Go or stay home..?

Question

My mom died 2-22-07 she and my dad where together for 44 years. My dad is getting married on Aug 25 6 mo 3 days to the day. I have decided not to go to the wedding. We are not seeing eye to eye on this. He says she died it was till death do us part thats the end. We are not talking. He started seeing her 2 weeks after my mom died she was around alittle before my my mom past an di didn't like her before. NOT VERY HAPPY.....

Answer 1

Was your mom ill? I knew a lady that had cancer and all the bad symptoms for about 7 years and her husband stood by her side. When she passed it was really a relief, she truly was in a better place. She loved him with all her heart and would have only loved to see him happy once she had passed. He started to date shortly after and everyone accepts that he loved her and lost her with all his heart but it isn't fair to expect him to die with a lonely heart. I would go out of respect for your father and the love that your mother had for him.

Answer 2

I lost my husband Dec. 18, 1990. I did not date for two years and I have not married, but that's me. Men are very different, they have been taken care of and loved by a women and when that is taken away, they are lost. They become like children and there is no one there to take care of them, to hold them. Your father was a good husband, he loves your mom as much as he ever did, now he is trying to hold on to life. He needs that care, and he deserve to be loved, he needs you too. He lost a part of his soul, don't let him lose the rest of it, in losing you.
There is no disrespect to your mom at all, she loved him and she stood by him, see gave all she had to make him happy, don't you think she doesn't still wants that now. Put a smile on her face and love back in your heart and pick up that phone and tell your dad you love him, may God bless you.

Answer 3

Dear Mike, I think you should not be so strict to your father, and do not think that he has forgotten your mother, no, he has not, but he feels lonely and needs love and understanding. If you don`t go for the wedding you`ll give this woman a reason to tell to your father that you are a bad son, don` allow her this. And if she loves and takes care of your father you should be glad that he has such a woman near him. And don`t worry about your mother, nobody will take her place in your father`s heart. Good luck to you, be kind and wise

Answer 4

I would go, but that's just me. I know you might've preferred a longer mourning period, but time is relative so that a "reasonable length of time" to you could mean the "end of his life" to him. (Besides, and this is just my own personal observation: few things in life are more gut-wrenching and sad than seeing a man who has outlived his wife. It just seems to defy the natural order of things, and maybe your dad felt some of that, too). It doesn't diminish your mother's memory one bit that he is moving forward with whatever life he has left. He was with her for 44 years...until death, as promised. There's no convenant expressed or implied beyond the grave. Feuding with your father wastes your time and his. And time is one thing none of us are getting any more of.

Answer 5

If he is a good father and was a good husband to your mother, go to the wedding and try to be civil to his new wife.Your father is fortunate to find someone who makes him happy.Don't try to deny him this chance of happiness.You lost your mother, you do not want to loose your father too.I know it is hard for you to adjust to this situation but for the sake of your father try.

Answer 6

This is not about you...this is about your dad. I say go. I know it will be hard and that you are angry but you will feel worse after some time has passed and you werent there.