I've moved back home and I HATE it!?

Question

I recently let my husband because I think he's cheating on me so I caught a plane and moved back to Florida with my mom since I thought she might be lonely since my younger sister recently went away to college. But a week later, my brother, his wife and their spoiled brats moved in, too. Now, my mom has put me out of the room I was using just so she could give it to those kids and my brother and his wife are sleeping in my sister's room. My sister in law is very pushy, and I hate her so much. She tries to act like my mom is hers and she always uses my things and my mom tells her it's okay. My mom also always takes her side and agreed with her when she said I should just get a job and move out! But I'm not ready to do that yet, because I'm upset about my husband. Plus, the brats are really annoying! What should I do?

Answer 1

I am sorry to hear about your husband cutie! Things will get better I promise. I am a soldier in Iraq right now for the second time and when I was here the first time in 2003, my now exwife left me and took everything to include my 3 kids. I havnt seen or heard from them since. I was very hurt (naturally), and I decided to get out of the Army for a little while and I too moved back home. I can definately feel your pain. My sisters where there with their husbands and kids and I was just the fifth wheel. The only thing you can do honestly is either put up with it and stay out of everyones way, or actually find somone else who will take care of you properly and will give you motivation to earn enough cashola to move out on your own. It was very hard for me to get back on my feet and my grieving process was long an arduous, but I did it and so can you. Look at me now! I am in the same place where my life so drastically changes so many years ago...You can do it cutie! Just keep positive and dont let the others bring you down! Remember, SMILE! Life is precious and so are you! Good Luck!

Answer 2

Right now you sound like the one who is being a brat. You chose to move back in with your mom, so you will have to deal with the living arrangements that are less than ideal.
You're simply going to have to deal with the changes at her house, or move out. It's that simple. I'm sure that this situation is hard enough on your mother with everyone moving back and imposing on her, so why not try to avoid adding to that?
It's her house, and she has a right to welcome them into her home also. Why would you think that your comfort and your needs are more important then anyone else's?
It is difficult when you have to move back home, but you need to keep in mind that the world doesn't just revolve around you and your needs. Just move and then you have things exactly how you want them to be.

Answer 3

Based only on the information you gave, you should get a job and move out - quickly. You need space and solitude to sort out your life issues. Your brother's family needs the space you are occupying and your mother seems to be doing all she can to silently give you the message that she wants you gone, too. Of everyone in the family, you are the key to the happiness puzzle, whether you are "ready" to do it or not. You sound very unhappy and that will only add to the general unhappiness everyone is feeling. To say you were there first and expect to have what you need, under the circumstances, is childish. It is obvious that it is you who will need to move on.

Answer 4

I truly understand, its like you are stuck. Do you have any friends or someone you could move in with. If I were you I would have me any job and rent a room somewhere instead of putting up with all that. You don't have to be treated that way and don't let them. Move as soon as you can, believe it won't get better just worse.

Answer 5

You should try to work things out with your husband. You claim that you THINK he is cheating on you. Unless you have HARD CORE evidence that he is, how do you know for sure? Give him benefit of the doubt, and move back home with him, and try to make it work. No matter what, you need to get ouf of your mothers home, it sounds like a 3 ring circus is going on there. You married your husband and said your vows, and now you should try to stick to them, and talk with him to find out exactly what happened. It's best to try to work things out, rather than assume things.

Answer 6

Get a job and move out. It isn't your house, it is your mothers. If you don't like what's going on there, move as soon as you possibly can. It will be the best thing for you to do anyway, you are too old to be living off your mom.