help. my ex b/f just asked me to his g/f again. now mind you i've known this guy for 5 yrs and we have dated off and on twice before. its crazy because when we are together i'm so in love with him but when it gets bad its bad. he can go from amazing to scary...he asked me to marry him before and after that we had a huge fight where he made me feel so low and worthless. its always like this...he either loves me or hates me. he can be so sweet but then its like a switch. we have a fight and he gets so mean and awful.
i just thought we were friends and i don't have any emotional ties. i cut it all a long time ago and it took me a long time to heal. i dont want to be with him but we just recently started talking and i didn't want to hold any resentment towards him.
my question is he always going to be in love with me? what can i do to change this? should i just cut all ties again but forever this time? please help me...any advice would be amazing. thank you.
2007-08-18 13:42:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
thank you for answering. i just feel like crud...i didn't want to hurt him.
haha yes our avatars rock!
2007-08-18 13:53:47 · update #1
I do not think it would be healthy for you to get back into a relationship with him, with someone you are scared of. What if you were to have kids with this man? Would you want them to be around that?
Edit: Instead of remembering those supersensitive moments, remind yourself WHY you broke up with him in the first place. Those relationships that are "on and off" like that would NOT make for good marriages! You may just have to STOP being friends with him. I saw your profile page. You are a Christian by faith(me too! I have issues of course. Christian is not equal to perfect!) No. You don't want to hurt him, but you HAVE to risk hurting him to protect yourself. Keep praying for him, but I think it would be exceedingly intelligent to cut all ties with him. Trust God to do what He needs to do in your ex's life.
2007-08-18 13:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's really possessive/obsessive with you, and that he's not going to change. I've seen this happen a few times before with some friends of mine. The ones that actually cut it off said that they were MUCH better off. I think you would be better off moving on and finding "another fish in the sea." Hope this helps, and that things work out for you.
2007-08-18 20:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything to change someone else's feelings for you. But if I were you I would cut all ties permanently I wouldn't go out with him again. Why put yourself through all that stuff again? Be honest and straightforward with him. Hope everything works out alright. Good luck.
2007-08-18 20:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by ♥☠Madame Joker☠♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you answered your own question, you said you have already healed from the hurts & that it took you a long time... sound like you need to stay away from him. the "all good v. all bad" thing probably will not change.
the other part of your question about changing this... you can not change what another person says, does, or feels. just be honest about your needs & that you guys are just not compatible as partners. it doe not always have to be about hating the other person, & it sounds like you don't hate him. that shows maturity. he may be confusing that friendship w/ romantic feelings from you.
2007-08-18 20:57:10 · answer #4 · answered by cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best to cut all ties and move on,you need to be safe,and find real love!
2007-08-18 20:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest i dont think you should get back with someone like that!! and theres nothing you can do about him loving you, hes gonna feel what he wants regardless!! no one can change there feelings or emotions about someone else!!
maybe you should try distancing yourself from him little by little untill he just gives up.....if thats what you truley want!!!good luck to you girl!
2007-08-18 20:56:28 · answer #6 · answered by New York Chic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not love him; make it clear.
maybe you should be distant friends for a while.
let him find himself. maybe he just wants a safety net.
I hope it works out.
2007-08-18 20:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by Paladin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO ONE should evere make you feel low about yourself, someone like that is poison to your soul...LET HIM GO AND DON'T LOOK BACK... SERIOUSLY!!!!
2007-08-18 20:51:47 · answer #8 · answered by GOLDENFAIRY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find someone new and move on with your life.
2007-08-18 20:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from this fish.
2007-08-18 20:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋