Why don't I come during sex?

Question

It's not that it doesn't feel good, I just never climax and I'm not sure why.

Answer 1

Uh, because you're a woman. As you're probably aware, for most women the vagina isn't a sensitive or pleasurable enough area that a few minutes of something going in-out will make them come. What makes you come when you're masturbating? Figure that out first, if you haven't already, and then work on incorporating it into sex. Like getting your partner to rub your clit at the same time. Or different positions, some are better for women or hit the G-spot more, woman sitting on top is meant to be one of those. If it feels good that's a good start, see if your partner can maybe last longer, or get you more worked up before hand.

Answer 2

To begin, I feel the need to point out that you may not be able to climax if you are not ready for sex or for sex with that partner. From here I will work with the assumption that you are of sound mind and in a positive situation that leads to the desire to be intimate. One possible issue may be that your partner may not know what he is doing, most people don't at first and some are slower to learn. Some ways to overcome this issure are figuring out on your own what works and telling your partner what to do, experimenting together to find what works for you (if you don't feel comfortable asking your partner to work with you on this, that could be a sign that you don't belong with that person), finding someone with whom everything just works and it may just happen. Sex is not only about the physical stimulation all the time and many more factors can affect your ability to come. Some people can climax easily but for some it takes the right person, mood, feelings, thoughts, moves and general situation. Keep in mind that (as my mother put it during our "talk") "sex isn't really like it is in the movies".

I hope that all made sense and helps in some way.

Answer 3

It's all psychological my dear. Next time get out of your head and into your body. Focus on what feels really good and those feelings will intensify. You also must try thinking of your ultimate fantasy while having sex. Try to JUST focus on your fantasy, nothing else in the room. Come up with your ultra hot fantasy while masterbating and practice feeling those good sensations all over, then bring your new found knowledge into the bedroom. It'll take some time so don't get down on yourself. Plus, sex shouldn't always be about the big "O". Sex is abount connecting. Society today has somehow turned sex into an all out sport and the point of the game is the orgasm. Nope Nope Nope. The more comfortable you are with your partner the more relaxed you'll be. Do NOT feel bad about your fantasies either. They can involve a transvestite sheep dog for all I care. Your fantasies are your fantasies and they are what get you off and excited. No fantasy is a bad one. Remember that. Even if you think of other women, or even if your not thinking of your mate, it's not wrong to fantasize about what turns you on.

Answer 4

Does your partner stimulate your clitoris? Do you climax during masturbation?

Most women do not climax with vaginal sex. You likely need more foreplay, more rubbing with fingers and tongue. Ask your partner to play more before hand, maybe try to get you to climax first with hand and oral stimulation before penetration.

Answer 5

because he comes before you get the chance. if he could last longer you might be able too. you could try getting close to orgasm through oral sex or manual stim before he enters you. then maybe you can orgasm before he does. but, i think a lot of women have this problem.