I was suspicious because he had been spending so much time on the Internet, and had been carefully cleaning out his computer every time he logged off, add to that the discovery of a few new messenger profiles. So I put a keylogger on his laptop in hopes that it would either prove his innocence, or give me the evidence with which to confront him. I was especially suspicious because of an e-mail I had seen in his myspace mail from a girl saying that they should "meet up sometime again soon". I really assumed he was cheating on me with her, because this was during the time that I was experiencing severe morning-sickness and had no interest in sex. Now maybe part of this is my fault, because I knew he'd had experiences with men in the past (oral sex), but I never fathomed that he would lie to me and then cover his tracks. He lied until I had him completely cornered and he KNEW I knew. When I caught him he was in the process of planning a meeting with another guy. I don't know what to do???
2007-08-18 12:43:44 · 13 answers · asked by theres_gotta_be_more_2_life 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yet another argument for not shacking up!
You are having a child with a man that has a marginal commitment to you!
He has COMPLETE control over what he does. Contrary to popular belief, homosexual behavior is NOT biological. It is a choice. You are with a man that is choosing to engage in perverted and deceitful behavior.
I fully believe that people can change, but they have to want to first.
You not having interest in sex is no excuse!
I feel for you, but this is a highly personal decision. I really am sorry you are going through this. I hope it serves as a guide for your future decisions.
2007-08-23 02:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, despite your love for him, he's what he is. I'm sure everyone has told you how crazy you are and they're right. If a guy is gay, he is gay. A bisexual male is a gay liar! There isn't a straight male out there who might have sexually relationships with other males. I'm not bashing gays at all, but a sexual deviant is what he is no matter who he is having sex with. You can do it. Whether or not he supports his child, you can do it on your own. You aren't the first single mother and you won't be the last. Despite your fears, you have to have faith in yourself. This may be the hardest adventure in your life but you have to look forward and put him and this relationship in the past. Be strong for your child. Embrace your family and accept there support and giving. When your child comes, you will change what you think is important. Strive to be a great parent, forget the jerk and move on with your life. The sooner the better. God bless and good luck
2007-08-25 16:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by mbl75051 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On my opinion you should leave him for best interest of you and your child health he's an health risk but who am I to tell you what to do? Go with your heart, mind, and first judgment with those you can never go wrong only you know what you can deal with and whats best for you we can only judge and if you do make that decision to leave your child will still have a father cause it's not saying he can't be in his life and there are many of guys who would want you and accept your child who haven't been with a guy so the choice is on you look deep inside and find out what you really want
2007-08-24 17:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cease having sex with him and get an aids test for the sake of yourself and your unborn child. Dont expect this relationship to survive, even if you did make up and he was soooo sorry, you could never trust him again, you would always worry every time he went to the corner store, what he was really up to. I believe he loves you, but he obviously has strong urges, he has no control over. Best to let this relationship go to save yourself a lifetime of living with distrust, arguments etc. not a good environment for a child to grow up in. In time you will get over the betrayal and be friends with the childs dad, its in the best interest for a child to have contact with both parents. growing up with love and not a household of disfunction
2007-08-18 13:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by aussiechick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not your fault. if you don't have sex that is because you dont' feel like it so that means anytime he does not feel like it and you can do the same right? nope its not. well let me tell you haveing a baby does not make someone not want others. there is no excuse and i think if i were you i would just chalk this up to learning and get rid of him sorryb ut when a guylies once he'll do it again and again no matter how long and that is horrible especially when youa re married and years on your belt.
2007-08-25 16:05:42 · answer #5 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of this relationship, fast, I know there's a child involved now. Run!!!!! With all of the uncertainties we can encounter in life, this is one we can get a handle on before it goes any farther, it hurts now, but, I think if u continue to stay in it, its going to hurt a lot more.
2007-08-25 22:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by yawhaneeh53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, I really am very sorry. I can't imagine...
I really dont know what to tell you except move on. Allow him to know his child (for the child's sake)... but move on for yourself.
You deserve better than this.
There's someone out there that will love you and your child wholly and fully...
Don't settle for any less...
It will hurt, but it will pass... and you will find something so much better!!!
2007-08-25 17:41:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be grateful that you know what kind of a guy he really is.
Move on. You have a baby and a life ahead of you. The last thing you need is a jerk who you cannot trust in your life.
2007-08-25 15:26:28 · answer #8 · answered by tak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope your doctor has giving you an aids test. Dump him! He's no good!
2007-08-25 11:23:52 · answer #9 · answered by physco 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drop 'em like he's hot!
2007-08-25 17:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by trevor_laforce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋