My huband's ex wanted to call the police on him because he told his disrespectful children that he doesn't have any other choice but start spanking them since they do not listen to him ever! I know he was not serious though. My husband was really hurt by her words....He has done so much for his kids and kissed her *** for years for the sake of the kids! He told me that nobody ever hurt him as much as she did when she threatened to call the cops on him. Is that normal? I mean, I think that people have a power to hurt you the most when you love them more than anybody in your life and when you are very close to them. My husband had to go through a lot - our relationship was less than perfect at the beginning, his parents died, he lost his best friend, etc.. And still his ex has such a power over him ? Why? I do not understand....It doesn't look like he is still in love with her, I know that he loves me. He wanted to divorce his ex for years but stayed for the kids and then finally left.
2007-08-18 07:11:40 · 7 answers · asked by Sandy K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, threatening to spank the children is not going to make him a child abuser. And if the kids told her that, then the ex is using the kids as pawns, which is not going to look good on her part. If the kids end up with marks on them from spanking, that's when something can be done about it, but calling the police on a threat is not solving anything. Sounds like she is very vindictive. Sounds like she knows how to push his buttons. He probably feels that she should know that he wouldn't do that and saying that is an insult to his character. Family counseling for all of you, including the kids, would help with dealing with someone like her and the way she is manipulating him and the kids.
2007-08-18 07:27:25 · answer #1 · answered by Linda K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Were you the 'other woman' during his marriage? She may feel betrayed and still feel anger from his cheating, if that was the case; and, she is trying to hurt him as he did her. He, at one time, loved her very much and may still have loved her but couldn't live with her. She is the mother of his child and I am sure any harsh words regarding his treatment of their child would hurt him. You just try to be there to support him and not worry about the ex; he is with you, not her; he has committed to you. She will a part of his life while the child is under-age and in her home. All you can do is be understanding of his feelings and show him how much you love and value him.
2007-08-18 14:42:01 · answer #2 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has that power because of the kids, not because he loves her. She can threaten him with his kids. If she had called the cops it could have turned out that he wouldn't get to see his kids for a while. You have to understand that when you are dealing with someone you are no longer with and you have kids with them, then they have a lot of power to hurt you if they really wanted to.
2007-08-18 14:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by mom0202 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been married and are you sure he does not have a thing for her? It might have to do with the whole issue of disrespect, meaning that he flet disrespected by her statement but it is an unusual thing to say about her calling the police.
2007-08-18 14:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like a jerk who wants brats.. this sounds familiar just parts of it.. but my husbands son didnt make trouble...they need punishment...when theyre with him He decides...she can lump it
2007-08-18 14:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is the question?
2007-08-18 14:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cool
2007-08-18 14:17:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋