And you're having a boyfriend too. Would you rather run away with the one you love than being forced to get married with a loser?
2007-08-18 07:33:06 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
THIS IS NOT MY PROBLEM, ANYONE!!! I'M JUST ASKING BECAUSE THIS HAPPENS A LOT IN MY COUNTRY....
2007-08-18 09:50:44 · update #1
Love rarely lasts in a marriage anymore financial security does and prearranged marriages probably last longer than love based ones. Your parents are deserving of your respect for wanting what is best for you even if we feel it is misdirected.
2007-08-25 22:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by warthog 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Running away could make things worse...customs and traditions in some cultures are very strict and if U are raise that way that is all U know, if U are not raised that way U might be a bit lucky, however, now days everyone does what they want to do, with or without their parents blessing or consent.....
My suggestion is to try and talk to Ur parents when they first start talking to U about the whole thing, face to face!!
Good Luck with whom ever this is happening to!!
:)
2007-08-25 01:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by SuasGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suspected you might be from another culture. Arranged marriages are the norm in many parts of the world, they don't care what the woman wants ot thinks, you're "just a woman", a second class citizen, a possession. You don't say how old you are or any other details. Either way, you can perpetuate the "old ways" or refuse to marry. You'll probably be miserable either way, but at least you won't be married to someone you "hate".
2007-08-18 17:17:30 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents that Lincoln freed the slaves and that you are free to marry anyone you want..... This is America not some third world country where they still have arranged marriages.
If they can't respect that then leave with your boyfriend if you are 18 or older....if you are not yet 18 then they can't force you to marry someone either..... you could go to court and asked to become emancipated.
2007-08-18 14:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see a lot of "run away" in the answers here, but nobody is saying where you should run TO.
If you are underage, child protective services can be notified anonymously about what's going on - perhaps your friends or your boyfriend could call them?
If you are over 18,and living at home, and this is a matter of cultural differences - your safety may be an issue.there will be in your local phone book a listing for a hotline for battered women.THEY may have options for you( whether you are battered or not).
The point is, get your *** in gear and find an escape route.
2007-08-18 15:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by min 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents shouldn't force you to get married. Even if it may be because of your religion or your traditions. Love should be a decision that you shoukd make yourself not anyone else. RUNAWAY WITH THE MAN YOU LOVE! DONT LISTEN TO WHAT EVERYONE ELSE SAYS! RUUUNN! This plan works all the time. Get married to the man you love secretly. Then your parents cant force you to get married.
2007-08-23 11:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had to pick between the man I am married to now and some loser. I would run away for sure, things would definitely be tough, but if it is true love, it would be worth it!
2007-08-23 03:03:00 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. CT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one no one can force you to do anything you don't want to do. If you have no choice then I would run away and marry the man I love not live unhappy with a man I hate. Everything about your life would be awful....
2007-08-18 14:44:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure about all the laws and such in your country, but ideally, I would say don't let your parents run your life (if you're an adult). You have to live with a spouse your whole life, don't let someone else choose that person for you.
2007-08-22 18:29:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you are from a society that is typically Indian.If the boyfriend can support you or you have a good job, kiss your parents good-
bye and marry the boy you love and live happily ever after,I hope.
2007-08-22 15:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by ramchandra b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some facts about the guy which you can use.
Let's say if your parents are religious , then compare his & your chart and see if stars don't match. Show your parents your stars are not matching etc etc.
Just act with your mind not with your emotions (Love/Hate are emotions).
Your younger brain is more active and I am sure you will come up with some creative idea :)
2007-08-18 15:33:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋