Lately, Ive been feeling as if im missing something in my life. Im 13, and im soon to be going on a vision quest. I have plenty of love, as all of my friends are of the opposite sex. But there is one particular girl, my BEST friend, that I really like, massively love. And last night at a party, I found out that shes been cutting herself. Right in the middle of the party, I cried. She was not there. And since then, and evven a little before yesterday, Ive just been feeling like I need something in my life that I dont have.
Help?
2007-08-18 13:24:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Oh, you poor wee young thing. It's not you that needs help, it's your cutting gf.
You sound wicked intelligent, and write like an adult. You are a smart teen, teens go through a lot of weird stuff, feelings are always more intense than called for. Focus on school, and take care of yourself. The only thing you need right now are answers to hard questions, like this one, and no one can explain why your best friend is doing this to herself, just don't feel like you have to as well. Be strong... with time all things pass and heal and even make sense.
2007-08-18 13:33:00 · answer #1 · answered by Guinness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have a few friends that are very close to me and either cut, or have considered it. My advice to you is that you need to talk to her about it. If she is your friend, then you play a large part in her life. She would be very grateful to talk to you about it. Help her back to the right track. Explain to her that she is doing nothing but hurting herself and everyone else by cutting herself. You cannot force her to do it. Do not try. If you try and force her, she will continue and your friendship will end. You have to help her find the path on her own. Remember, you can show her the door, but she has to open it. Life is choice, and though other people can help you understand the choice better, they cannot make the choice for you. Do not make the choice for her, but help her understand it better. Be a friend to her, because that is what she needs most. This more than anything else will be her saving grace.
2007-08-18 13:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have the ability to stop your friend from cutting herself even though you want to.
You are finding out a reality of life.
Now it's time to find out about acceptance.
You have to accept that you are limited,in this situation.
You can talk to her,threaten not to be her friend or even to go to her parents and tell but you realize that may not work and you run the risk of loosing a friend.
As your world grows,it's going to take some time for you to grow into it.
It's a learning process.And at times it's very uncomfortable.
Do some research.
There is a book named 'Passages' that describes the changes humans go through at certain ages.
Go to the library and check it out.
You'll be fine.
2007-08-18 13:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by robert2011@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, you have everything you need within yourself. Don't fall into the trap of searching for that elusive "something" that you feel you are missing.
As for your friend whom is a cutter, let her parents or guardian or teacher or minister know about it. This is a sign that she needs a bit of professional guidance.
2007-08-18 13:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by Pixie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. im14. this is my view...but im only 14 so i dont know the secret to life thing. well. one thing. your only 13...you have ALOT...alot ALOT of time for growing up and finding what your missing.. i know things are confusnig for you....you have alot of tings to figure out. puberty.hormones.relashionships... you DEFINATLY have to talk to this girl about what shes doing to herself...confort her and let her know youll be there for HER and help with everything.. AND MEEAN IT. keep the promise. if she talks about suicide and theres noithing you can do t ohelp...go to a...parent.older sibling.someone...even if its tough...but its best for her....good luck with this. remember 13 is still pretty young if you think about 100 years. youll work things out eventually.
2007-08-18 13:36:58 · answer #5 · answered by Mount Zoomer. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Serves you right for going to an emo party
2007-08-18 14:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by cryingmacdaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will have to work out her own life's path. You could research 'borderline personality disorder' and ask her if this fits what she's going through.
2007-08-18 13:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to talk to her about it. I know what its like to have no one to talk to about that stuff. And what I really needed was someone who I could trust to talk to about anything. And luckily I found someone. But, you can't force her to stop and don't force her to talk about it. Mention it to her, and show your concern, but don't pressure her into talking about it. She just needs to know that there is someone who cares about her and that they want to help her.
2007-08-18 14:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to guzzle pen1s and get over her drama.
2007-08-18 13:35:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes...you better confront her if she's your friend!
2007-08-18 13:29:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋