How can I put the romance back in to my marriage of 3 years?

Question

I reallly love my husband but since we have had our baby its hard to get romantic. Would like some sexy ideas.We really haven't had a date since we've been married.

Answer 1

Here is the key: Go back to when you fell in love, and do those things again. Try a second honeymoon. Be silly about things. If he likes sports, watch with him. If she likes shopping, go with her, take an active part.

Answer 2

Sugar Bug once the initial honeymoon stage of a relationship is over sometimes the romance seems to fade a little. Best way to rejuvinate what is missing is to do some of the things you two used to do together before you were married. To go out on dates again. To communicate openly and honestly with each other about what your needs and wants are in the romance department and attempt to regain the spirit. Sometimes it is even necessary to surprise the other party by doing something that is a little different. But most importantly is to talk about what's missing in my opinion, and if things appear to be getting a bit stale to try something new and exciting to you both. Even a weekend away with only the pair of you can sometimes be of help. Best of luck to both of you.

Answer 3

The most important thing to remember is "never stop dating each other". If you enjoy cooking, try making a romantic dinner for two. Candles and romantic music is always a great mood setter. Place some hershey's kisses in the shape of a heart on his pillow with a note that reads "Forever Love" I promise he will love and appreciate all the effort!

Answer 4

Is there a family member that can take your child for an afternoon or evening? I was never big on leaving my kids with someone else because I worked full time, but sometimes a Saturday afternoon, or a Friday night was fun to go out to dinner, or maybe for drinks. We use to take our kids on our bikes (kids seats on the back of ours), and ride around the neighborhood. Rent a movie and put it in when the baby is sleeping - enjoy something together. I like to massage my husband's back (his favorite!), and SHOW him how much I love him, instead of telling him. I love to cook, so sometimes I'll make something extra special for him - something that he knows takes extra effort on my part. Take a shower with him - and wash his back when the baby is sleeping. There are so many small things you can do to spark a flame! Getting there is half of the fun!

Answer 5

If your baby was just born, you will go through a stage. I'm not sure if everyone does it, but we did for about 8-9 months. Try little odd things that show him that you love him. I know a baby requires 100% attention, but your husband requires at least 50%, if you add it up-- yeah you have to try extra hard. If you want your child to grow up not from a broken home you will find a % that your husband is happy with, but you need to communicate and make sure he understands that the baby needs attention too. and you need attention also. He needs to try harder with you too. Don't listen to the 3 year it's gone b.s.!! Congratulations you had a baby!!!

Answer 6

This is from a guys point of view...

Some women after getting married, stop looking after themselves. I.e., they don't fix their hair anymore, they don't dress sexy/attractive, they don't do their nails, they are not clean/hygienic etc. Are you keeping yourself at the edge? We men like that (well, at least I do!). My wife (been married 9 years) still looks like it was just yesterday. And, she doesn't just sit at home looking after kids or cooking all day. She works, cleans, juggles family/work life and still manages to look 'hot'. And, no...I'm not a lazy bum. I am heavily involved in the family life as well. It's just not on her.

Bottom line: Keep yourself sexy, attractive and up to date with what's going around you and the world. Not only will you feel good but you will make your other half feel good as well. Stay attractive and intelligent as well.

Hope I helped...

Answer 7

You have hit one of the plato's 3,7, and 10. After the 10th year you have reached the summit. Be yourself and enjoy life as it comes to you. Don't look for things that aren't there. Isn't it nice that you don't have to "date" him any longer. Don't change anything just add little things that he will notice. Has he said anything that makes you think you need romance or are you bored with things at this point. If it is the latter be very careful.

Answer 8

I find the best way to put the romance back in is to treat your partner like you aren't living together. Send a special gift to work -- flowers for ladies -- and you can get nice candy or nut baskets for guys. Put a note in their lunch when they aren't looking, so they find it when they eat lunch (if they take one from home.) Call them during their lunch and tell them what you want to do to them when they get home.

Be sure to take some time to do the things you used to do when you were dating -- my husband and I used to do "movie afternoons" where we went to the second run theatre, and ate fast food between a couple of movies. We could get 3 movies in one day, plus a little time away from home in each other's company.

Answer 9

if you can, arrange for a weekend, or even one night, away. forget about everything, and just focus on each other. once you are alone together, and don't have to worry about the baby crying, or something like that, it should all come naturally, and you'll get that romance back. and if you wear something a little slinky, it wouldn't be a bad thing. i'm sure that he'd appreciate it, a lot! ;) good luck!!!!

Answer 10

Just think of the moments when you had just started dating.
Think everyday it's your first date with your husband back again.

Forget everything else, get to know him again as you were curious on your first date.

It's all in your mind how you going to do and what you want at the end of the date :)