But all we do is argue and fight and our love has just faded away and i am not in love with him anymore i do love him for being the father of my kids. I have a guy friend that i have known for three years and he comes over once in awhile to say hello to my kids and to me and now he has been hitting on me and now i am totally falling for him what do i do when i have feelings for someone else and am with another man? please help me
2007-08-18 03:54:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
why dont u dump this no good other guy and make him pay mantenance then hook up with the good samaritan cos i think he understants ur situation & u say he cums once in a while to say hello to u &the kids u deserve to be loved & hes the rite one for u.
2007-08-18 04:03:43 · answer #1 · answered by kefilwe kashe m 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I guess you do what all other women do.
You throw your relationship away like used garbage.
Take custody of the kids and make sure he only gets to see them on weekends.
Take him to court and hit him with so much child support he can't even afford to feed himself.
Take the house, car and any other property you have together so he has to try and start his life all over again.
Be nice though, give him a couple boxes to put his clothes in.
Those boxes will be all he has left after getting involved with you.
Maybe he will pass the new guy moving in on his way out the door.
Might as well just do it and get it over with, because it's either going to happened now, or after you have an affair with this other guy.
2007-08-18 12:41:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mr R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and have a good talk with man before you think about whether you love him a not.If you decided that you don't love him anymore,then you go pursue your another happiness-that means you break up.Though it may not be good for the kids but you'll need to do this for your happiness.If you really love that guy friend,it is worth it. Make sure that guy you fell in love really love you!If you still love the man,then maybe you don't really love the guy friend.Good luck in making the right decision.
Hope you find your happiness.=)
2007-08-18 11:01:16 · answer #3 · answered by fadingoff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you do anything, find out where your kids dads head is at. What I mean by this is, how does he feel about you? And look into how he feels things are going in the relationship. He may/may not feel the same way you do. And have a talk with your friend, let hem know what's going on with you. Don't let hem think your just going to be or sleep with hem because things are the way they are. Get on the same page with them both and from there you will know how to take that next step.
2007-08-18 11:12:53 · answer #4 · answered by pedebeed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send your guy friend away. He may be one of the reasons why you can't start up a new relationship with your husband.
Three children - why would you even consider destroying their stability? Kids only want one mom and one dad. They don't want what they are getting. Most kids have at least 2 moms and 2 dads or a mom with a different male figure two or three times a year.
Start thinking about your children instead of yourself. Find ways to make your marriage work.
Tell your husband that you are turning over a new leaf. You are going to start being nicer to him. Ask him what he wants in a wife and tell him what you want in a husband.
That guy friend is purely sexual and you know it. You are thinking only of yourself and you know that too.
Think about someone besides yourself. You are too self centered. Three children is enough reason to make a marriage work. Start making it work instead of trying to destroy it.
2007-08-18 11:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The Easy Option is to Give up on Your Marriage!
May I Suggest some counseling at Least before you make any rash decisions!
Don't let this 'Other' Cloud your Judgment,be honest and Open with your Husband-He deserves that Much respect(And so do you!!)
2007-08-18 11:01:25 · answer #6 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not give in to the temptation of the other man. Leave the man you are with first. Then persue the other. If you did give into temptation of the other man, and you ended up leaving the one you are with now for him, he would not be able to trust you bc he would think you would do the same to him. Just do what you have to do first, and then go from there.
2007-08-18 11:04:19 · answer #7 · answered by Angelic Valentine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can anyone say 'commitment'???
who are you committed and loyal to...anyone? love changes as time goes by, and it doesn't always feel like that breathless wonderment that it is in the beginning. if you have 3 kids with the 1st man, you should be committed to that relationship. all relationships go through transitions, and you shouldn't just jump out of it, you need to work through it...it takes WORK from BOTH of you. you may be 'attracted' to someone else, but you need to be 'committed' to someone...big difference!!
2007-08-18 11:24:09 · answer #8 · answered by SweetPandemonium 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest with your current mate. Tell him your love is fading and you need some companionship. Maybe he will come around and maybe he won't. At least he will know where you stand. Most of all you need to find some happiness for yourself, whatever you do.
2007-08-18 11:02:41 · answer #9 · answered by mike_alegend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have all the signs of "here we go again".
The THRILL of being noticed, being appreciated, being "hit on" is clouding your vision.
Maybe you and your boyfriend need to sit down and have a talk with an impartial third party (there are lots of places you can check out that give reduced-rates/free counseling) to see if you can mend what's going wrong between you two...IF you two want to repair your relationship.
2007-08-18 10:59:52 · answer #10 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋