I hope someone can help.?

Question

I have an 11 year old son who is autistic, but he doesn't look it. What I mean is, he is very talkative, especially about trains, somewhat hyper, very smart in school and gets really good grades. He's starting 5th grade in about 10 days.

My problem with him is discipline. He likes to use my things, (cell phone, TV, computer) especially without permission, and I don't like that. He will ask permission, and more often than not, I will say no, because he doesn't know, or doesn't care, to take care of them, so I say no a lot. On rare occasions, I'll let him use my computer, to play games on it. Suffice it to say, he doesn't like to hear the word "no", and has expressed that to me many times. I like to keep my stuff in working order, but he does not share that sentiment. I have tried banning him from using my things, but he just takes them and hides.

I need to know something that will stop him from taking my things and hiding them from me. Any ideas will be tried. Thank you.

Answer 1

Adolescents is a hard time as they think they are always right. He must learn that without permission he will loose priviledges or that trust will be lost between the two of you. For example, my son would watch tv/play computer games without permission and I would catch him countless times and he would act like he was not doing it and how could I call him a lair. I ended up disconnecting the tv/internet (with warning the last time I caught him) from the basement for a whole month (I would reconnect when I needed it but he doesn't know that this could be done - I just told him something is wrong with the set). 'No' is not a strong enough word for them at this stage you must make consequences for their action. Also, you have to tell them that trust has to be built back into the relationship. Good luck and no more gray hairs lol.

Answer 2

Although I think your methods are entirely flawed, I will give some input. If the therapies you issued onto your son does not extend to those actions, the proper action is make plans to correct his behavior, and teach him by any means possible. The cycle must press on, and he must be corrected, but not too brutal or inhumane. Unless you have money, and time to spare, teach him yourself, don't rely on therapies that seldom work in a flash. Rely on more scrupulous, cheap, and easy ways to help your child.

here's advice from your neighborhood friendly Immortal ninja!

Answer 3

whenever he takes your things instead of using the word no,( since he does not like it ) then tell him that it is wrong for him to take things and hide them, specially when this are someone else things. Another thing, explain to him that when he brakes something by accident that he used without permission it would be impossible for him to use it again since it is broken.

Answer 4

kids with autism have hard time understand things from another persons point of view. Do you qualify for any state services? Perhaps you could work with a behavioral therapist to help him change his behavior.

Answer 5

im not so good at taking care of children b//c i do not have any yet but i would watch shows that help ppl take care of children and households like Nanny 911 or Supernanny

Answer 6

buy him a toy and tell him if he takes care of it he can use yr cell phone...(or whatever item)
ask him how he would feel if u broke his fave toy..try to get him to understand those items have value to u, and he should take care of something that doesn't belong to him.

good luck...

Answer 7

It may seem a bit extreme but tell him not to and when he doesn't listen slap him upside the head.

Answer 8

no idea....