Ok so this guy and I were dating like a lifetime ago and recently he contacted me saying he still loves me and all this crap. I've told him that I am happy with my fiance with 2 beautiful children but he seems to not get it that there will never be anything there. He's in the military so he spends the majority of his time away from home and he doesn't even see his child most of the time. Well I deleted him from my contacts on everything but still he manages to send me messages here and there. What else could I tell him to make him understand that I am happy and I am not planning to ruin my family?
2007-08-18 08:53:33 · 19 answers · asked by estrella80_98 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like this guy is just lonely. The thought of you is keeping him going and he does need to keep going fighting for our country and all.
Tell him if he doesn't STOP bothering you with his pipe dreams, your going to have to get a restraining order on him.
The governemnt doesn't like their men having those, so if you do it, he will stop!!
2007-08-18 09:00:40 · answer #1 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And i just 0tell u if he is stubborn u are not speakme to him and perhaps u must consider about ur acquaintances the ordinarily chose him over u that night time. Possibly if u talk to them and inform them how u consider about that they'll say anything to him and be like appear i ma not making her not be here cuz u cant recover from ur self. A friend is a friend and if they're real acquaintances then they're going to talk to u and him. Just dont push him. Supply him the time that he wishes.
2016-08-04 11:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by swearingen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may need a "slap," where you tell him flat out that you have his messages and your requests that he cease to have any correspondence with you...if he does not stop now, you will contact the proper authorities concerning harassment and - when the complaint becomes a public document - send one to his Commanding Officer asking why he has so much time on his hands to harass you.
It should do the trick and - if it doesn't - you have a means to file a complaint and have spelled out the consequences. If he values his profession, he would not "pursue" you any more.
2007-08-18 09:03:21 · answer #3 · answered by Zombie Birdhouse 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just take time out of your busy schedule and ask the police can you file a restraining order.They may ask you under what grounds.If the individual is crazy enough to stalk you.He maybe bound to slip up,granted there are some crazy women as well.As humans no one is perfect.
2007-08-18 09:39:50 · answer #4 · answered by yp_will_chicago_369 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to get rid of him, next time he messages, send this message:
This message has been recorded as part of an ongoing investigation into a stalking and harassment complaint. For more information, contact {your local police number].
Guaranteed to get rid of any annoying ex's who don't seem to get the message.
2007-08-18 08:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since apparently you've been nice about it in the past, the only thing I can think of is to be a bit harsh and blunt with him. Sometimes it just takes a little extra push to knock things into place in people's heads. I believe being forceful with him will get this to happen.
2007-08-18 09:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by cometkid1000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it doesn't matter what you tell people like that, they just keep on, because somewhere, deep inside, they just can't get it into their minds that a person CAN and IS happier WITHOUT them.
What I did with my ex (and my sister did the same with her first ex) was just to totally ignore that person and the notes, the expressions finally (blessedly!) tapered off and ended.
Hope this will work for you, too!
2007-08-18 09:02:46 · answer #7 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your fiance and have him return some of the contact. The embarrassment alone will most likely be enough to send him on his way.
2007-08-18 08:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by mlk682 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make it clear... do not communicate friendliness joy, happiness, nothing of your former life... act like a different person when you are aorund him, someone he doesn't recognize and never knew before... do not allow him to be your acquaintence or have anything to do with you... That's what my friend did and after six months he gave up.
2007-08-18 09:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
u hav to come out and tell him nicley that we're not ever going to be together ever. i have a family now and a fiance and if u loved me u would let me be happy and not ruin my life.
2007-08-18 08:59:04 · answer #10 · answered by cada-dia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋