I'm currently dating this guy who I feel doesn't even have the feelings for me anymore!! I practicly go to bed every night crying!! Its hard for me to express my feelings toward him and tell him becasue he blows up at me!! and when ever we get to see eachother its like pulling teeth!! and get this I even have a hotts for this fine Guy!! I mean my guy doesn't even seem like hes even trying to move forward in this relationship!! Hes hardly working hardly sees his daughter and hardly sees me!! boy oh boy what to do!!
How do you tell someone that you want to break up but with out breaking his heart?
I mean im not telling him that he can't see his daughter, but on the other hard hes really not up for the challenge to be a father figure to her, but with him working all the time and hardly gets to see her, its like hes not even trying, and I want the best for my little girl!!
2007-08-18 06:31:14 · 17 answers · asked by ~*^_^Charity^_^*~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can already say that this guy has anger issues. No one deserves to be in an abusive relationship whether its emotional or physical. This sounds like both.
I would just tell him that you can't be with him anymore but make sure other people are around.
2007-08-18 06:39:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you wont break his heart too bad if he isn't around much. Just let it go. Being a father (is it his daughter?), is separate from being a partner. He should still be able to see the daughter (if it's his), regardless if you two are together. Why waste anymore tears on this guy. And by all means, don't rush on to the next "fine guy", that would no be in the best interest of your daughter or you. Leave this guy for the right reasons.
2007-08-18 06:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by anneicare 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few things are not clear:
(1) Is it that he has a daughter by a previous marriage?
OR
(2) Is it that you are dating the guy and you have a daughter with him? In which case, it sounds like you have the cart before the horse, honey! You are supposed to marry him FIRST, then make babies!
If it is the first case, then you are just a pit stop for him on the rebound. Cut him off and move on because he already has moved on.
If it is the second case, you can ask him to go into family counseling with you. If that doesn't work, you need to break up with him, go down to the courthouse and file for child support.
2007-08-18 06:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice on this situation would be to tell him how you feel then say I really don't want to be in this relationship anymore. Tell him you are unhappy. I would also tell him that you will allow him to see his daughter, but you are not going to beg him to come see her either. Explain that you are also trying to do the best for your child. This should not break his heart, because honestly it sounds like he truely doesn't care anyways. You and your daughter deserve someone who is going to care about both of you and love both of you the way yall are suppose to be loved. Hope this helped some.
2007-08-18 07:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are in a relationship with a person and feel that they dont have feelings for you anymore sit down and speak to them how you are feeling and see if you can get the answer you need. You have a child to together this doesnt mean you have to be unhappy because you have a child together. Than what you do is move on if you love him god will mend your broken heart. Best of luck
2007-08-18 06:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's working all the time to provide for you what more can he do? You’re telling complete strangers he's not up to the challenge is wrong but then again you don't seem to be up against the challenge of helping him be the dad you want him to be.
I sort of got lost where you said your dating this guy but you’re the mother of his daughter.
You will break his heart when you break up so thinking there's a way to do it nice is a bit naive.
It doesn’t sound like you've tried all that hard to communicate with him.
2007-08-18 06:45:11 · answer #6 · answered by Fixguy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you don't want to break his heart because............?
Do you enjoy being treated this way? I think you and your daughter can do better. Would you want your daughter growing up knowing that mommy let daddy abuse her? If you do not take action for yourself, at least do it for your daughter. She deserves that much. Take a hard look at her and tell yourself that you want more for her. You have the courage deep within you and you can do it. You can't just think about yourself and breaking his heart. Yours is already broken. Be strong. Be smart. Get out now before the blow ups turn in to something physical.
2007-08-18 06:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by Diana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you break his heart? You mention that he blows up at you everytime you try to have a conversation at him. Just tell him, it can't get much worse than that.
Constant arguing in the house is not going to be good for your daughter. So make the decision now to break up with him.
2007-08-18 06:40:17 · answer #8 · answered by itchybubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your depiction above , he rolls in uses you for his needs , you barely see one another. He treats you more like a possession than a person that loves and respects you. What I don't understand is how you even feel remotely bad for not wanting him. He isn't there for you, he isn't working, he doesn't see his child, Its time young lady, find a man that's caring , loving and is there for you and your child. there are plenty of them out there. Your right, he isn't trying. I think you should break it off, deal with the fall out and move on ,find that fine guy you speak of...Good Luck
2007-08-18 06:45:13 · answer #9 · answered by mlk682 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this happen in a previous relationship of mine. I was in your position. sad, lonely, feeling rejected. But then oddly everything kind of flipped 180. He became the person who was trying to be with me while i became uninterested. I think that before you make any large decisions you need to consider all the options carefully. I don't think that you're going to get away with this with out breaking his heart sadly enough. But this isn't about him, its about you and your future. You need to make sure you are happy, and if you aren't then modify your life to improve it. Good luck darling
2007-08-18 06:43:51 · answer #10 · answered by Alyssa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋