is my best friend after my husband... or am i being paranoid?

Question

my best friend is getting a divorce. she's been at our house A LOT lately (as you'd expect). BUT, she keeps saying to my husband "do you have a brother just like you?" (he has no siblings). and we went out to dinner tonight and she said "people will probably think i'm your other wife and we're all a happy morman family". my husband went to bed before she left tonight and when she was leaving she stepped just inside the doorway to my bedroom to see if he was in there... here's the thing, i KNOW she's had affairs with married men before... i know she has some low self esteem because of the relationship she's getting out of... AM I BEING PARANOID? these are not the ONLY things she's said... but that's the things she said TODAY.

Answer 1

Mormons (correct spelling btw) do not have more then one wife. sorry that's just something that is a very irritating misconception.

You trust your husband right? That's all that should matter. Your friend could think what she's saying/doing is funny. You need to let her know that it's bothering you and you do not think its appropriate. and if she says "you're just being paranoid" Tell her she should respect your relationship. A true friend would not do something like this.

Answer 2

I don't think you're being paranoid. If you're uncomfortable with their relationship, you need to let your husband know. Trust me, I've been here before, except it was with a boyfriend/fiance. I gave him the benefit of the doubt, thinking he wouldn't do that to me. I had a bad vibe that he was cheating on me but I didn't want to say something and be wrong. The girl was introduced to me as a friend but I later found out they were actually dating. He had told her I was his bestest friend with benefits, rather than girlfriend/fiance, and the girl was okay with it. I felt stupid in the end, cause he played me and I could have avoided being as hurt as I was if I had just asked questions when I started getting the bad vibes. So speaking from experience, I would advise you to let him know the relationship between him and her is bothering you, that you feel uncomfortable with their relationship. I'm not saying your husband is cheating with his friend, I'm just saying 9 times out of 10, if you have a bad vibe or feeling about something, you're probably right. I learned that the hard way. Since the breakup with that dog of a fiance, I learned to listen to my bad vibes/feelings. I've found that I always get my vibes for a reason. I may not like the outcome, but at least I don't get made out to be the fool in the end again.

Answer 3

You are NOT being paranoid. She's after your husband. Since she's not happy, she does not want anyone else happy, specially you. There are no such thing as best friends when you're married, even when the friend is married too.

Keep her away, never know if your husband might fall in her trap. Drop her immediately, better to lose a "Friend" than your husband. You can find other Friends easier than you can find another husband.

Answer 4

I don't think you're being paranoid at all, your friend is out of line. Even though she may be going through a tough time because of HER divorce, doesn't give her permission to try to set out to ruin your marriage! I would STOP HER IN HER TRACKS right now! Let her know you're on to her, and she will have to stop coming over. If she wants to see you, then it will have to be somewhere other then your house. At least when your husband is home. Otherwise, you will be the one going through the divorce.

Answer 5

HI You are not being paranoid she is after your husband and it is happening right under your nose,,, look don't even be surprised is they had sex already,,, hey it happen to me ,,and you would never think that your best friend would do something to you like that ,,but let me tell you sometimes you think that there your best friend and they are only doing it to get closer to your husband,,, look i am not saying that all best friends are like that ,,,,,,,,,,,,but when you have that gut feeling ,,, you better believe that its true,,,open your eyes you are not paranoid something is really going on,,
i hope that everything goes well for you ,
good luck
Leena

Answer 6

she is loosing her husband so i do not think its paranoid at all to think she may have idea's. if u were smart u would distance yourself from her and keep her out of your home. if she has had affairs with married men in the past whats to stop her from having one with your husband, best friend or not. focus on your own marriage, let her deal with her own problems, and keep this woman out of your home and away from your hubby.

Answer 7

I don,t think it,s paranoia,it,s justified.She isn,t being discreet about her feelings and is practically throwing herself at your husband in a non verbal way.I would have as little to do with her as possible and end the so called friendship with her now. A real friend wouldn,t act that way and she deliberately hurt your feelings.She isn,t friendship material for anyone.I would also discuss it with your husband,is he trustworthy?If not your in for a world of hurt in the future.If he is and truly loves you he,ll have no problem putting the homewrecker in her place.Best of luck.

Answer 8

I wouldn't like that either. She doesn't sound like a very good friend. I would put a stop to it by telling her she is being inappropriate with my husband.....then find other things to do, be busy and get her out of my life. Who needs a friend like this?

Answer 9

your not paranoid, keep a close eye on her dont turn away from her but make it clear where you stand. I think you should talk to your husband too just to let him know what you suspect

Answer 10

Yuck. I have one of those. Shes my roomie. Crazy person. BEST FRIEND. yeah. right. I wouldnt worry though. Your hubby loves YOU, dude. He married YOU. Have you asked him what he thought? He most likely doesnt give it a thought. If she is like you say, she'll get bored by no response and hawk eye another poor couple. Not a friend. A pitiful, lonely person. Thats all.