We have been together for 5 years and have a 2year old son. I have did alot and now I am in school. He makes really good money and I want to know can I get alimony from the previous years also? And, am I entitled to half of the house and child support? Help!!! He cheated and he deserves nothing!
2007-08-18 04:35:22 · 14 answers · asked by hurt&flames 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have did a lot meaning. Paid for him to go to school!!!!!!! Paid every bill in the house myself. Now I am in school and he doesn't want to support me like I support him. He says he cheated because I'm never home. Niether was he when he was in school and for all the men who think I am a gold digger....what is he a pimp. Because he sure did use me up and now trying to leave me. Is that the typical thing a real man does?
2007-08-18 06:38:52 · update #1
You're entitled to finish school, you're entitled to get a good job, and you're entitled to start making a good salary yourself. Luckily you live in a free country (I assume you're not writing from Iran or North Korea) and the world is your oyster. I hope you live near family so they can help take care of the little one.
2007-08-18 04:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by Babyface 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Based on Wisconsin, you don't get alimony based on years prior to the marriage, but as others have pointed out, the states differ, so you need to define what state you live it.
I concur with some of the others, you are the type of person that gives women a bad name. Why can't you find your own job instead of collecting alimony? Why do you have to go after his money? His infidelity means nothing when it comes to a 50/50 marital property law, but that depends again on the state you live in.
You may be angry and hurting, but taking it out on him monetarily is just making a lot of women look bad and will not help you get over the pain of being cheated on.
My divorces (yes, more than one), I got half of everything, but I made the same, or close to the same amount of money and contributed equally to the household. I feel I was justified. I never went for alimony, never wanted someone to support me. I only wanted a little help with the kids in the form of child support. If he would have been the type of person that I thought should have had the kids 50% of the time, I would have opted for no child support, but his mental state was in question.
Women of America need to stand up and learn to support themselves. Expecting help with the kids is normal, in the form of child support, or sharing of responsibilities, or a combination of that. I think Alimony should be abolished in this day and age. That belongs in those third world countries where the wife doesn't have equal rights or any say in anything in a marriage. It doesn't belong in the United States, unless there are rare circumstances (like a spouse who is physically handicapped, either the husband OR the wife).
2007-08-18 12:15:01 · answer #2 · answered by Linda K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since no fault divorces, cheating is not a factor.If the house is in both your names you are entitle to half the house and half the marital debts. You will receive child support, Probably about 20 to 25 percent of his pay. The more he makes the smaller the percentage and often less than 15 percent.
Forget alimony except for temporary alimony until the divorce is final. The previous years will not be a factor. Any money he brought into the marriage that has been co-mingled, will be half yours.
2007-08-18 12:09:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need his money? A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle..remember? That's an old feminist saying from the 70's.
Are you so weak, bitter and otherwise lazy that you need a man to support you? Judges in the USA think you are, and your post agrees with them. Women are helpless "victims" and need men to support them even after a divorce, because women are too lazy, too stupid or just too bitter to go on without the support of a man. Is that what you're saying?
Funny, if you cheat on him and he files for divorce the courts still make him pay. I wonder why that is? What makes me wonder even more, is how the feminists are deafly silent on these inequalities.
So to sum up your post
1. You're vindictive
2. You need a man to pay for your way
3. You're not good in bed, so he went elsewhere
4. You have a son you'll poison with your bitterness
5. When you get alimony and child support, you'll still seek out another man to support you.
Overall I'd say you're about average for the women of America.
2007-08-18 12:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, you've barely been in a marriage at all and will be lucky to get any alimony at all. You get child support only if you get custody of the child.
But then, your whole question seems to be more about yourself and getting paid $$$ than worrying about the child and family.
Not to sound harsh, but it makes me wonder why he cheated on you in the first place.
2007-08-18 11:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The one and a half years make it chancy for alimony, but he is required to pay child support if you get a divorce which is not challenged. Each state is different. You can check with a lawyer for a first consultation and they can tell you. Some will not charge. I did my divorce myself. i did not have any money and the judge waved the fees. They recommend you have a lawyer though when you have a child. You can file or he can.
check with your state or a lawyer....or read your state divorce laws.
2007-08-18 12:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by wildrose7 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Next time you ask this question mention the STATE. No one can help you unless they know what state you had joint custody and residency in. OK ? Everything is just "guessing". Did he claim parenthood of the child on the birth certificate? Is there Common Law in your state? Is there an Alimony Law in your state. See, my state has none of these laws, the state I just moved from has half of these and California has almost all. STATE!
2007-08-18 11:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by Conrey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Much depends on the state that you are in, as well as how much you can prove.
In a divorce, generally speaking, the assets (home, property, liquid assets, etc.) are divided equally.
Child support is given to whomever has physical custody of the child.
You need an attorney, and one that specializes in family law.
2007-08-18 11:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by Michael H 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So you lived together out of wedlock and had a child before getting married? All you can do is visit with an attorney and follow his legal advice and instructions. Good luck.
2007-08-18 12:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are entitled to get a job and work. Go to counseling and try to save your marriage! Why should he pay alimoney? Why don't you let him take care of the child and you pay HIM money to sit around!!
2007-08-18 11:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by texas mikey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋