THe emails are just generally hi how are you doing types, but what do you all think.
2007-08-18 12:23:24 · 32 answers · asked by wjw5576 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a tough one. It depends on her motivation for hiding them. Do you think she's hiding them because they're totally innocent, but she knows they'll hurt and upset you?
Or do you think she's hiding them becuase something is going on?
The only real way to find out is to ask her...which means telling her that you've been going through her stuff. But if you keep saying: "I love you and I want to be a better husband", well, there's no woman who won't take that the right way.
2007-08-18 12:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by ddd 874 587 545 543 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiding it = enormously, enormously wrong. If she can't be honest about an email, how can you trust her with anything really important. If she can't understand why this is such an issue, then she's a muppet and you'd be better off without.
There's nothing wrong with keeping in touch with ex's. I do it all the time. Never hide it though. My girlfriend once used to text a guy (just hello's and stuff) and hide it from me. I found out but let her off as it was just a few texts. She cheated on me with him 12 months later, after promising me she's stop hiding stuff. Sort it out now before you have to go through all that with your wife.
(ps: Me and my girlfriend DID eventually sort it, so I'm sure you and your wife can too!)
2007-08-18 12:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can email, snail mail, telephone and visit in person with any of my friends, old and new, female and male and my husband has nothing to worry about.
You notice I did not say anything about "hiding" this from my husband....
If a husband or wife has to hide anything, there is something wrong with the whole picture. Saying hi does not a problem make, hiding say hi or anything else is the beginning of troubles for you and your wife.
Good luck.
2007-08-18 12:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's too bad she thinks she needs to hide it from you. My husband knows I receive and send emails to an old an dear guy friend. He is in a lasting relationship, and I'm married - we joke about "getting together", but it's only that - a JOKE. My husband knows we stay in touch, and has met him a time or two - they get along well. I have nothing to hide, so it's all good.
2007-08-18 12:29:02 · answer #4 · answered by Maggie Mae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an old boyfriend who's now friends with both me and my husband. I email him occasionally, and he emails me back. I even call him on rare occasion. BUT... I hide nothing...
Since she hides it, and you've found them and they are nothing.. then sit down with her at a calm time and ask her why she's hiding the emails. Maybe she's afraid how you'll react. You need to discuss it calmly and work out a solution that is agreeable to both of you.
2007-08-18 13:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would worry , My now ex-wife was doing the same thing with another woman in NY city , she would try to cover up the screen after she noticed me seeing it and trying to keep her cheating private but not before I read she told this other woman she loved her , we ended up divorced , I asked her why she was cheating on me , the woman must have been a man because just before she was going to see her "she" dumped my wife, proof it wasn't a woman at all I think , then she went off and found another woman on her own . Plan for the worst ; hope for the best .
2007-08-18 12:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by oreoboots 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Face the facts, if she is hiding it from you, then she doesn't want you to know. Why is that? Could it be that something has gone on between them? Or could it be that she is expecting something to happen? Maybe she just thinks that you wouldn't understand her having comunication with an old ex. In any way, we aren't going to be able to answer this. Your best bet is to ask her.
2007-08-18 13:08:07 · answer #7 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say YES if she is hiding it. I'd want to know why she feels she has to, have you been the jealous type in the past? Its the hiding that is the concern, lots of people remain friends with people they were once involved with.
2007-08-18 12:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by Patricia A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a guy friend? Or an old flame?
If it's a "friend", then she should be very open about it. Hiding it makes it seem fishy
If it's an old flame, then she shouldn't be emailing him. When it comes to past boyfriends, then all strings should be cut.
2007-08-18 12:28:52 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hm, well why is she hiding them, if there isnt anything to hide.
I'd be worried.
I dont like those secretive things.
If he is a friend, and emails are so basic and general. She should be able to email back and read those emails right under your nose and not worry about a thing...
2007-08-18 12:27:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋