I really wanna stop this.................?

Question

idk how to stop putting myself down, all through my life there is always somebody saying i cant do it, im not a good person, im terrible, im pathetic, ima failure, or a doormat. I dont know why i continue to let this bother me. OK maybe i do have to just believe wat they say isnt true.. but i ve been hearing it for along time............ im always being to hard on myself and putting myself down, i no this is not healthy and i shouldnt be doing it........how can i stop?

Answer 1

Surprisingly - one of the most effective ways to avoid negative thoughts is to keep yourself too busy to be able to think!

If you have waaaaaaaaaaaaay too much spare time, the bad thoughts will spread like wildfire - but if you are out there doing WHATEVER, then they won't be able to grow...

And if you're doing GOOD things with your time, that sense of self-worth will grow in place of these negative thoughts - so that when you DO have some spare time, it will be the newly-found GOOD that will start to flow.

Besides - it feels AMAZING to prove that all those people who have put you down were WRONG about you ;););)

Answer 2

Okay, there are a few simple steps that you can take to help BREAK this habbit.

Step One.
Congratulate yourself EVERYTIME you CATCH yourself with one of these thoughts in your head. YES, this is the FIRST step in BREAKING the habbit of a lifetime. Become AWARE of it.

Step Two.
EVERY TIME you catch yourself with one of those thoughts REPLACE it with something more positive about yourself.
I like myself is a good start. But make a list of say TEN to choose from each time so you PRE PREPARE your REPLACEMENT statement.

Step Three.
Get excited about the process. Enjoy CATCHING yourself and doing the exercises set out above. This will help you create a postive ATTITUDE about your NEW CHANGE.

Step Four.
Create things in your life that you can feel GOOD about. Smile at a stranger. Give someone your time just to chat. Walk someones dog for them. ect...This helps to build your self esteem.

Step Five.
Every day, choose five things about your day that you are grateful for and write them down. This helps you to focus on the positive things about your day and forces you to LOOK for them.

This is a great start, once you have done this for a month then you can take it a step further. Breaking a habbit is the same as forming one. DO IT EVERYDAY. Also, use our simple routines to program positive thought time into your day. Sitting at traffic lights, brushing our teeth, going to the toilet etc... these are times we can be triggered into POSITIVE thoughts. Line them up, I am so happy today because.....I can see, I can feel, I can think, I can walk, I can type, I can read, I can work, I can ?????????

Go for it

Answer 3

I think you mix with a lot of pathetic people! nobody deserves to hear that they are terrible and failure. Stop getting involve with these people,Find yourself some new friends. well you can't change your family,but you can improve yourself in many ways,you see the best revenge is success.set a goal,whatever you may want to do,for example go to uni,loose weight,get yourself a rich boyfriend/girlfriend,etc oh yeah,but do it for yourself.emotional abuse live deep scars on our souls,you must not let these people to make you so upset.Good luck

Answer 4

When my self-esteem was at its lowest, I had to make a list of all the things I loved about myself. I typed it up, and by the time I was finished, there were like 400 items on my list! You'd be surprised how special you are when you really sit down and think about it!

Answer 5

It is hard. I've heard it all my life, well all the while l was growing up. I still have issues with it and I am 41. It's very hard to erase 'old tapes.'
It has helped me to study psychology and sociology. I've been to various counselors, but it's very hard to find a good one.
What's helped me the most is surrounding myself with kind people. That, and childhood development classes as I did not want to repeat the pattern with my own child.
Good luck. I'll be watching other answers for my own benefit too!

EDIT: centreofinfinity...FABULOUS. thanks.

Answer 6

that happened to me till i was 26...then i figured ,,,i dont freaken give a dam about what others say. I make of my own life. They can shove their pie whole with their own words. If you want to help yourself. Learn to avoid those morons, and trust yourself more. Cuz in life they wont make any difference, but you can for them. Don't try to prove, just do what you think is right. Never ever look down at yourself. NEVER!!!!!

Answer 7

It's not always easy and the brain can vulnerbale to negative stimuli-

Just try to stay positive, stay true and stay good

Answer 8

i'm not saying your problem isn't big but you have to remember all the bigger problems that people have-starvation, the homeless, drug addicts, domestic violence, anorexics etc. then your problem should seem relatively small and you won't think about it as often.