Should i really be looking for a wedding dress right now?

Question

Me and my fiance are planning to get married with in 2-3 years from now, we have a son together, and i am just wondering if it is too early. But dont worry i am in no rush.

Answer 1

I bought mine seven years before I got married. And I changed the groom. So, who am I to say it's too early?

Answer 2

Let's put it into context, shall we? If you were planning to move in 2-3 yrs. would you start looking for a new apartment now? Most likely you wouldn't and the same goes for a dress. You may lose or gain weight, styles may change and you may not even get married to this man. Having a child together is not a guarantee of anything. In fact men often say, we are already a family and it's just a piece of paper so why bother? I think you are really asking if buying the dress now would look desperate and the answer is: yes, you can't hint that you want to get married buying a dress 2-3 yrs early without looking that way. You need to be direct, though to be perfectly honest if he were truly serious about following thorugh on the proposal he would have given you a date for no more than 6 months. So forget the dress;sit down with your fiance, tell him marriage it's important to you, especially now that you have a child in common, and that you want to set a date for 6 to 12 months from now. If he asks what the rush is, tell him none but that marriage is important to you and that you don't want to wait for baby 2 or 3. It is perfectly ok to want to get married and even to be in a rush; don't defend yourself for wanting marriage and family. Just find out if your fiance is serious about you or just stringing you along-men will often string a woman along for yrs. have kids with her and when they finally break up they find a new woman and marry right away. If he walks away now because you ask to be married, then it is not because you put pressure on him or any such crap;that is just an excuse lots of men use. If he walks away, it is only because he really does not think you are the one and waiting two or ten yrs. is not going to change that- though he may want you to think so so you will warm up his bed, cook his meals and do his laundry. So it's too early for the dress but not to early for the talk. Who knows? Maybe you will end up married sooner and if not, it's better for both you and your son that he leaves now than after yrs. of living together. Also, if he leaves you, make sure you ask for child support Your child deserves to have things you will find hard to afford on a single income and he is his child too. Good luck!

Answer 3

No, if you look for a dress now, you could end up changing your mind in 2 - 3 years. Plus you may find one that fits fine now, but could need to be altered slightly in a few years. Hold off till at least a year before the actual wedding (once the date is set).

Answer 4

Since you have a child, you should be getting married on Monday. Forget 2-3 years. What are you waiting for? Don't worry about the dress. Just go down to City Hall, and get married. You really have no business planning some big shindig when you have a child to raise.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong looking for the right dress now....hey before i am married and does not have a boyfriend yet even ....i was already looking at wedding dresses...because call me a dreamer but i want it to be perfect....so style can change but if doesn't you are one step ahead......even if your body changes you can always make alterations......nothing wrong ....at least by the time you get to the wedding day you can cross the dress off the list.....and would feel contented that you are very very sure it's the one you want.

Answer 6

Not saying this in a nasty way, but if you buy it now, it may not fit you on your wedding (you may get bigger or smaller). I would still have a look round for dresses and styles that you like - no harm in planning, that's half the fun of it! Then, when it gets nearer the time you'll have a better idea of what you like and don't like. Also, you might like a dress now and buy it, then next month find another dress and be kicking yourself that you didn't wait! Hope you have a fantastic day luv xx

Answer 7

hey i think its great to plan ahead especially for wedding things due to the fact u dont have to pay for everything at once and also that way we dont run out of money for ur dream day also it was me that thinks two to threeyrs due to the fact i got to pay for some others before starting to save for our wedding. ive been wantin to marry u for a long time and i propsed on mothers day and that but i feel plannin and pricin is the most important thing about everything like u wudnt go and get a new car before pricin and that. also catwoman may have some good points but if we cant afford it in the next yr then how r we supposed to pay for things also it seems to me that it takes yrs to plan out a wedding due to the fact u have to pay for a lot of things like the venues the dj food flowers and the list goes on

Answer 8

It's exciting to think of all there is to do for a wedding is'nt it?..

but..for the dress..I would wait abit..it seems the styles change somuch..something might come out youlike better..

Answer 9

Styles change every year and season. Look to get an Idea of what you want in general (long sleeves or short) .Wait a while.

Answer 10

No, I would start about 6-8 months before. The longest time will be acually deciding which one you want. Which you'll have to do in spare time. Once you find it, it only takes a could of weeks to make adjustments. It all depends on how fast your find the one you want. Goodluck!!