We're separated. My husband helps me financially. He
takes me to movies, dinner. We are seeing a counselor.
We've been separated 4 months now. I don't see him coming
running to me and wanting to live together again. Does he
want to take it slow or is it over.I dont know if to continue and
let it run its course or just end the marriage.
2007-08-18 18:52:23 · 12 answers · asked by Mrs. Naive 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I suggest that you talk to your marriage counselor about how you need to confront your husband on what his intentions are. The timing of it is irrelevant.
2007-08-18 19:03:48 · answer #1 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your counselor say should happen? Are you in counseling together or separately? There really isn't a set time limit to get back together. Some things take time to work out. It sounds like you husband is showing you he still loves you. Try thinking of this as a courtship all over again. When the time is right to move back in together, you both will know it.
2007-08-19 02:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been separated for almost 3 years and it isn't enough yet to know whether to end the marriage or not. It's all about how badly you want to give in and who left whom. It might be a good idea to wait him out and let him be the one to decide when he's ready to come back home. Are you seeing other people or dating each other exclusively? You should ask him during one of your counseling sessions what his plans are. Tell him you can't wait forever for him to make a decision.
2007-08-19 02:06:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention why you are separated. From what you have said it looks like he might not be ready to call it quits just yet. I do know of couples living separately but still married although I don't understand the logic. This one I might just wait out to see which way the wind is blowing. Do you want a divorce? Do you have a boyfriend? Are you getting horny? Why are you worried about rushing into anything? Let the counselor do their job.
2007-08-19 02:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel if he's still around after 4 months and is helping you with finances and taking you out he still has feelings and is trying to work through whatever caused the break up. I admire the fact that you both go to counseling and i feel you both are mature in the fact you sought out that counseling. Hang in there for a while and see where this takes you both. And good-luck and God-bless. I wish i had been as lucky as you and had had those options.
2007-08-19 02:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by d831virgo3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only been 4 months. If things are proceeding well at this point, what's the rush to get a divorce? Give it a reasonable amount of time.
2007-08-19 02:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want to do? Are you willing to give it more time or do you want to forge ahead start a new life? Set a time limit as to how long you are willing to wait for a change. And stick to it.
2007-08-19 02:06:05 · answer #7 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has been committing adultery, divorce him. He must be seeing someone else, because no guy is going to go 4 months without sex.
If he doesn't want you for who you are, if he says you have to change before he will come back. Tell him not to come back, because you are who you are and if he doesn't love you for that then, tell him to go away.
2007-08-19 02:01:43 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should be asking HIM these questions. Obviously that's WHY your marriage is in trouble, you don't communicate.
2007-08-19 02:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is your husband you know him better than we do... check your heart for this one what does it tell you to do... i would wait no longer than a year
2007-08-19 02:42:24 · answer #10 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋