Can a relationship survive domestic violence?

Question

My significant other and I were intoxicated and a disagreement got out of hand. It escalated into him close fist punching me in the face. He called the police. He was charged with domestic violence. The argument was pointless, it was mostly alcohol that was the problem. We have both sworn off it permentantly. Can a relationship get over something like this if both partners are willing to go through extensive counseling or once this happens do you call it quits?

Answer 1

i am a recovering abuser.after 1 1/2 years of DV treatment ,2 years of drug treatment,and 6 months in jail , i now know that there are other ways to express my anger without getting involved in a physical confrontation. Communication is the key.Always LISTEN to your partner and hear what they are saying.Drugs ,for me ,had closed that avanue down .i have been clean and sober for 22 months now.It is the best thing I have ever done for myself.my family,and for anyone around me.My lifepartner has stood beside me and she and our son have been my greatest support team.They are very happy with the new person that I have become.In answer to your question,yes a relationship can survive ,but only with a lot of hard work.It is not easy.One more thing,after 16 years of living togeather we are about to tye the knot.It has been a long hard road but we have become stronger then ever. Good luck and i hope that if you truly care about each other you can make things work in a positive direction for you.

Answer 2

Based on the things I've seen I say no. Your case seems hopeful because you both accept responsibility and have jointly decided to work on fixing it.


I highly adivse that if there is ever a second incdent to end the realtionship for a more healthier one.

Answer 3

yes if this was really a one time thing and both parties had a role in it, I would suggest counseling and staying sober. If it happens again no matters who fault you're better off apart

Answer 4

not in thelong run, no... this is the FIRST SUGn to it all going downhill UNLESS he comes to you within three hours, apologizes, seeks counsling and NEVER does it again. otherwise it is the beginning of an abusive long-term relationship which will destroy you and any children involved
GET OUT NOW, as much as it hurts, or it will hurt worse later, i promise

Answer 5

Yeah if you think it was becuase of the alcochol then i would take a break from that. I think a relationship can survive domestic violence. once...

Answer 6

YES YES YES. Realize the mistakes and dont do them anymore.Get off the alcohol until you can become mature adult drinkers.Thats if you can. You both may be alcoholics.But yes if you love him and he loves you......get the help you may need. ie .....anger contol...AAA......WHATEVER IT TAKES. TRUE LOVE ENDURES ALL THINGS.