My best friend has a fiance' and he is a dick to her. I love my bestfriend with my whole heart. But he gets jealous when she talks to people online. And he told me the last time they fought that if they got into it again he would hit her. And she stayed with him. Her and i joked around about how i wanted to talk to her internet friend. And he got really mad and said i was helping her cheat. And that im never allowed at their appartment ever again.
He also said i better watch my back around him & he hopes he never sees me agian. But the worst part in the text messages was him saying that She was going to end up making him kill her. I let her read the messages and hear the voice mail and she is still with him.
She sneaks phone calls to me. THIS IS MY BEST FRIEND OF 7 years! I mean what am i suppose to do? I love her to death but i think she is being stupid for staying with him.
Also, he has an abuse past. He beat his ex girlfriend almost daily. He has never hit my friend though.
2007-08-18 05:38:29 · 15 answers · asked by Chelsea Marie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Also, I feel bad becuase she is starting College on monday and Im a high school Sr. so im already in school. And if she needs me she cant call me or anything. And i can hardly text her back. This situation is getting depressing.
2007-08-18 06:28:15 · update #1
He is slowly roping her into a long-term abusive relationship.
You must remain available to her. If he makes any more threats to you about your personal safety for being her friend, file a report and restraining order with the police.
Tell your friend that he doesn't love her; he hates himself and is using her badly.
There are THOUSANDS of wonderful boyfriends out there; your friend needs to get busy finding one of them.
2007-08-18 05:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Domestic violence is a crime and is not tolerated.
Report it to the domestic abuse helpline and they will investigate.
If there's nothing to prove he'll get a wake up call that people are watching and will do something about it. Bullies are cowards after all so this may stop him.
If there is something proven then he'll get whats coming.
Hopefully that will be some huge cellmate.
2007-08-18 05:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to leave him and you should stay away from him, he could be serious. Tell her you don't want someone like that in her life and if she stays with him, you have to cut ties with her for YOUR safety. That is tough love, but if she is stubborn, you don't have to be. Let her know if she leaves him, you will help her, get a tro (for both of you), get a job, place to stay. Unfortunately, I have a feeling no matter what she choses, there are worse days ahead.
2007-08-18 05:54:14 · answer #3 · answered by hooahwife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need 2 get her parents and the police involved because u dont want to see her or your obituary in the newspaper good luk but u also need to get your parents involved because he said that u need to watch your back girl u got 2 do somethin and stop this mad man
goodluck and i will be prayin 4 u
also dont be afraid just because he might be bigger than u help your friend and get her parents ivolved because if that had happened to me my daddy would have probably beat the guys *** so girl stay strong and good luck
2007-08-18 05:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by shouty102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds like how it used to be with my sister & her ex-fiance.
if i was her, i would've left the first time he accused me of cheating. i can't stand when someone tries to tell me that i'm doing something that i haven't done.
it'll probably get to the point where he'll try calling the cops on her & he'll try to make her look like the bad person in the relationship. but hopefully it doesn't get to that point.
maybe she'll just realize that she's wasting her time being with him. if he makes her happy most of the time, she probably won't wanna leave him. but you never know..
2007-08-18 05:47:23 · answer #5 · answered by livelaughlove89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've probably had this talk with your friend.
But if you hadn't talk to her! She probably
is in this relationship deep but, just explain to
her that you worry for her and don't want her
to start getting beat. And if he really does start
hitting her, you should just pull her out the
relationship yourself.
2007-08-18 05:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by marylie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly all you can do is support your friend and encourage her to stay strong and be safe. She has to make the decison to leave.
I hope she wisens up!
I have been in her spot before, it isn't easy.
2007-08-18 05:43:54 · answer #7 · answered by Learning2livelife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is in some serious trouble. Do something as soon as possible to help her. I don't know what to do though...Call the cops, talk to her parents about it, talk to her about it, I don't know.... good luck though
2007-08-18 05:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to someone who is close to her and explain the situation and tell them to look after her. That is all you can do for her.
2007-08-18 05:43:58 · answer #9 · answered by michael2003c2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is better to break the relation as she would never be happy with him . ask her to start a new life with new thoughts ,funs.........leaving the bad chapter behind forever. You just be with her always
2007-08-18 06:00:56 · answer #10 · answered by ray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋