someone who in the past had, but no longer does raped someone or molested children. Why/Why not?
2007-08-18 09:48:19 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
No friggin way!
2007-08-18 09:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 2⤋
sex offender is a broad term. some people charged with that were 21 and the other was like 17. depends on what they did. if it was rape or molestation then no. i don't believe they change ever. i think some can restrain for a little while but they never truly can get rid of the urge. since this is marrying think of the children you could have and the possibleness of being molested or raped because you believed they "could" change
2007-08-18 09:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by Victoria Kelly 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I know a woman who did just that - she married a sex offender - who no longer molested children, and sure enough 3 years later he started on her teenage daughter, the mother believed the offender - as he was a competent liar, and she was just a teenager. He managed to wreck someone else's life, and she's still trying to cope with all this even though it happened many years ago. Once bitten, twice shy.
If someone can do that to an innocent and defenceless child, they don't deserve happiness.
2007-08-18 15:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Girly McFemale:
A guy recently got arrested and will be a considered a sex offender, because he was jogging nude when no one else was around, and the cop noticed him and arrested him(not condoning his behavior, but is it equivalent to child-molesting?).
It made me wonder if teenagers who go skinny-dipping(swimming in the nude), or women who leave their windows open when changing for the neighborhood to see, get arrested and become registered sex offenders? Nah! It's only men who get arrested, because men are viewed as evil.
If I was a victim of rape or child molestation, I would seriously be insulted if they used the same name for those who run nude with no one around or a 19 and 17 year old having a relationship. Our laws need serious modification. These guys will have someone calling their neighbors and telling them that they're a sexual offender for the rest of their lives. It also desensitizes the true victims.
My point: Depends on the situation and you may want to consider the actual situation(and confirm it yourself--don't take his/her word --- he/she could also be a compulsive liar)... but rapist/child molestors are generally sociopathic, and I would suggest not in these cases. A person can not distinguish a mentally healthy person from a sociopath. They appear normal.
2007-08-18 10:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by Nep 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
That depends on your definition of a sex offender.
For the most part i would say no way. But considering in my town (and many others) there are people who must register as a sex offender for simply pulling a high school or college prank and mooning some buddies while driving in a limo on Prom Night.
Yes, we actually have a case in my city regarding that. A 18 year old on his way to the prom with his buddies mooned a group of girls in another limo, since some were under 18 the county prosecutor and local police decided to label it a sexually oriented crime and is trying to make the kid register as a sex offender.
2007-08-18 11:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why are people stating "it would depend on the offense" when the questioner clearly stated what the offenses were, rape and child molestation? And I would really love to know who is giving the thumbs down to people that state they wouldn't date/marry a convicted rapist or child molester. What is wrong with stating you wouldn't date either one of those? It isn't like they are stating they wouldn't date some one that is considered a sex offender because they mooned some one or went jogging naked, they are answering "No" to the clearly defined offenses by the asker, "raped someone or molested children".
Me, I would date neither. Why? Because I have been molested and raped, and I have two kids, so why would I allow someone like that into my life?
2007-08-18 12:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by littlevivi 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It all depends on the sex offence. If it was a rapist, I would murder them, because rape is worse thsn murder - it is, because it screws people up for the rest of their lives. If it was a paedophile, I'd probably kick them in the head. But if it was simply a teacher (of around twenty-two years of age) who had a relationship with a fifteen year old, that would be fine. These cretins in charge would have us believe that an adult having a sexual relationship with a four year old - which IS wrong - is the same as an adult who goes out with a fifteen year old. It isn't: the fifteen year old never has his or her say in the matter - if they did, I'm sure that there would be far fewer sex-offenders out there.
2007-08-19 00:35:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
im all for giving people second chances, but i dont know on this one, it would kill me too much to fall pregnant and have my child whipped away by social services within the hour of birth because they would think the father too much of a risk. i dont think i could survive that.
if it was something as serious as you say, rape, or molestation i dont think i could bring myself to do it, but at the same time it depends on how severe it is, if in say the case of molestation, now a days if a student comes crying to a teacher about something and grabs onto the teacher for a hug and the teacher doesnt push away, that could be chargable under the sex offenders act, and could even be placed down as indecent offences on a minor or molestation, and in that case then i dont think there is anything to worry about. it all depends on the circumstances of the conviction i guess. and whether they were actually guilty, miscarriages of justice to occur, and im sure there are plenty of people out there wronly convicted.
2007-08-18 09:56:46 · answer #8 · answered by animallovinggirlie 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
sex offenders are sick in the head. So there is no way I can consider going out with or marrying him.
A leopard never changes its spots. Any one who is a convicted offender is bad news
2007-08-19 09:24:07 · answer #9 · answered by soraya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe there is a person out there for everyone. But when I would give them a chance I would make sure the date was in a public place and make completely sure that that now they are clean. Everyone deserves a second chance at love.
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2007-08-18 12:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you consider that you are infallible? if you do and you feel certain that the person wont do it again - then you also wont hear it form your children complain (or dont, but show it as they develop)
if you think you can be wrong - what if you are wrong about them in believeing they wont?
the question can never be about them - the kids or the kids that could come of it should be the question.
2007-08-19 04:03:48 · answer #11 · answered by Andy C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋