when i ask him why he wont he just gets mad and tells me it does not work anymore
2007-08-18 12:47:34 · 36 answers · asked by lonley in ky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He should marry my wife. They'd be perfect together.
2007-08-18 12:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Is it just sex or have his behaviors changed in other areas too. How is the communication? Does he show affection in other ways? If it doesn't work anymore, what is the message he is sending you. What kind of thoughts and feelings do you experience when you hear him tell you that. A sexual relationship is usually a very important part in a relationship. If he won't talk to you about it all you can do is think about what it might be. You won't actually know the truth unless he tells you. The only way this can be solved is getting him to talk about it. You are his wife, you deserve an answer. My guess is that you are thinking it is something that you are doing wrong or he is having an affair. If he loves you and cares about your feelings he will talk to you. If he won't you have to decide if you can continue to live this way. He owes you a direct answer. Nothing can change unless you have an answer to your question.
2007-08-18 13:20:20 · answer #2 · answered by Tetonka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk softly on this one.
If "It does not work anymore" means that he can't get an erection, then you should have him see a doctor. All sorts of things could or could not be the cause.
It could just be something that can be remedied very simply.
Your husband is feeling humiliated and he does not need to feel that he is less than a man because he can't get his penis to work like he needs it to work.
I would back off of the sex talk for a while and make him an appointment with his doctor and go with him. Don't take over the appointment, let him talk to the doc by himself.
Like I said in the beginning...
tread lightly on this one, or you may never get it again!!!
Peace
2007-08-18 13:04:38 · answer #3 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how old is your husband?I would ask why doesn't it work anymore? For your sake i surely hope he hasn't cheated on you, that is a terrible thing to happen,Yes stress and work can be the cause but there might be a medical problem as well maybe he needs to go and see the Dr. for help i do wish you the best of luck
2007-08-18 13:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by dolphinluvgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's about timing with conversations like these.
Don't have this conversation near the bedroom, while you're naked, when he just gets home from work, anytime he's tired or feeling depressed. Have the conversation when you're both relaxed, when you're not thinking about sex, when you have a private moment.
Don't ask why he won't have sex with you. Mention that YOU are having trouble in the bedroom. Explain that you're worried you're not satisfying HIS needs. Stress that you love him and want to do anything and everything to make him happy. Ask what you can do to improve your sex life.
2007-08-18 13:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only testify to what happened to my parents. After several yrs of my dad complaining that my mom (full time director of nursing in a 120 bed facility and mom of FIVE kids in 8 yrs) never putting "enough" out for him and her complaining of my dad ALWAYS wanting "it"...(found out all this in my teens)...my dad ended up with high blood pressure due to his age n temper...his meds gave him e.d. Then my mom was the one complaining of NEVER getting any and all the tables had turned...perhaps he needs to try a diff prescription if he's on medication for ANY reason...perhaps you need to follow him...check his emails, computer history, phone bills, etc. See if it's another person in his life or if it's a medical problem. Otherwise, I see no other way around your troubles but divorce or cheating...neither is pleasant. Good Luck to you both!!
2007-08-18 13:09:22 · answer #6 · answered by luv2bake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a good time to see a therapist who specializes in sex problems. He might be having a medical problem, or it might be something else. When he says "it does not work", does he mean he can not get an erection? He really does need to see an MD and possibly a therapist too.
2007-08-18 12:54:31 · answer #7 · answered by Patricia A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have a problem mental or physical or both, if he can't perform he'll feel threatened about his masculinity. Also try and find out what( it does not work anymore means) does he mean you don't arose him or he's impotent?
2007-08-18 12:55:51 · answer #8 · answered by gimba69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You and him need to have a serious talk. Sex is not the most important part of a marriage, but it is a very big part in it.
2007-08-18 13:05:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it isn't performing to his standards and it feeling not so manly about it. That will put any man into a rage. Why don't you ask him what you can do to help and encourage him that you love him regardless.
2007-08-18 12:53:07 · answer #10 · answered by Brandie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he has some problems.
the best thing you can do is try and talk with him.... you could ask him what he wants to do? he said "it does not work anymore" ... is he talking about your relationship? or just sex, and himself having issues?
whatever it is, you deserve to know.. you are after all, married to the guy.
2007-08-18 12:52:50 · answer #11 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋