How Do I get my wife back or to love me again?

Question

OK well we are separated and have been for almost five months now. We have two kids and one on the way. She is 800 miles away. We talk almost everyday. but when we do she just confuses me more and more into an almost insane state of mind. She says its over and then she will call back and say I'm sorry you know its not. She say im just so confused. i know she isnt cheating because she is pregnant with my baby. recently she sent a discreet pic of herself. its like she has one foot still with me and one foot out the door.

Answer 1

You need to pray for your wife. Read the book called "The Power of a Praying Husband".

https://rejoiceministries.org/devotion.php

Answer 2

As long as you're still talking, there's hope!

One of the best keys I ever heard for getting someone back was to revert to the way you were when you were dating. Ok you can't exactly date so far apart but you can talk to her like you did when you were first so enamored with her.

Tell her all the things you fell in love with about her. Be VERY detailed. Let her have your love full bore and don't give up. Send her flowers, cards, gifts, call her sometimes just to simply say "I love you" and hang up. Send her a telegram and tell her something that's precious about her. Tell her how much you want your baby. Woo her, love her, adore her and don't argue, don't criticize, don't get angry.

Forget your past arguments for now and help her to remember your great times together. Send her pictures of you and her together at a happy time. Remind her of things that will make her laugh.

If you can make her feel good about the two of you again, and, in particular, about how you feel about her, anything is possible. You still might need counseling together but woo her back first. If she won't come to you, fly out to see her and don't take no for an answer. Bring something really silly with you to the door--a dozen teddy bears, a handful of helium balloons, a hundred roses--anything that will make you look like you're foolishly, hopelessly in love. Few women can resist true love!

Answer 3

And she has you right where she wants you. Stuck in limbo, hanging on for even a crumb. You are both adults and it is time that she starts acting like one. If she needs more time to decide whether to continue on in the marriage, then give her the time. But do not let her force you into giving up the right to be a father to the children you have or the one on the way. Be there for them, however you can make that happen. But set a reasonable amount of time to wait for her decision and don't let her force you into playing these games. Too much is at stake. Like your future and that of your children.

Answer 4

She must have left for a pretty serious reason if she left with 2 kids and one on the way.... And the fact that you didn't even mention the reason makes me wonder if you are in denial of the problem.... Quit talking to her everyday and think about the truth.

Answer 5

You can't fix a marriage from 800 miles apart - period.

Either fix the distance & get into counseling - or get the divorce and get on with your life.

Answer 6

Use reverse tactics on her, don't be mean just become distant and unconcerned. Don't call her, find something else to do. She knows you are insecure and she is using it against you. This really works if you can hold out. She will come around to find out why you are not the insecure one any longer, she will want to know what you are doing, she will become the insecure one. Watch her come running back to you.

Answer 7

Believe me, she wants out!! Permanently.. Only that she does not know how to tell you directly without hurting your feelings.. Let her go.. You live a new life!

Answer 8

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