Am I GAY I Dont Know?

Question

Ok, So I have had a girlfriend and I had my first kiss with her, and I really felt something, we kissed for like 3 hours no kidding! But I am physically attracted to guys more than girls, but no matter the guys personality I am not mentally attracted to them. They could be really nice, and act like one of my best friends that is a girl but I wouldn't like him mentally. I get along with girls alot more than guys, and I am still kind of attracted to girls. But I am attracted to guys more so physically, I dont know what I should do! Alot of people at my school think I am gay, and I really dont know why! Probably cuz' all my friends are girls, but they really dont know! Anyways... Help!

Answer 1

If you get hard for guys and not girls then your gay and afraid to admit it even to yourself.

Answer 2

First, how old are you? Pretty young, I'm guessing. It's ok, but I asked because it would give an idea of what stage of your life you're in, which would explain a bit your uncertainty over your sexuality.

Second, the others are right. You may be bisexual....then again, you may not be. Where the men are concerned, is it possible that you admire them instead of are attracted to them? I don't know. Maybe not, but I had to ask. My advice is, think about it a lot. Ask yourself what you like about certain guys and why those things attract you. Then think about the girls you find attractive and make a list of those things as well as why you like them. If you are bisexual, the two lists should be similar in a few areas...not all, but a few. It seems a bit strange that you don't feel a mental attraction to the men if you feel that for the girls, but that could just be because of the stage you are in your self discovery. Have patience and take the time to figure things out before you declare yourself gay, straight or bisexual. Don't label yourself before you're ready to accept everything about that label and what it means....and don't let others label you either. It is possible (but rare) for certain guys to be straight, but have a lot of female friends. All that would mean to me is that you must be a very good listener and perhaps friend. Nothing wrong with that and might be something other guys envy about you because most guys I know don't know the first thing about talking to a girl and they definitely don't know how to be friends with one without wanting something physical out of the relationship. A few guys, however, are evolved enough to know how to be a friend instead of wondering about the boy/girl stuff.

Anyway, I know none of this is exactly a dead on declaration on what you're going through. Sorry about that, but the only one that can really answer that question would be you. Just examine all possibilities and do what you think is right for you.

Good luck

Answer 3

CALM DOWN

First this isn't something you decide as a one time question in the middle of the night.

Second this is about life experience and about getting to know who you really are.

Third keep your mind open and do what feels natural. You don't have to be gay, or straight, or bi, or anything else.

Sexuality is fluid for most people, and most labels are a convenience item. I'm "gay" but I don't necessarily rule out having sex with a woman, I just know that there are a very very few that I would consider, whereas with guys, "NO" is not in my vocabulary. :)

Do what you're comfortable with and you'll eventually find an answer. Just don't get hung up on putting a label on yourself.

Answer 4

Hmm. It sounds like you are probably gay.

Really.

That's what I think.

Just because you think you can't have feelings for a guy, doesn't mean you're not gay.

Trust me, if you think the sausage between another man's legs is hot or sexy, then you are at least bi. And you even said that you are far more attracted to guys than you are girls.

I think you may be being hard on yourself because gay isn't "the norm". And some people think you're gay because you probably are. You just need to find the right man.

Good luck in whatever you decide. Just promise me that you will accept yourself for who you are eventually, OK?

^_^

Answer 5

The way I see it, there are two types of attraction. Mental and physical. Each of which can be a different type of interest (i.e. Heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, ect.).

In your case, you could be physically bi, meaning you are attracted to both guys and girls, and mentally straight.

Answer 6

Now kiss a boy for 3 hours, no kidding, and you will know.

Answer 7

You could be bisexual. Check out this link. It won't give you answers but it *will* give you a great starting point because only you know for certain who you're attracted to.

http://www.youthnetsouthampton.org.uk/breakout/kleingrid.php

Answer 8

there may be allot of things going on with your life that cause you to question your sexuality the thing is you dont have to decide now dont push yourself eventually the answer will come to you. dont let other people push you one way or another. keep your head up the answer will come.

Answer 9

don't label yourself. what are you a package of pringles 99% fat free? barbecue flavor, just be yourself and do whatever you want. within reason of course. Whom are you trying to be what for? hmmm? What does the answer to that question mean?

Answer 10

let me ,watch you & another girl getcha freak on 4 at least an hour or 2 and i'll tell you what's going on with you. note: must be 18 or older 4 me to watch.