My wife thinks i should still help her around the house when I get home from work. She stays home with the 5 kids and gets to relax in stead of going to work. All she has to do is take care of the kids and clean the house and make sure dinner is on the table when I get home. Is that hard to ask of her? She wants me to even mow the lawn so the kids could play on it. I say she needs to mow the lawn, What do you think? since I work all day from 8 to 4. And all she dose is stay home and do nothing, besides house work, so she could moe the lawn too. Do you think I am being reasonable? Because this is my time to have a beer and watch t.v.
2007-08-18 11:13:38 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow, i dont think ive ever met a person in denial as much as you are. you have 5 kids man thats work in itself... plus keeping the house clean with 5 kids... and making your dinner.... you are mentally unstable if you think she doesnt do anything.this is coming from another man mind you. you are the reason men get bad reps as uncaring and assholes... you truely baffle me. get off your butt, mow the f'in lawn, draw your wife a bubble bath and be more deserving of the love she is offering you.
2007-08-18 11:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by whiskywildcard 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow sounds like my ex-wife. Let me say that my ex-wife was always making comments like that, following it up with “Do you really think you’re that special? Any guy would do the same if not more!” I felt insulted by her lack of acknowledgement as to my efforts. Yes I wanted a kind word a “thanks for the help honey” on occasion but those words just stuck in her throat. She choked down kind words by making statements like “I do just as much, what makes you so special?” The issue isn’t who did or does more but why don’t we appreciate each other’s efforts. If you are having to say “look see how good I am” its probably because she doesn’t appreciate you and the thing you do. Well needless to say we have been divorced almost 4 years, after being married almost 16 years with three kids, and I discovered that I was different in some ways and in some ways I wasn’t. The true tell tale sign is that aside from dealing with an angry ex and tring to give my Kids a stable home my life is relatively unchanged as far as my work load. I still have two jobs take care of the dogs, feed the kids, do school projects and work around the house, I just do it in peace. She on the other hand has to work two jobs (she was a stay home mom while we were married and we even had a housekeeper because we use to fight when the house wasn’t clean) She has do all the work around the house and solve what ever issue comes up and do everything else on her own with out my help. I have had several different relationship, two that have lasted over a year (currently still in one 1 year 10 months), she tells her best friend and her best friend’s husband and I are still close so he tells me that she is still without a relationship and complains that they aren’t any good guys left that they are all either married or involved. So there it is how common was I, the grass is always greener.
2016-05-22 05:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by laronda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. She gets up in the morning and gets the kids up for school . She makes breakfast and pack their lunches for the family.Do the breakfast dishes.Spend time with you , enjoy a cup of coffee and breakfast with you.She cleans the kitchen.She goes and start cleaning house.dusting the whole house. She scrubs the floors (the whole house).
2. She collect the laundry.She do the laundry( several loads ),save laundry for the family. Iron and fold clothing. Make sure that every one has clean clothes .
She start cooking the meal for the family .She helps the kids with their home work. Deals with what ever issues come up with the kids.Do the dishes .
All she is asking is that you show a little appreciation for what she do. Nothing big just help out a little.
At the end of the day she has to be there for you .What ever you may have in mind she has to find the energy some where to please you in bed.
I think you should mow the lawn. Do you want her to add moving the lawn to every thing else she do on a daily basis?
She is your equal not your servant.She just want a little appreciation.
Have your beer and watch t.v. but don't take your wife for granted.She is pulling her weight. Why don't you try doing what she do for a week ?
2007-08-18 11:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by Precious 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you don't value what she does, or think it's too easy. Five kids? It can't be that easy, depending on their ages. You can help out a little, it won't kill you. She would like some down time too, and with watching the kids all day she doesn't get any. Take turns, let her do her thing one night and you do yours the next. Or split the night, take time for each other. Don't think you should only have to work and not do anything at home. It's your responsibility too. Would you rather she got a job full time and you both have the responsibility of the house and the kids? You have the luxury of having dinner on the table and the house taken care of so you don't have to. Is that fair to her all the time? Her job doesn't end when you come home, it keeps going? Why can't you just help her out so she gets a break?
2007-08-18 11:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by Linda K 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
"Ok Homer time to quit hangen out the bar with Moe and start realising a few things".
"A. You got her pregnant with those 5 kids ".
"B. You work from 8 till 4 ? Big Deal she works from what ever time those kids get out of bed until they go down for the night then carries on cleaning after their in bed".
"C. She isnt just sitting on her *** doing nothing".
"I know this question is a joke because nobody could be this stupid to actually think this way , we arent in the 1940's , and if you do actually think this way , then you need to get a vasectomy , pack your bags and GO".
"She does the laundry (your clothes too I'd pressume) , washes dishes , vacuum's the floor's , changes dirty diapers , goes shopping for the food and because your so damn lazy probably buy's your beer for you so you dont have to put yourself out buying it on the way home , makes sure your bills are paid so your not kicked out onto the street , she probably mends the kids clothes and irons the clothes , makes the bed's , helps with their home work , tucks them into bed , gets up to midnight feedings , deals with the babies teething and when their sick your to busy watching television or sleeping to care about your children enough to hold them so she can sleep , plays taxi to the kids driving them to school and to sporting events (unless your a real *** and she has no car and your kids arent allowed to have a life outside of the house or school) , she cooks every night".
"I think your selfish , self indulgent and disgusting losen the grip on your weiner and become a real man hey , she's your "WIFE" not your "Mother".
2007-08-18 13:40:16 · answer #5 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Just wow. I don't know where you've been, but it's been pretty much established that taking care of children, doing housework, etc. is not "relaxing." Particularly with 5 KIDS!!! You definitely need to help out some more, and maybe try not being an idiot. You are lucky to have a wife who will do everything without your help in the first place, you could at least be grateful and not act like she's lazy.
2007-08-18 11:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry bro I gotta side with your wire, cleaning up after 5 little ones , making 5 lunches, preping dinner for 7 but the biggest problem she probably has is not having an adult to talk to all day. While we are at work we can talk to other people who have the same interests, but a good stay at home mom like my wife (we only have one 8 month old)is either doing house work or keeping a very close eye on the kids.good luck
2007-08-18 11:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by Mc Fly 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Listen here if you think all your wife does is stay home and relax that's a bunch of crap, taking care of 5 kids is alot of work especially when you throw in all she has to do both for them and around the house. She should say ok fine I will go to work trade places for one day I can guarantee you , you will be glad to return to work an you will be way more exhausted in all the childcare and taking care of the house and cooking then you ever were at your job. You need to realise your wife never gets free time either , she might appreciate a nice , relaxing bubblebath or something herself for a change!
2007-08-18 11:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by Donna R 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are insane and I have no pity for you. You get up and mow the lawn, taking care of 5 kids and cleaning the house and having dinner ready for you. She needs a break and she needs to break away from you.
2007-08-18 11:20:13 · answer #9 · answered by Miss YSL 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Since you're pulling our leg I find it funny how a bunch of chicks (none of which have 5 kids let a lone 1) are complaining how tuff it is! hahahahaha
My neighbor's wife has two kids, older they need little care and go to school. Her husband, that poor guy, gets home mows, takes care of the pool the list goes on...
Then he has to run out for GD take out food! The lazy azz he maried won't even call it in so he could pick it up on the way home from WORK!!!!
A rare time their kid wasn't eating fast food or going out to eat had a chicken leg in her hand when she came over to play with my kids. I said wow, your eating a real dinner... get this - She says "yep my DAD MADE IT."
WTF?
2007-08-18 14:17:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋