Hi All :) .. Do YOU feel LIBERATED when YOUR ATTITUDE to certain things in LIFE is : "WHO CARES"/"SO WHAT? :D

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Explain your answer............ Use examples if you wish......
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Third P, this is not about me, at all...
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Sometimes things just ARE... It doesn't matter what you think, feel whatever.... Sometimes, the decision needs to be made more than the decision needs to be right... "So what" is very freeing....When you realize that you've been obsessing over something that doesn't matter either way.....
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Answer 1

The expression actually calls for it. The fact you said it, you are trying to justify yourself from reacting to a situation which ought not to be in certain conditions. The attitude of liberating yourself will not at all make you a responsible citizen. It is a way of being irresponsible when your presence is very much important and needed.

A good example will be this: A question from Kimberly in this site was sent to me: Who cares? So what?

See what happens, a friend of mine not even reconsidering to make or bother to read such an email.

It's a liberation. Yes but the guilt feeling is there because as if you have abandoned your good friend. The value of time asking a view or opinion was taken for granted. Sorry for Kimberly. Isn't you are liberated in a sense but deep inside your heart feel bad. It may be a liberation for a moment but the residue of this is not a freedom either nor an escape from consciousness.

Therefore. i care and look into what.

Answer 2

I think with certain things, a "Who cares?" attitude is valid...but then again people have different priorities, and reacting "Who cares?" about something that means the world to someone else could be a cause for argument, which is hardly the most liberating experience. That said, I have found that attitude can be very useful. I recently got dumped by my girlfriend who I then had to live with for three weeks, and during that time, while she was adamant that she wanted us to be close friends etc etc, most of the time she acted as if I wasn't there. At first I was left thinking "What's wrong with me?", "I must be horrible..." but then I suddenly wondered why I cared what she thought of me, and found that an extremely liberating experience. Properly applied, I think that an attitude of not becoming over-invested in trivial matters can be very valuable, and very liberating.

Answer 3

Hi Kimberly,

I had to think about this question a little longer than normal before I felt I could respond, because lately I have had to adopt a more serious and less careless attitude towards more things in this world, simply because of my personal circumstances. In fact in many areas right now I can never be careless. I can never say: "Who cares?", "So What?", or "This doesn't matter". This may sound a little heavy, but as it turns out I had to learn the hard way. The details of my particular life change are too complicated for this space.

But even in my main work, which is in fact two areas that appear quite different - because one deals with entertainment and the other with the point in human behavior where religion and science meet and mix - I find myself unable to exhibit any carelessness simply because it is immediately detrimental to others. Moreover, because I am also incorporating math, others will use any errors against my arguments or thesis or presentation almost immediately. So I have had to learn to be rigorously precise in almost all areas.

HOWEVER, I still find this question to be a very relevant one, because in fact the answer is "yes". There are areas, or at least MOMENTS in the day, that I find as if I were a falcon flying high above the 'troubles of this world'. And it is as if I swoop down and seize this moment or that moment - not quite arbitrarily - and fly off with it in my beak. At that instant I adopt an attitude of "For God's sake - take five - who cares? Just be free for a moment."

Specifically this can happen when I take my mountain bike break. There is a park nearby with a lake and hills. You might enjoy its name: it's affectionately called the "Dingle" by the local residents. This is a truly loving place. I become very liberated here. My lungs can breathe. I watch the ducks, crows, hawks, ospreys, Kingfishers, etc., landing and taking off. It is true that I always must be mindful of others on the path - some who are old, some just children. They become mersmerized by the sudden appearance of me with my bike helmet on this large blue bike. Some have actually lost their balance no matter how careful and methodical I've been. So I cannot adopt a totally carefree attitude. But yet I wait for moments and suddenly everything gels as if that inimitable Zen state, satori, had arrived out of nowhere, and for a few seconds I adopt an attitude that absolutely nothing matters. Of course this is conditioned by reality. But at that moment what replaces this care-free attitude is instant. 'Nothing matters but... the purest being, the most immediate contact with the great void - that mysterious realm that the Egyptians called "aforetime" - before strife, before anger, before the "Quarrel" between Horus and Seth, and even before male and female had entered the world!' And yes, at those moments I do feel liberated. As long as it happens naturally then I don't feel it's audacious or careless. But there is a natural moment that seems to arise with each excursion on the bike - especially during smooth patches - when I can feel my 'spiritual shoulders' shrugging off the burdens that I normally take so seriously. And I just throw them up into the air, into the sun, into the dappled light of the thick foliage, into the sky.

But by the time I get home and must think about the next appointment, my preparation, the tasks still to be done, then the cares and the rigor rush back in. But then I notice that the moments of carefreeness have had an influence. They make me a bit looser. They make me rigorous or sharp, perhaps, but not so rigid.

So, yes. Though I find it difficult, the bike has helped me to find moments often when I can literally feel the deepest responsibilities and worries momentarily lift right off my back as if by some sort of centrifuge. And I do seem to come up and out of my body. And I don't just feel carefree or happy. I do feel a genuine, albeit temporary, liberation. And I very much depend upon these repeated moments of liberation because they are like drinking from the purest stream. It's like what the Egyptians called the Jackal Lake or just the Lake of Life. Nice, huh...getting your toes dipped in eternity just by riding a bike around a lake? But it's real. Yes, I feel like I'm stealing this attitude from the "Institution of Worry", but yet, the reward is so significant that I feel the liberation and the drink from eternity actually nourishes the ability to face the worries. So I don't feel like a thief afterall. I feel like it's a right and an obligation to keep things in perspective. We are more than Prometheus alone. We are also that falcon, that golden bird capable of at least momentary flights into the clear, colorless air.

So, again. A very essential question that it took me a few days to twig to. I hope this addresses what you were asking. And thanks for asking it!

May your weekend offer you a little liberation as well.

Cheers.

Answer 4

Sometimes I'm jealous of kids who are like that in school, but thats just not who I am. I read books about kids that are like that and often think how different my life would be if I had that attitude. I suppose for some things I feel liberated with that attidude, but it catches up with me in the end and I know I shouldve just stuck to it and tried my best as I usually do.

Answer 5

I have a huge "who cares/ so what attitude" and I feel that people over-react to little stupid things all the time. Sometimes I just want to shake someone and say "Who cares if he didn't call you when he said he would !t I doesn't matter!"

People need to learn to let go of stuff.

Answer 6

For me, it's: "and so it goes" (from Vonnegut's Slaughterhouse-Five) or "it just *is*" (from my friend Carol). I can't go through life with a So What or Who Cares attitude. "No man is an island" and all that. I'm not knocking it; to each his or her own. See, I do care, sometimes too much, often about things over which I have no control.

I'm still learning to accept and let go.

Examples: Nagging family members, senseless murders, and lots of stuff in between.

Answer 7

I feel there is too much of a "WHO CARES"/"SO WHAT" attitude among people these days. I feel liberated when I change my attitude towards caring about the problems at hand, enough to try to make a difference to make things better. It doesn't mean get upset about every little thing, just have compassion towards the troubles of others and be understanding, and try to make life better for yourself and others.

Answer 8

I don't feel bound any longer , not because I don't care but because I understand and that affords me greater freedom. I care! My insensitivity to the plight of my brothers and sisters began as a family bond that was destroyed. I choose to include all in bonds of friendship and love. It has been difficult to overcome my own attitudes and defences but I am better for having climbed out of my miseries and assumptions.

Answer 9

If that is what makes a person feel liberated then I guess I am one of those.
Cause I don't care about what anyone else does or says.
If you know what hits the fan, I don't care. It will just make a big mess and I will have to clean it up. Then everything will be ok. That's how my life is. I am the one who cleans it up. And I don't really care about what other people think.
If they don't like what I say or do, WHO CARES?
Yep! I feel liberated. Just talking about it.

Answer 10

In fact "WHO CARES" and/or "SO WHAT?" are not included in my bio-dictionary. Rather, these are rejected.
Imagine with me how our world would be like if:
Baird
Edison
Ford
Alexandre Bell
said: "WHO CARES" and/or "SO WHAT?",
we wouldn't have now:
TV
the lamp
assembly-line
the mobile in our hands.

All the ideas of the above great people were in complete ideas, as such. They could so simply say: "WHO CARES" and/or "SO WHAT?" and stop their painstaking efforts!

Let's all now, right now, stop our: "WHO CARES" and/or "SO WHAT?" and save our world, our Mother Earth and ourselves.

Believe me, (I am not pessemistic) the coming generations will suffer a lot, they may curse us.