
Sounds like marital problems.
2007-08-18 20:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by superbad 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I just wish we could go back to the days when one parent WAS at home for the children. In today's society it could be either, and each would be deemed as capable as the other. I think we'd have better-adjusted kids if this was to happen.
Whoever looked after the kids during the week would probably - in a fair and considerate relationship anyway - get to have first dibs on the time off. Or they could do what generations of parents have done - go out together with the kids or go out together and have the grandparents take a hand.
The battle of the sexes does not have to go nuclear.
2007-08-19 17:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by HUNNYMONSTA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't men answer this sort of question without being abusive? Why shouldn't a mother get some time off? It's a hell of a job at the best of times.
You seem to be making your main point about the money he is spending. Do you want him to spend more time with you and the children or just get out by yourself? There is a saying that the family that's plays together stays together. Is he interested in his children? Please try talking to him and let him know how you feel. One problem we women have is that we expect our men to know how we feel. We get grumpy, they ask what's the matter and we walk away muttering 'nothing'. Been there, done that, got the 'T'shirt.
2007-08-19 08:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by little nell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you married the wrong type of man!!!
IMHO the men should look after the child themselves if the wife goes out - they don't have to "organise and pay for childcare". A child belongs with its own parents not with a paid childminder unless there is no alternative.
My partner doesn't go to sporting events (can't afford them) and doesn't go to the pub. He is a driver/valeter (poorly paid!) so doesn't do anything related to "corporate suits" or lunch-ing! So none of the above relates to us at all. We can't afford to go out much but when we do we go together. Or if one of us really wants to go out and do something the other takes care of the baby.
I'm happy to be an at-home-mum to my baby. I'd hate to be at work and not see him all day. We might be broke but at least I'm not missing out on my baby's first year.
2007-08-21 19:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu and every mom out there!!! I myself ask this same of my husband!! We have two small children! He can work all day come home to dinner and then go hang out with his buddies. It used to make me very upset!! He told me once it is because he feels he deserves the time because he works!!!(snort) I asked him what he thought I did all day?? He said play with the kids(snort) Rest assured I quickly taught him a WELL DESERVED lesson he stayed home from work for two days so I could visit my mother in another state,after arguing he couldn't,! I went, had a blast called home twice and recieved griping both from the kids and their father! I came home and the house was utter chaos!! Granted after that I got my Free night everytime he did and we choose three nights a month to just be by ourselves . He said he had no clue how hard,stressful,and extremely trying raising children can be! he also learned that there is more to being a good parent than just playtimes! Our home is much more relaxed and so am I. Most guys are clueless when it comes to being with kids 24/7. Most always will be! But some realize how trying it can be.
2007-08-26 22:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by julia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a nice idea, if my husband decided to go out any time without considering me first he would be sorry!! I just think that the women shouldn't put up with it, it is ok sometimes but lay down the laws about these things before a partner thinks that it is normal and fine. I need my help and my family time on weekends and every night, my husband will go out at night to see his friends maybe once a month or every 2 months and pretty much every weekend is spent with me and our daughter, I won't have it any other way and he knows it. ** And to the person who said women need to own homes, our names are on the title too!!!!! A family cannot exist without someone to take care of the house and children and you can either pay for someone else to do it so both partners can work or a stay at home parent can sacrifice their careers and their lives to look after their family themselves. All mothers deserve respect to to hell with you if you don't give it!
2007-08-19 03:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by SmEllY! 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You can't have a nice Saturday afternoon with your kids? - how sad. I'm assuming he works hard to pay for tickets and lunch in the corporates suite, that doesn't come cheap. I know mine does and I'd never begrudge him his football! Just as he doesn't begrudge my interest which happens to be dance - he doesn't come, but he has no problem with me going to those events. Both of us quite like our home, so we don't mind being 'stuck'. in it.
If your question was more along the lines of you both being able to spend time with the kids as a family........I might understand!
2007-08-19 05:12:49 · answer #7 · answered by groovymaude 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The female of the species stays at home and looks after the young.
This is the way of things in the world. Women nurture and men gather and hunt. If you have a problem with this after millions of years of evolution then take it up with Mother Nature herself.
How many men do I know who go to lunch "in corporate suits"?.....None.
Stop moaning at us poor guys having a beer after a hard weeks work.
2007-08-19 08:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the best Saturday afternoon can be spend only in the company of your children. Only a very screwed up mind can expect a payment for something like this/
2007-08-20 08:58:39 · answer #9 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two views:
1. Today both parents have to go out to work to get enough dosh in for their family, this leaves the children without a clear knowledge of what's going on in the household and may indeed lead to behavioural problems in later teenage years.
2. The traditional view is that mothers DO stay in the house and bring up the children whilst the fathers go out and earn for his family.
Which one are you? Jealousy can also affect any relationship
2007-08-19 09:02:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
WHOAA NELLY.....
if this relationship has some type of "dictatorship" set up where the woman "trains" the man, then failure is eminent.
> Where do YOU - GET OFF - thinking "marriage" or "relationship" is about "training" anyone ???
This isn't pet ownership here, it is humans loving humans.
That is where you folks made your mistake from the start, now we know why the divorce rate is soo high.
Now I see why I am divorced... because I was "untrainable".
I didn't go to sporting events to have a few beers w/friends, or lunch in corporate suits, then a few more drinks, etc, etc.
I was at home taking care of my 2 sons.
Oh, because she had no feelings for one of them when he was only 13 months old.
I guess I am the exception.
F U
2007-08-19 03:48:09 · answer #11 · answered by ccchevydude 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋