2007-08-18 04:44:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
tis better to hurt someone honestly than deceive them with a lie.
2007-08-19 22:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by majoti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is my opinion, based on 56 years of often having to make a decision based on whether or not it is the 'best policy'. The answer is always Yes.
But there are different ways one can handle honesty that may hurt someone, based mostly upon when, and how to give it .
Sorry, but it feels like this is going to be one of those Encyclopedia-length answers, that I don't always like to see.
Some people may be fragile in the sense that a truth given at a particular time may hurt them; in this case it may (or may not) be possible to delay giving someone the full-blown version of a truth that you suspect may hurt them until a later time, chosen for its ideal moment to lessen the pain.
Then there is the person giving someone a truth that they realize may hurt the person they are telling it too, but they themselves, if they delay, may have their 'mental' knees buckle, so to speak, being so afraid to give out that truth that they may not want to do so... in this case, I try to take the same approach as removing a band-aid; it hurts less if you just rip it right off, (tell the truth quickly, though painful).
I find that a great deal of difficult-to-tell or receive truths may have whatever pain may be generated minimized by this approach...the teller gets it out of their system quickly, thus reducing the chance that they may brood over their reluctance to tell, and the painful burden of holding this secret also is then reduced, and they may be less likely to 'chicken-out' and not tell what needs to be told.
Then there is timing. Properly timed, telling someone a painful truth may greatly reduce the pain to the receiver. Likewise, if you really pay no attention, or just do a poor and/or thoughtless job of timing, you may increase the hurt, although that was the last thing you wanted to do.
So, to sum it all up, (you're welcome), mostly, the thoughtful, yet rapid approach is the best in most all cases.
And Finally, if you dont tell the truth, but instead choose to tell a 'little white lie' while trying to spare someones' feelings, this either leads to more lies, ever more complex or convoluted, until the teller finally forgets a detail, the whole 'house of cards' collapses, and the recipient finds instead of one lie, an entire trail of them, or they find out the truth from some other unexpected source, and still get hurt, but NOW.... Friendships may be lost, relationships harmed or destroyed... Almost anything can result, none of it beneficial to any party involved.
2007-08-18 16:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by Dick Knows 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course
honesty is always the best way to go
2007-08-18 11:52:58 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is ALWAYS best. Nothing good ever came from a lie.
2007-08-18 11:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by roger b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.Honesty is not always the best policy.White lies proves so.White lies exist because of not wanting to hurt with the truth.
2007-08-18 12:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by fadingoff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah because its better to deal with it right away, because the being lied to will hurt even more once the truth finally does come out
2007-08-18 17:28:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty IS the best policy....always
2007-08-18 11:50:59 · answer #7 · answered by mary ann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not all of the time. I think if you know what you are going to say is going to hurt the person then why say it at all.
2007-08-18 11:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by NONAME 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Other wise you will go thru life living a lie.
2007-08-18 11:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah,uh did that hurt too much? T4
2007-08-18 12:08:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋