My mother told me that if she gets me a car, I must pay for half of it myself.?

Question

However she told me about this rule for the first time today, and seeing as I plan on getting my license within the next month this doesn't seem fair. she actually always made it sound like she was going to pay for my far.
I mean she never broght this upp to me before, and she hasn't ever really supported me getting a job.

now i'm depressed broke and freaking out.

what am I going to do, I'm sixteen and I was relying on having a car to get back and forth to school.
I can't ride the bus, I get badly teased due to the poor neighborhood I live in.

I Would be fine with it if she would have given me notice ahead of time, but she didn't and thats what bugs me.
I asked her like a month ago and she said she would pay for it, at least for now.

and I'm not spoiled.

Answer 1

well at first when i read your question i thought well that seems fair since it will be u driving not her. but then i reread it and that doesnt seem so fair. talk toher about how you feel. because thats not fair

Answer 2

Well actually helping to pay for anything means you will learn to take care of what you have--not saying you don't know that already. But mom may NOT have the money--she may have other expenses--she could be facing hefty insurance when you do get a license--you live at home so you will be on her insurance anyway--that's a rule all over the US--living at home means you are on the insurance. Can't offer anything else--it is a grown up, mature thing to step up and drive a car--pouting about this money issue is not showing much to me---when the going gets tough, the tough get going--find a job and start putting in your share. I would guess the same a---holes on the bus will probably tear up your car when you are at school--better rethink the issues here---

Answer 3

Perhaps your mother can't afford a car. Or, maybe she wants to teach you one of the most rewarding lessons in life (work hard and reap the benefits). Looking back, I wished that my mother would had made me pay for my car. I would had appriciated it more.

If the kids on the bus are so unrulely, then maybe you should discuss this with your parents. Having a car is not the only solution to this problem.

Work hard for that car! Maybe once your parents see you working hard, they'll negotiate a little.

Your mother isn't keeping to her word. Remember how it made you feel, and try to never do the same to others.

Lots of times people have to break a promise, or they agree to something that was way out of their means. It's good that you're learning to deal with this fact of life right now...

Answer 4

I think it is good. It will teach you how to manage your money. I had to pay for my car fully...by myself. I finally payed it off when I had turned 19, I was pissed at my parents, but now that I look back on it. I am grateful for the lesson. Talk to your mom. Ask her if you can make a monthly payment. I payed about $140 a month to my parents. Who knows, maybe if she sees you are being responsible and making your payments on time, she will cut you some slack and you won't end up paying for half of it. Hope this helps and good luck!!

Answer 5

You sound pretty spoiled to me. You should be far more grateful that she's willing to pay for even half - I never got any such offers from my parents, nor would I have expected them. Grow up and get a job, and learn to support yourself if you need a car so badly.

Answer 6

A car is a HUGE responsibility, as I am sure you know by now. It is refreshing to hear about parents who aren't just dropping big bucks on a brand new car for a teenager. I KNOW that is not what you want to hear, but here's the thing: If you pay for something, you're going to take better care of it, that's just a fact. If you have to work hard to earn money to pay for half of the car, you're going to be more cautious with it because it wasn't just handed to you, you had to work for it. I think it is fantastic! My parents were the same way with me. They housed me, fed me, etc., but all of the "extras" I paid for. I had a part time job from the time I was 13 years old, and let me tell you....Now, at 25, I am extremely responsible. I understand that if you want something, you work for it. I realize that things in life aren't just handed to you...you have to go out there and get them!

I'm sure that's not what you want to hear, but I'm sure your parents are trying to teach you some responsibility. Teenagers that are just handed things walk out in the real world as adults and are like "What the heck?" I have a car payment, a mortgage, utilities, clothing for my kids, insurance, gas, etc, and I think that the lessons my parents taught me when I was a teenager helps me to manage my money and also to treasure the things that I have because my husband and I have worked hard for them. They are trying to teach you about life and responsibility, and I think it's great!

And it could be worse....You could be forced to get your own insurance which is pricy for young people (I'm sure you will be going on their policy), gas, oil changes, and all of the other maintenance that goes along with owning a car.

I know you want your freedom, and driving is the definition of freedom (I was a teenager not too long ago!). But you also have to realize that with this freedom comes responsibility.

Be thankful that your mom is at least paying for half. I knew teenagers who were paying for their own car, plus insurance and all of the extras with NO help from their parents.

Answer 7

i really dont see what the problem is.

im 16, i pay for my car all by myself.
the payment is only 260 a month, for a brand new colbolt. [cant sp lol]

i work at mcdonalds, and i get paid about 350-400 every 2 weeks.

so thats like... 600-700 a month i guess.



and you only have to pay HALF!.... dont worry, you'll be able to do it. just go job hunting, fastttt.

Answer 8

If you think that's bad, wait unitl you have to buy gas and pay insurance. Better get a job if you expect to have a car. Frankly I think 16 is too young to own a car. You need more driving experience. Be thankful what you have.

Answer 9

Well, I don't see the problem. That is Tee-totally fair. Go ahead and still get your license and drive your mom or dads car until you can pay for urs and save your money in the meantime.

Answer 10

well, is there any way that you could negotiate a different payment plan than just paying for it in a lump sum upfront, like getting your mom to go ahead and pay for the car, and then you can make payments to her once you get a job? you could ask around the neighborhood if anyone needs a babysitter and go ahead and start making money. or doing yardwork for neighbors. you could do that until you get another job.

Answer 11

I say good for your mom. You need to be thankful you're getting any help. I had to get rides to work until I had enough money to buy my own. And I had to buy my own gas and pay for my insurance. Now that I have kids of my own I plan on doing like your mom, and helping but not paying the whole thing.