Most of the time when you think about a threesome it is a man wanting to be with two women. Do you think it is weird for a man to want to be involved in a threesome with his wife and another man? My husband kind of hinted at this the other night and I am a bit confused by it... I think he just means that he would like to watch me be with another man... Have any of you ladies done this for fun or for your husband? What was it like? You don't have to give up details really, I just am wondering if it was an enjoyable expierience for you as a couple. Thanks.
2007-08-18 01:52:21 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My question for you is this... does your husband watch porn? Do you watch it as a couple? I would think that is the only reason that your husband would come up with this kind of idea. I think you should remind him very kindly that you are his wife and not a porn star! I know there is a double standard maybe but I would not want my wife near another man... I would freakin' lose it. If this is a fantasy, let it stay one... if you do this for him how do you go about saying no to almost anything else he wants? You do this and you open the door to two men, three men, donkeys, football teams... just say no... and maybe you should find out where his idea came from. Good luck but stay nice.
2007-08-18 02:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hey come on take a reality check can you honestly say that you want to have sex with another man in front of your husband you ought to give your husband a kick for even suggesting it. Remember the old adage the only two men who go near your genitals are your husband or partner and your doctor. There are bound to be jealousies arise from threesomes, say to your husband what is he is a better lover than you, also is the other free from std infections.
For your own self respect as woman please don't agree to this,
2007-08-18 03:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by john h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not weird for a husband to want to see a wife pleased! Think about it this way..its a way for him to see how you look when yall have sex..but with out the video camera! That and its a sexy almost taboo idea to have your spouse having sex with another lover and getting to watch. Now I know its every mans dream come true to watch two chickadees goin at it..but from experience- my husband is STRAIGHTER than a damn line- he really liked watching me with someone else. I think it also has to do with the fact he is a better lover and when its over and we talk about it- HE knows he is. Maybe its just something you two could try once- if both parties are comfortable. As long as your hubby isnt banging another guy dont be weirded out. Everyone is entitled to fantasies or life would be boring.
2007-08-18 05:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by nc_southern_belle_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a whole world of difference between thinking something & telling you about it to actually carrying it out.
As to the initial thought - I don't think it's wierd, we're all different. You might think what floats my boat is repulsive but the next person along has similar thoughts.
All I say is that if you do end up acting this out - make sure you have a rock solid relationship without any cracks beforehand because if not this could very well eat away at your relationship like a cancer & what started out as fun could turn out to be the beginning of the end.
2007-08-18 06:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mindless 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a word for this type of relationship - and it is Cuckold...
Unfortunately, the threesome is one of the biggest double standards - a guy with two girls is a STUD, while a girl with two guys is a sl*t...
Us men (yes - I am a guy) tend to get ridiculously jealous when it comes to having another man having sex with "our" woman - but don't mind quite as much (or even encourage!!) "exploring" with another woman...
I think the biggest reason for this is because of how we see the world - with our "lower" brain... To us, a woman who "needs" two men is telling us that "we are not MAN enough to please her"
Anyways - back to Cuckolding!
This practice is where the husband ACTUALLY enjoys watching his wife with other men - either in person, or by videotaping the encounter and watching it afterwords...
2007-08-18 02:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can imagine it would be a lot of fun. Women fantasizing about being with two men at once is a common fantasy, but I don't think it's going to happen. My partner just isn't into that kind of thing although he'd be up for adding another girl, but I've done that before and don't want to with him.
If can imagine an emotionally immature husband may not enjoy this sort of fantasy because he may lose respect and consider you one of those idiotic names that refer to women who enjoy sex. I can also imagine that your husband may have feelings of jealousy later.
Personally, I think threesomes are great for emotionally unattached single people who are exploring their sexuality, but those in serious relationships should avoid it.
2007-08-18 02:00:53 · answer #6 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Some people who have answered here are making a big issue out of this. Why do you not discuss the whole thing through with your husband? It could be a sexy experience, just talking about why he wants do, what he would like it to be like etc Doesnt mean you have to do it if you dont want to. Yes, I've done it lots of times and really enjoyed it. We are swingers anyway.
But remember, LISTEN to his ideas, but only ACT on them if YOU want to.
2007-08-18 07:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is this different from other threesomes? Be careful, though! Once you do it there is no going back and fantasy is a funny thing. In reality people get jealous and it can cause all sorts of nasties. Do it only with a 'stranger' who has no on going attachment and try really talk about each others expectations.
If your just looking for spice, there are many ways to get that!
2007-08-18 02:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
My partner would never ask me for a threesome with another man, he is just not into that idea, but I would totally do it for him (and me) if he did. It's not weird at all, just a natural facet of human sexuality.
If you do do it, enjoy. Have fun. Life is too short for wondering and agonising, but don't ever do any sexual things you're not completely comfortable with.
I read that a lot of men apparently harbour the fantasy of seeing their partner with another man, it's a real turn on for some people. :)
2007-08-18 03:11:31 · answer #9 · answered by myleslr 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have and it was enjoyable, but you can't decide to do this based on my experience in that situation. You have to know that your husband is very comfortable with himself and I'd make sure that he isn't trying to imply that he wants to start a relationship with another person.
My husband and i just had a one time thing, and there was very little, if any contact between the man and my husband. My husband also trusts that i love him, and is very comfortable with himself so there was no jealousy.
2007-08-18 02:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by abhostetler 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋