Should I ever tell my mother/sister that I'm having sex?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for a little over six months, having sex with him for four months, and been friends with him for over 5 years. Though during a good four and a half years, that friendship has been strictly online and in school and such, so my parents havn't had a huge chance to see what he's about.
We love each other to death, which I know sounds ridiculous considering how we're both just sixteen.
But yes, because of my two older sisters, she knows for sure that the oldest out of us [22] is having sex, and thinks that my other older sister [18] is, too [which is true]. My mother doesn't bash my oldest sister because of it, but still...
I always have my parents drop me off at his house when they know that his mother's at work, and that doesn't bother them even though they know that his mother doesn't like anyone in the house when she's not there [as you can assume, that's when we have sex].
I know it's considered 'bad' by society to do 'it' at such a young age, but...

...I just want to spend one night with him. Just to sleep in each others arms...but if I tell my mother that, she'll no doubt think right away that we're having sex. And at this point, I don't care...I just want to be with him.
And telling my sister probably wouldn't be so bad, just telling my mother...

We're both sixteen, as said eariler, and we use protection [condoms and birth control].

Answer 1

I hope you are using protection and getting checked for STD's........#######

Answer 2

Well most importantly you are both being safe.
It depends totally on your mom and sisters. I agree with those who said she probably already has some idea. I knew before both my sisters told me, and I didn't run tell Mom or anyone, but am glad we talked. Being older I had a little more info, than they did, not always true, but I was there for them and all. I would have had a problem if the guy was a lot older, but as long as both are not like pre teens, it's more important to be careful, and for neither to be being abused. If your sisters are someone you can talk to, and you can already tell them what you are doing right, better to not feel you need to keep things secret.
Your mom is better off finding out from you, than from someone else. Most moms aren't going to be happy, but she may not be surprised either. Better than her finding out some other way, and if possible always feels better not to keep secrets.

Answer 3

she really can't stop u from having sex but u really should tell her....i mean if u got a good relationship with ur mother tell her don't keep it a secret..yes she will most likely be upset at first ...my guess u r the baby so she will think that her baby is growing up...and fast i might add....teens ur age and some younger is having sex and my opinion should wait but don't...ayways just tell her ok....she can talk to u more about it and give u advice u teens that age don't want to hear........and as always use protection,not only from getting pregnant but from STD'S there is a lot of stuff out there that people don't know about and some don't even care too...so tell her...

Answer 4

You haven't said how old you are.

Is this the first guy you've had sex with?

Seems like since your parents drop you off there knowing his parents are NOT home, that they know you are 'probably' having sex. But, you don't want to get hurt, so be very carefull.

I do know that girls who get involved with guys at a very young age (girl being - 13-16) that they probably don't have a good relationship with their dads. They are seeking male companionship to help fill the gap in their hearts, needing love.

Then they think they must have sex to keep the guy, but that is not true.

Answer 5

If you feel close to your mother, then tell her. I told my mother the first time I had sex. It was a really good conversation. Just be calm, tell you are being safe, you aren't going to get pregnant or catch a disease and that you felt it was right for you. Hopefully she will appreciate your honesty and candor and after she freaks out some, will then realize how lucky she is to have such a responsible daughter.

Answer 6

it deopends what kind of attitudes your sisters have if their the typeof people who will be supportive, tell you its a bad idea but will let you make your own decision, or go running to your parents and rat you out. your mom might not be so lieneint about you as she is about your sisters having sex because they are both over 18 and legally aloud to have sex but your just 16 so she might have something to say about it and not let you see your bf so you should prob wait a couple years till you tell your mom

Answer 7

please make sure you are respecting any guidelines that are in force about being together alone. respect your family and his. don't lie to be together. if you have a good relationship with your mom or sisters it wouldn't be a bad idea to let them know of his existence but not necessarily that you have a sex life with him. Some times too much information is not good. i understand what it's like to just want to hold someone and not have sex. you just feel you must be with him. please make sure you use condoms. the last thing you need is a baby or diseases. you're too young to have to be put in that position, and lets face it, if you got pregnant, no mater what he would tell you.....YOU are stuck with the baby FOREVER.

Answer 8

She probably already knows what your up to...they're mothers they know things before you tell them. If you just want to come clean tell her, but if you think telling her so that you can spend the night in his arms is going to get you what you want it wont.

I don't know anyone of my friends who can tell their mother at six-teen I'm going to spend the night with my boyfriend and mom would be cool with it....not even in a perfect world - never happen.

Answer 9

telling is not the best idea getting on the pill and using protection is a good idea i would not tell unless boom you come up pregnant.The reason I say this is because of the trust issue if your Mom is against this and a believe a good Mom would be then she will wonder about it all the time and if she don't know them it is a chance you are taking on your own.Good luck.

Answer 10

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Answer 11

It's always best to tell your mom before she finds out, not your sisters. It will establish trust between you and her. Wouldn't you feel better if you could ask your mom about things going on between you and your boyfriend?

I would at least bring it up in order to talk to her about proper use of birth control and STD prevention.

Best of luck hun. Even if she isn't happy at first with your decision, it will be better for your relationship (between your mom and yourself) to be honest now.