2007-08-18 17:43:41 · 12 answers · asked by TRAF 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I tended to be quiet/shy in a lot of cases, and in some cases I was too open and talked too much, probably annoyingly so.
As MATT said, a person should try to adapt to it and work around it. Trying to 'overcome' shyness, I've found, can be very tricky. A person can encounter a lot of embarassment when trying to prove that he/she is not shy.
2007-08-19 05:54:49 · update #1
However, I have noticed that 'big personalities' that fail at 'dazzleing em with brilliance', will then 'baffle em with B.S.' - and that method seems to work for them, while the quiet types sit back in wonderment.
2007-08-19 05:59:52 · update #2
Not necessarily. I'm a shy person and i think my way of dealing with it is having a independent personality. You see, if someone has a 'big personality' than they generally become involved with more people and in return care more about what people think. However, if you're shy you're generally dealing with less people but than the people you do talk to you can have a more closer relationship with.
When it comes to business type of relationship with other people, i do find it sometimes hard to stand up for myself. However, i learned to accept it on small things and it doesn't bother me anymore.
I think, unless you're trying to fight it. If you learn to become independent and don't worry what other people think than it becomes significantly easier being shy. Though you should know the difference between independence and too much withdrawnness.
Rationalizing may also help, i.e. if you overcome a personal problem than when you feel shy just try comparing it abstractly to the one that you overcame and it generally becomes easier to work it out.
There are many people that are shy, you just don't hear about them 'because' they are shy. But as you can imagine that many people can't all be miserable, so it basically comes down to all being individual's with everybody having different adaptations and ways of dealing with it. But the main thing to remember is that you have to find your own way of adapting and dealing to these situations until you find a way to live 'your' live happily.
Edit: I do find shy people using their mind more because they sometimes have to find ways to work around a situation...
2007-08-18 18:31:46 · answer #1 · answered by Matt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it does'nt have to be. But I believe it is easier going through life with a big personality than being quiet/shy. I think you earn more respect that way, and you take more chances, and therefore you are more fulfilled and happy. I've been quiet and shy my whole life but I do have a big personality in my own little ways.
2007-08-19 00:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jordin K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all if the quiet/shy person is happy with what they have in life.
Sometimes people with big personalities end up hurting the people around them if they focus too much on themselves rather than others.
2007-08-19 00:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by Aphrika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People with big personalities get noticed more, so they tend to get moving up the corporate ladder faster than the shy guy.
2007-08-19 00:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will get walked on unless you have some type of incredible talent or ability. If your quiet/shy never stop learning and developing yourself let your mind and skill over whelm the big personalities.
2007-08-19 01:17:12 · answer #5 · answered by 23cents 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always thought so, but later on as we all grew older and wiser, the shy ones tended to be the more successful than the extroverts. Go fig.
2007-08-19 00:51:49 · answer #6 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im one of them and yes it is hard. Its hard for me to go look for a job, talk to people i dont know on the phone, even talk to people and my boss. Im so shy i can't even go into restaurants to eat and in school i wouldnt eat at all. So yeah its very hard.
2007-08-19 01:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
propbably b/c those with an out going personality are more likely to network and often times networking is how you get ahead in life.
2007-08-19 00:50:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
most of the time....but are often the most coolest people you can meet....when you get to no them.......smart, open minded and have a blast... but to get to no them you have to go see them because they dont come......if you are asking this question probably you want to no about someone???!?!
2007-08-19 00:52:34 · answer #9 · answered by .,.,sky.,., 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really am interested in this question
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2007-08-19 00:49:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋