I'm loosing myself?

Question

Sometimes i feel as if i shouldn't be here , and those feelings eventualy make me wonder if i am here anymore. I'm not who i used to be and i feel i have no one to turn to. I wander if i'll ever be happy with who i am or what i want to do. I feel rejected by my family and i dont know why.
I often slip into fantasy worlds about Love or friendship or jobs of an ideal world
Just like the telivision show friends
I watch it and it makes me feel
Life should be like this.
But i know it never will. I say things and do things that i cant explain why i do them.
I just dont know what to do?


and as i'm writing this their is something deep within that i cannot express and i'm scared that if i dont let it out [whatever it is] i might implode

Answer 1

I know exactly how you feel. You're not crazy, don't worry. This will pass. Sadly it will come again though, it's the way things go. Then it will leave again. It's never ending. Best thing to do is realize that you have yourself and that's all that you need. Make your peace with that.

Answer 2

Well Kate the Mate the first thing you must realise is that you are not the only one in the world that feels like this.
Kate there are hundreds of thousands of people that feel like this on a daily basis.

But where and when did these feelings arise? Did something happen in your life to bring all these feelings on?

Well you have to stop and take hold of this situation/these feelings now before they get any worst.

I think you need to buy some books on personal development and inspirational books/dvds ones on positive thinking .. one is 'Think and grow rich' by Napoleon Hill.
there are many more do a google or yahoo searh.

Also write down a list of things that make you happy and do them I did this the other day.
e.g. Eating an icecream, listening to music, meeting up with a friend for a coffee, making a meal at home for someone I like (a friend or someone you fancy)

I too feel like family don't always understand me and sometimes they can be negative when towards you in different ways and they do not even realise they are doing it. As I do not think they intentionally mean to hurt us but sometimes they just do.

Please join some new groups yoga, knitting, karate, swimming, dance, creative writing, guitar, etc..
you will meet new people and maybe this will lead to lifelong friends.

One last thing... learn to love yourself put yourself first and learn to say no to people when you have to save energy for yourself.
Explore your spirituality .. is there a G-d and step on your journey to discover your G-d this is probably the biggest void in most peoples lives.

So I hope you feel better about yourself you can change and develop and become a really happy person .. and just like the Kanye West song says ' whatever don't break ya only makes ya stronger'...

Never fall into depression it a long road to disaster...

Whatever problem you have can be solved there is a cure for everything .. a wayout of every problem.. it is the law of the universe....

But the way out is always living... whilst we are ALIVE there is always HOPE.


Stay blessed

nai nai xx

Answer 3

I've often thought that I was born too late. I'm much happier in the woods, away from people, away from any remnants of this present time. I often feel that the medieval era was where I belonged. No large clusters of people, you could live where you wanted. You could live off of the land. People did what they said and said what they did. A word and handshake was all of the contract that you needed, because people kept their word. In a way, you seem to be feeling how I do at times. Disconnected, out of place, out of sync with your present time. you have the BLAHS, but to a deeper more personal level. They used to call this MELONCHOLY. Now they call it depression and give you pills made from man-made chemicals to "correct the problem". Slipping into the fantasy worlds is fine, but you have to remember that that is only make-believe. Don't lose yourself within them too much. The crash when you come out can be devastating. GO OUT! MEET OTHER PEOPLE! Find distractions that may take your mind off of these feelings. If all else fails, go see a sociologist or a counselor of some kind. You can't really leave the who you are and the time that you are in, but maybe with help you can make better sense of it. Good luck and KEEP IT GRUVY!!

Answer 4

it sounds like you are withdrawing, maybe due to having difficult things to face in life, or the fear of attempting to achieve your goals. when you start doing more fantasizing then living, your "real " life doesn't get better , only worse, and you will feel distanced from life and those around you.
at the same time, realize that you are now creating, becoming, who you will be, and while all of the things you wish for might not be possible, many of them will be
so i would make a list of the topics of your fantasy world, what qualities you have in it, how are your friends in it, what type jobs etc etc then see if there are steps you can take, to make that become your reality, probably not exactly, but find things and people you enjoy, and you will then develop into a person who is happier with their life and theirselves
for instance, if your fantasy is of being a popular singer, you could take some voice lessons, and improve , that would be a positive step even if you only sing for yourself or around friends


also look at what is bothering you in life, these things often are what cause someone to create a "day dream" fantasy place, what can you do to resolve some of the issues, or are there things you just must accept, and move on from
also, talking with a therapist, a psychologist (not a psychiratrist!) helps alot, to get to the root of the problems, what you are avoiding
while a little fantasy is ok, and can actually help you imagine how you wish to become, too much is very negative. i also did that when i was younger, and felt more comfortable with myself as i moved away from it, into life, with its good things but also its faults, and accepted and felt good about my acheivements, but also accepted my defeats

Answer 5

You know what?


Everybody has times in their life when they feel that way. It is part of growing and realizing that life is bigger than we are.

Life isn't like "Friends" on TV. It is more like "The Roseanne Barr Show."

I think that, for young men anyway, it is a unconscious pushing away from the family so that we go out on our own and begin anew.

No body can tell you what to do. All I suggest to you is to think about one thing. "Once you have done a thing you can't undo it."

Think about what you are doing. What does this look like from the viewpoint of other people. Do I look like I'm in control or do I look silly to them? We sometimes fail to consider how our actions are perceived by others and once we do act the lasting impression is something we can't take back.

You will be okay. We all went through it. You will develop new friends and find a path all your own and soon this phase will be behind you and you will be a working stiff like the rest of us.




g-day!

Answer 6

I kinda know what your saying, watching friends and cheers before that makes me wish and long to be in a tight knit community of people, friends and family where these things really do happen and people are really there for each other no matter what ??.

I'm often writing songs and poems about love and soul mates and i guess this whole perfect life thing is what i desire ?.

I know in my heart it might never come true but there's always a slight chance it might ??.

In this real world Ive been let down by friends and family and have mostly fair-weather friends now and after giving my all to them i feel let down now I'm ill and they are no where in sight !!.

I hope love, friendship and real happiness finds you real soon :-)

Answer 7

You sound like you need more control over your environment. I like what you want so I think the world would be better for those of us in it if you had more power. So plan and take classes and get your self in a position of authority over people and you can make it better.

Being like the crowd insures only one thing, you will never lead into the future unless the future stays the same. Leaders are always on the margin calling.

Answer 8

find the courage to speak to someone close to u and explain how u feel, dont try and live in a fantasy world as u need real answers from real people if u are brave and speak to a friend or relative it will be the first step to getting back to reality as im sure the people you know would be upset to know that u feel u cant ask them for help when they would love to do this for u. dont give up go and get the help u need very soon as u are not alone.

Answer 9

Alright darlin? when ever somebody writes like you do, it makes me realise,that we are all the same deep down really. Only some people keep it all inside, bad move i reakon. Not like you though kate, let it all out whatever it is. Cos you might just implode!! Also makes you realise just wot a load of crapp it is on telly. It aint real life is it? I get really bad paranoia, so bad in fact, when i think about it later, its unbelieveable what i had just been thinking of myself. But paranoia keeps me alert, awake, on the ball, ready. For what? **** knows. I aint got no mates,which is a good thing. Me old man dont want to know me. Me mum hates me. But do you know why i keep on smiling,laughing, and enjoying my own company, its cos i aint alone. When there is people like you around, we aint alone!! know wot i mean?

Answer 10

Wow--you have the hormones of a teenager!!!
This is normal.
Just get the best education you can get and make the best life for you that you can.
Your life will be whatever you make of it!!!
I suggest that you keep a journal in which you can express all of your feelings.
You are not going to implode or explode!!! You are going to grow up!!!
Good luck and may God bless you.