How Do You Personally...Gain The Trust Of Strangers?

Question

LORD Z: All basic assumption groups require leaders, but this is a personified leadership located in one person who is expected to do all that is necessary to accomplish the group’s basic task. I’m surprised your teacher did not foresee this. Or perhaps he did...but reveled in the idea of your class offering you to the Gods.

I wouldn’t be all too proud of a unanimous vote for me to be leader. Such leadership positions exist not by gain, but only by permission of the class. One survives only as long as s/he fulfills the primary task at hand. However, since this task contains impossible elements—to be omnipotent...to know without being told—failure is the future and replacement is inevitable...

Answer 1

It is gut feeling. There are people I know I can trust instantly. There are those who I meet and immediately turn my back and walk away. Some just have the smell and you know instantly to lock your door on them.

Answer 2

A while back my wife made a unilateral decision to join one of the (in my opinion) pyramid schemes called "Amway". This was a long time ago, say 7 years. I didn't care for the company but, to support my wife I alloted her so much money a month to invest in this venture. I also had to participate in the sales approach since I was her husband and this irritated me to no end. However, even as a disgruntled investor, I was 20 times better at giving out this prepared presentation, mainly because I never followed the guidelines prescribed in their bylaws. I just gave the crowd the bare essentials and eye balled their reactions for interest in one part or another. Some liked the at home shopping, others the "potential" for added income, but, most just wanted to be part of a crowd. Actually most didn't want to be involved! Anyway, I think I gain trust because I can pick out those who have different interests and focus on those interests till they feel comfortable with me. That would make me a decent salesperson, but, I HATE SALES!!!! Thank God my wife was lied to by her sponsor or I would still be a hypocrite selling a company I don't care for too much.

Answer 3

Personally,

I walk up to them and strike up a conversation.

It works 95 times out of a 100.

And, Yes; that means I deliberately go out and talk to strangers all the time to know that 95% of the people I meet like me enough to keep talkng to me and in time , it varies, become my friend.

I was taught how to dialogue people at an early age and I use it for all sorts of things.

I taught it to a friend/student once and in thirty minutes he could get almost any woman out of a club and into his car or apartment which was the friend's goal. I taught it to a couple of other friends/students and they used it to get invited into accelerated Philosophy and History programs. Of course I had to teach them how to do research papers as well. I taught it to a bunch of sales people and they all exceeded their goals but 40% or more and most of them received promotions within a year. I taught it to a couple of other guys and they used it to become a judge and an attorney general. Of course, they were rich which helps if you are planning on going into politics.

I remember using in a college class and the Professor was trying to make a point about individuality and freedom. He made the mistake of asking the class who they thought should be the leader of the class assuming that they would all pick themselves. Unanimously, they all picked me. He said "But he could be some crazed racistic, sexist, anti-semetic who will make you all do things that you don't want to." They looked at him and said "He is not like that." Needless to say he was not happy having to try and sell me as the bad guy, especially since he had to see me for two classes in a row each. He doubled as an Ethics professor. After class I told him, he must not have taught the Communist Manifesto in a while or he would have realized that people always tend to push off authority on those they feel are enlightened and willing to serve. He told me that he never had that problem before. I told him "Well, we have another class together if you want to go double or nothing." The results were not unanimous but I won again, proving a point: Always talk to strngers because you may never know when you will need a friend.

Oh yea, it helps not to have an agenda when you make all of these friends. It is okay to use them, just not okay to plan to use them. There just seems to come a time when they realize things are better with you than without you and favors come your way.

Answer 4

I work with patients who are anxious and often in pain. They have chronic health problems and may have failed at previous treatments. So,when I meet them they can be mistrustful because of past experiences. The first thing I do is tell them who I am and what I am there for. I make good eye contact. If the person does not mind being touched, I often will hold their hand while I am talking to them. This seems to help decrease their anxiety. Next, if I have to do any kind of procedure, I explain what I am doing before and while I am doing it. I tell them to inform me if they are too uncomfortable. If they are, I stop what I am doing until they are able to proceed again. Sometimes this means medicating them for pain and waiting until the medication has taken effect. I will usually see these people mutiple times. If they know that I will listen to them, explain things and try to make them comfortable, I am able to gain their trust.

Answer 5

I dont. I guess to a point i could. But it takes me asking them questions, them asking in return. Me learning more about them and getting to understand them. So maybe then they arent truely strangers? Whatever you want to call them, i gain trust through them by getting to know them. I cant trust many people. Just a few people i really do trust.

Answer 6

I am very friendly towards strangers! I always greet them and smile! I had years in the retail business where I greeted hundreds of strangers on a daily basis! It is second nature to me!

Answer 7

Being meek and considerate usually seems to gain trust, but have to be careful not to become a doormat.

Answer 8

The same way I gain a dogs trust. Give them things like: compliments, gifts, beer, food, clothing, invites. Things that will open them up.

Answer 9

Just talking to them opening up a little smiling,being honest ,being myself.

Answer 10

I have no methodology; no box of goodies, attitude or manipulations. I earn it, in the same way they earn mine.