My dad always be so different after he's drunk. Because of him, I promised to myself that I'm not gonna get married with a guy who always drinks and annoys everyone around him.....
2007-08-18 13:50:12 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be careful what U wish for! they have a habit of showing up
sooner then U think...NOW! the question...YES!!! because
alcohol is the great emancipator of inhibitions...and do they
have something to say...that leads to the expression of ones
thoughts physically...VIOLENCE...
2007-08-18 14:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
a drunk is a drunk, and it doesn't matter what they person does when he/she is drunk. alcohol limits your inhibitions, and you sometimes do something you wouldn't normally do in the course of a day, because when you're drunk you just don't care. this doesn't mean that every person who drinks is a drunk. a drunk is someone who can't get out of the bottle long enough to live life, who is counting the hours till the next drink, who can't focus on anything other than the drink, who has no control over how much is drunk, or how to act when drunk. drunk is not a moment in time, it's a way of life.
I drink. not all the time. and it's certainly not often when I drink more than my fair share. everyone who allows the drink to pass their lips learns at some time or another when they've had too much. a person who drinks too much on occasion is not a drunk. someone who drinks too much too regularly is a drunk. drunks aren't the same. some get happy, and everyone is their friend. some sit down and cry, get it all out. some want to be alone. and the ones who have a tendency to get violent, get a LOT more violent when they drink. (don't base your opinions of other people on your dad.) you have to learn to weed out the stupids from the rest of us who drink to relax.
I have a dear friend who likes to drink. not to get drunk, but maybe a couple of beers on the weekend. his ex-wife was hit by a drunk driver as a child, and therefore he was not allowed to drink. she pitched a fit if he had a couple of beers in the solitude of his own home because she and her grandparents were hit by a drunk driver and her grandparents didn't make it. she took it to the extremes when it came to his drinking. her ideology was the same as anyone who would say that people who were molested as children don't ever have sex. it's stupid, and I hope you can learn not to make assumptions like she did. should you choose to marry someone who drinks, watch him closely while you are dating. he may never take it to extremes. or, he may have gotten all the drunken stupidity out of his system by then. but if it becomes a problem, deal with the issues together. and remember, just because someone drinks and gets annoying, it doesn't mean he will get violent. good luck in your selection.
2007-08-24 02:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by flgalinms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally I have found that there are two kinds of drunks. Those who become happy and uninhibited and those who become violent and angry. Since drinking is what people do who want to feel good and those who drink more than one or two wish to escape their lives or their thoughts . I would definately steer clear of any guy that likes alcohol too much . The happy drunk and the morose drunk are both lose cannons and nothing good comes from either one.
2007-08-25 14:02:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a 12 step program for friends and loved ones of alcoholics. It’s called Al Anon. The people are there for the same reason you are, so you won’t feel judged. No one will tell you what to do, they will only share what they did and what worked and what didn’t. If someone does try to tell you what to do, you are talking to the wrong person. I learned that if I picked out an alcoholic to love once, I will keep doing it. It was a hard lesson for me, my dad is a recovering alcoholic. Without Al Anon I wouldn’t have found this awesome way of life. The 12 steps are a wonderful, freeing way to live! It can’t hurt, and it might do a lot of good. If you cannot find it in your area call AA they will know where the meetings are. You don’t even have to tell them your right name. It doesn’t matter.
Blessed Be
2007-08-25 08:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by Linda B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people get violent when drunk while others just get happy and silly. It depends on the person.
If your dad is a drunk, you are about 100 times more likely to marry a drinker yourself.
Go to an Al-Anon meeting. Find a meeting near you and go. That's the best advice you're going to get here. Al-Anon isn't for drunks, it's for families of alcoholics. Go to a meeting and learn what you can. You sound young and you're going to waste years of your life if you don't get a handle on the damage your father has done to you.
Good luck to you. I truly hope beyond hope that you'll take my advice.
2007-08-18 14:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every body doesn't act in the same manner after become drunk. -- You might want to re-assess your goals with whom you will marry. -- You come from a family of an alcohol dependent.... what if he always drinks but doesn't annoy everyone around him.
I wanna suggest you take a look at this website, and consider going to an al-anon meeting. I never thought I would go to one, but it really does help to know that there are lots of people out there like you and live and have lived with people with dependencies and addictions.
Best of Luck!
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/english.html
2007-08-18 14:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by stifflergal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People respond differently to alcohol. Some become relaxed and retreat, others become loud and obnoxious, then you have the violent ones. It's okay to decide prior to dating what you will and will not tolerate, what you want in a man, and what you simply will not go for. Every woman needs to do that to keep away all men that are a waste of time. I only go on dates with men who I consider marriage material. If he doesn't line up with my standards; and trust me they are a bit relaxed compared to other women, then I will not date him. Smoking and Drinking are two of my no no's. I don't care what he looks like.
2007-08-24 17:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by andizwif 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To say that all people act in the same way is obviously not true. Some men will have tendency's to be violent or angry.
Its kind of cool in todays culture for young girls to be wild and sleazy when they are drunk. For some reason I guess thats cool. To see sleazy girls on girls gone wild and then they act innocent afterwards its very funny. I dont' want a girl with a lot of hands on her.
Anyways, you are right. Some people are not mature enough to handle their liquor. There's a reason why they call alcohol liquid couraged.
Good luck.
2007-08-18 13:59:11 · answer #8 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all people who get drunk, get violent, some just get drunk, others become invincible, and then some just go to sleep. It just depends on the type of person that is doing the drinking.
I for instance used to get really brave and less shy, when I drank years ago. but now when I drink, I just have a couple and go to bed. nothing major. some have to have there alcohol everyday like some people have to have a pepsi or a coke, just depends on the person. hope you find a good man, that suits your needs. good luck on that.
2007-08-18 13:57:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Many people do become violent after becoming drunk,violent or not a drunk is still a drunk and good for you for not wanting to marry one.
2007-08-18 13:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by sbahawk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drinking is a monster People who drink have personalities that they normally wouldn't when sober.I have seen drinker get violent, want to hug and kiss slobber, and will take anyone home after a night of drinking.I heard a saying one time That after midnight all the women get pretty but the Men get uglier and horney
2007-08-26 12:51:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋