Lost my only son of 13 yrs on26/4/07. Hown can I suvive in this lonely world?

Question

How can I mix up with peopole, because I dont like to mix up with others now a days. I am a high level govt officer of tax (revnue & treasury) depertment. I dont like my job now. I am 39yrs. Everything I used to like earlier is becoming testless. What is the way to get out of all these trouma ?

Answer 1

Firstly I'd like to let you know how terrible it is to experience the events that you are currently having and give my condolences for the lose of your young son. Fact of life is that he left your life just 4 months ago and so the lose is still pretty fresh. Perhaps there is a grief counseling service available in your area and you might be wise to seek out this help. After a proper period of time of grieving however, which differs for us all, you should be able to get on with your life. I know that it doesn't appear natural to lose your children as they are suppose to bury us and not the reverse. But attempt to remember him in good thoughts and the fun times that you spent together. Remember also that this fine young man would want you to continue to live your life to the fullest and not give up on live. If your son was involved in any sports or special talents you could always have a memorial trophy made in his honour and have it presented annually in his name. Another suggestion might be to use what resources you have available to you, ie: family doctor, family and friends, co-workers to speak with regarding how you are feeling. Your doctor may know of a group of survivors that you could go to and share your loss or may even prescribe some medication for you until you are better able to stand up on your own. Please whatever you do do not allow yourself to have a poor quality of life because of this loss however and attempt to make your son feel proud of you and your accomplishments as he looks down upon you like a guardian angel. Best of luck to you and hopefully within a year or so you will be able to grieve your loss more healthy and get on with your life. Again also please accept my condolences.

Answer 2

Losing a child is hard I lost a daughter so I kind of understand. You have this feeling that everything you once loved enjoyed and wanted out of life has no pointT. ake some time of from work to stay at home or go on a vacation alone. See a counselor. Join a support group. But most importantly grieve. Don't let anyone tell you it is not ok to grieve. You don't have to move on right now move on when your ready. And remember you never really get over the loss of a child...

Answer 3

Don't be stupid. Although you lost your son, don't ever try to hide from the world and problems. Your son will sad if he know that after his death you try to escape from the world. Try to communicate with people who can help you to have a better feelings. If you really miss your son, you can remember about the past, about how happy you were when your son still alive. but don't ever get too deep in the feelings. You could change your job if you don't like your current job. You could change it to the job you like or to the job that your son like. That way, you can excahge him. You help him to do of what he can't do now. In that way, i think you can fell better. Remember, don't ever try to escape from the problems. Just face it with all your will and strength.

Answer 4

i am sorry for your loss it must be so hard for you.
but you need to move on your son wouldnt want you to be living like this and being lonely just try letting go im not say forget bout him but try and tke some tym off work maybe go on holiday or stay with some family
if your married tlk to ur husband about it he must be feeling the same

Answer 5

I can't imagine loosing a child. All the best to you. Maybe see a grief counselor.