I still love him and I still want to be with him. He broke up with me a few months ago after 3 year relationship. It's been really hard for me and quite painful. I wanted to cut contact with him since I know that staying in contact hurts but he did not want that. He gets all upset and sad when I want to do that. He ended it because he didn't want to have a long-distance anymore but he tells me for now it's the end until the situation changes in case we move closer. He tried to find a job closer but he didn't get one he wanted. We are meeting each other soon to talk about everything face to face. We argue over the phone because I get upset if he is not there for me. He tells me that it would make him feel sick imagining me with someone else and I told him the same. I just don't know what to do. I want to cut contact to forget but I worry it may finish everything for good. But he says he doesn't want to be with me now in a long-distance anymore. When I meet him how should I be with him?
2007-08-18 07:41:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You cant waste your life pining for what sounds like a no no. You need to seriously consider your situation before your health and well being are compromised.
2007-08-18 07:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by breedgemh_101 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love is sooo hard! Obviously you love him, from what you are saying it sounds as if he loves you too. The question I have is why is he holding on/yet cutting the relationship ties while he is away? It seems like since he says he doesn't want you with anyone else, the only way to truly go down that road is to be together! Long distance or not, it could work if you both know its temporary. Are you sure that he doesn't want to be able to say to others that he is single? The way you all are, it seems he is keeping his options open. When you meet up with him, stay cool. Be yourself and have fun. Be honest that you want a relationship but show you r independent and can handle your emotions. If he walks away after your meeting with the same attitude, than let him go.. the stars will be in your favor when he sees you getting over him.
2007-08-18 14:54:04 · answer #2 · answered by Elle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I know EXACTLY how you feel (except I'm a guy). I'm in that same situation right now and I'm telling you sometimes the thought of us not being together is overwhelming, but I keep pushing on hoping that all will work out for the best someday.
I'm in quite a bad situation right now (house arrest for the next year) and things just arent working out how I planned. I Didnt expect this to happen the way it did, so now who knows..
I do know that we love each other very much and will push on throughout this next year and that no matter what happens, we will always have each other, even if that means being the best of friends.
2007-08-18 15:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by phod5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same positon - mine told me he couldn't stand the long-distance and wanted to finish the relationship, but still loved me.So I tried so hard to be supportive of all his problems without putting any pressure on him, only to find that he was seeing someone else. I now realise that if he had loved me he would have moved closer to me, and that he was only trying to keep his options open in case things didn't work out with his new woman. Believe me, you are better off without him.
2007-08-18 15:44:22 · answer #4 · answered by solicitor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt want a long distance relationship. But he wants to get back with you if he moves closer. He needs to either make a committment or finish it properly instead of playing games with you. Tell him its all or nothing. After 3 years he should know if he loves you enough to make a committment even if its hard going,
2007-08-18 14:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by jeanimus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He chose to break off the relationship yet he doesn't want you to move on. Sounds kind of selfish to me. Like he is holding onto you until something better comes along. Tell him he cant have his cake and eat it too. You are either in a relationship or not. He can't have it both ways.
2007-08-18 14:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by D and G Gifts Etc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say what you need to do is... when you're with him dont be to needy act as if you just met him and act like none of that dramma happened and DONT bring it up and if he brings it up answer any question he has then change the subject.. and you actually see him in your future? picture your future is he in it? i mean like were does he fit in? is he ur future husband or just someone from ur past? or a close friend... i mean if you dont see him playing a role in ur future maybe it's not worth getting back together and you should just move on!! if you do see him in your future then talk to him tell him that if he wants to be in ur future he needs to decide whether he finds you inportant unough to get over his problem with being long disance and if not u need to move on and forget him no matter how angry he gets! hope that helps!!
2007-08-18 14:59:08 · answer #7 · answered by * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this would be a tough situation.....if he really wants you, then he will get a closer job. Sorry if this doesnt help but I've never been in a situation like this b4.
2007-08-18 14:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by cheryanr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't meet him. he left the relationship....end of story. Move on and have a life, girl. He's only trying to keep you on a string, forget him!
2007-08-18 14:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by drjaycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not meet him,sounds to me like he has someone closer and just wants to keep you hanging on just in case.Dump him .
2007-08-18 14:48:30 · answer #10 · answered by newtex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋