I just found out that the guy I am seeing is very much married ~ do I walk away or tell his wife~ I feel she has every right to know but is it right my place to do so ? i am completly devasted for her....
2007-08-18 07:12:24 · 21 answers · asked by silvertouch2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Walk, but tell him why. He needs to come clean with her himself, I don't think its your place. Dont' feel bad about dating a married man if you really didn't know.
2007-08-18 07:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Interesting.... I'll bet men and women have differing answers for this one... I'd say it all depends on your character and integrity. I'm a little surprised you didn't know he was married, maybe the relationship isn't that old. I'd say skip the vengeance and take the high road. Tell him you don't condone or approve of his tactics, and that he deceived you. Tell him this is why you're going to walk away, and if he persists, then tell his wife. After all, albeit unknowingly, you were the "other woman". I don't know if I'd want to face his wife if I were you. She just might not be all smiling and appreciative of the information....
2007-08-18 10:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do both. First walk away then go strait to his wife and tell her. She deserves to know what kind of a man she is married to. I am a faithful husband and when my wife cheated no one told me even though they knew it was happening. Don't put her in to that position
2007-08-18 08:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by maskdjuggalo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away now. You know he is married so you need to break it off with him if you have not done so already. Suggest that he tell his wife about the affair. If he doesn't do it, then ask yourself, would you want to know if your husband was cheating on you?
2007-08-18 07:51:47 · answer #4 · answered by Mastershake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This very much complicated for you because the guy you was seeing is married and you know he's married. Listen i know that you are not thinking clearly right now because you are hurt also. But listen this could turn on you in a negative way just mine your own business he will get whats coming to him.
best of luck.
2007-08-18 07:26:29 · answer #5 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you tell her she'll be hurt. Initially, she may take some shots at you. But in short order her fury will turn on him.
I don't have the correct answer for you. I'm not sure what I'd do if I was in this situation. But.....in today's world, it's probably best she knows. If he's cheating now, he'll be cheating later. She doesn't want to find out by getting HPV or herpes. Being told sucks. Getting a lifelong disease and finding out that way I'm sure sucks even more.
2007-08-18 07:18:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If he got you involved with him based on a lie that he wasn't married that was a terrible thing for him to do to you. I would be mad as hell that he took advantage of my emotions and feelings and used me like that! As for his wife it is good that you have compassion and understanding of what is going on in her world and I would meet up with her and give her this information. This man has no respect for you his wife and any other woman that is unfortunate to get caught up with him. Maybe if the wife is informed she may want to work on her marriage and get the help he needs by going into couseling with him? Who knows maybe you will even save her life before he continues to cheat and gives her a life threatening disease. Take care and good luck.
2007-08-18 07:46:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do both! Walk to her, tell her, and walk away from the dog that HE is. At least you can save your self respect. I would want someone to tell me. Can you get a picture of the two of you together? Send it to her with an explanation if you don't want to face her and be sure to tell her how sorry you are because dogface lied to you. Good luck!
2007-08-18 07:21:10 · answer #8 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you mean do you walk away? yes you walk away and yes you tell her and you take whatever wrath she gives you, granted you say you just found out he is married but now you do what is right and you get out and you tell her
2007-08-18 07:30:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh yeah right !!!!I sure you you understand your own motives.You want her out of the way so you can have him to yourself.When was the last time you went to this man's house?
Sure the answer is NEVER.So you see,you have known all along.What good will it do to dump your venomous guilt on her?
Live with your own guilt.In some cases ignorance is bliss.this my dear is one such instance.
Should you walk away?So you are still hanging in there?
2007-08-18 07:33:28 · answer #10 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋