I've never had a real relationship. Never have I been introduced as "hey, this is my girlfriend". That's a bit weird don't you think? I've seen guys but I can't seem to sustain anything to the point of gf status. Four months is absolute tops, then it ends.
I graduated college; I have a great job, I'm pretty smart, I don't think I am bad looking; I mean guys do check me out and people comment.
I swear; I'm not messed up LOL As far as abnormalties, I mean, I cut half of a finger off on my left hand, but that ain't bad and you can't even notice.
My lawyers like to compare my abnormal relationship past due to my fathers death and whatever psychological bs that came with the event, but really... could there really be any relation there?
I never used to care, I always said I have lots of time and that someday it would just happen; but I'm almost 22. I'm starting to think somethings wrong with me.
Whats your take on it? Plz don't tell me to wait it out, that don't work (obviously)
2007-08-18 18:12:40 · 9 answers · asked by yayachicky 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Do you know this is an impossible question to answer since we know so little about you, the people surrounding you, your hobbies, habits, mannerisms, beliefs, etc? The only thing I can think is that you are either trying to hard or not trying hard enough. Sticky and tricky I know, but it requires balance. Smile. God loves you.
2007-08-18 18:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lawyers??
There could indeed be a connection between your fathers death and your present relationship status (or lack there of.) Most especially if you and your father where close. It would make it hard (on a fundamental level) to commit to something if in the past, the man you where totally in love with, suddenly was taken. It also may have made you overly cautious?? Afraid as it were to put your heart out there? I am trying to glean allot of info from this paragraph you wrote. Hope I am at least getting close to the mark.
2007-08-18 18:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by WstCotter G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's 22,a catch?[remember an old novel-"Catch 22"].It was hilarious but deep down quite sad.You are in a 'Situation' and affected by it,in a particular way.With that changing,every thing connected has to change and in all probability, for the better.Don't have to wait and pray,wait for WHAT?Like others,you were also affected by your father's death and like others,it's going to be fine.Sit down and take a stock of your life,every day for at least an hour,rework and re arrange things as you wish them to be, with pros and cons.You know how to go about it from here. it's not really know how,What I can make out is ,when you wish to begin is the issue.So,if you really mean that you cant wait,then show it your self.Your time starts,NOW.Wish you all the best and a lot more.
2007-08-18 18:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to rush anything and your desires will fall in place at the right time. You have the means for getting a long term relationship. Get busy and creative in other things of life and what you are wanting will give lots of options to choose. Just be friendly and outgoing in association and you will bingo.
2007-08-18 22:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! 21 and not yet tied down with a hubby and kids? You have it made from how you describe it. Have you considered trying a reputable Match Maker? Be sure of the persons reputation and track record first-but that may help you connect with more serious minded guys than what you have found on your own.
2007-08-18 18:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by PrivacyNowPlease! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lawyers? well, anyway - yes your fathers death may have something to do with your relationships. It affected mine. And it seems to be the concensus with studies done on girls/womens relationships and the relationships with their fathers.
you really only described the 'outside' of you - do you have like serious issues with trust in relationships? are you controlling?
or....could be you just haven't found the right guy for you
2007-08-18 18:22:17 · answer #6 · answered by Kmmv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realtionships start later for some people, and it does take time to sart a relationship. Some people are more successful at relationships then others. Just get to know more people, and you should be fine.
2007-08-19 03:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys might have too much respect for you to call you their girlfriend. That can cause them to feel threatened.
You almost have to "cheapen" yourself by being flirty and smile a lot at get guys. Show single guys your "Available" so that your next boyfriend will want to "claim" you, by calling you his "girlfriend".
2007-08-18 18:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, you have lawyers telling you what to do? maybe the guys just think your...
2007-08-18 18:16:55 · answer #9 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋