i used to drink a lot but now i havnt drank for over 2 years. my boyfriend went to a party recently and left me at home with the children until 3am because he didnt want me to go with him. anything like this im not allowed to go to. am i right for being upset?
2007-08-18 01:35:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's either meeting someone else there or he has been embarrassed by your behavior in the past and doesn't want to be embarrassed again.
You aren't his wife...you really don't have the right to be that upset.
2007-08-18 01:38:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, congrats on stopping yourself before it became a huge issue!
Next, it seems to me that he doesn't want to be with you since you don't partake in this kind of stuff anymore. You should really decide if this kind of separation of activities is right for you and your relationship. If he totally has a disregard for allowing you to join him whenever he goes out, then perhaps you should end the relationship. On the other hand, if it is okay with you that he does continue to drink and go out to clubs then consider it to be your alone time with the kids. Doing things separately is not always a bad thing but if you feel cheated in some way then maybe you should talk it over with him
2007-08-18 08:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by Reo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a right to be upset. If he is going places regardless of where it is and your not "allowed" to go then he is definitely hiding something. Everyone needs some alone time but he is just being shady.
2007-08-18 09:17:41 · answer #3 · answered by Angela C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is taking advantage of that situation. I do agree with you by being upset. If he does love you, he would of sacrifice the any party invitation for you and do something else with you instead of leaving you alone with the kids.
2007-08-18 08:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by colemmali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be upset too, especially if I didn't drink or whatever. Let him know that anything from the past is not going to affect you or him in the present, and that if you don't go, then neither does he.
2007-08-18 08:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by myleslr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should talk to him about it. Maybe he's worried that your start drinking excessively again, most people change completely after drinking alot of alchol, some for the worse! Or he could be meeting someone els.
2007-08-20 17:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by Sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a way yes, just because you had a problem in the past doesn’t mean you will become an alcoholic just because you went to a place where alcohol is being served, he cant expect you to avoid being around alcohol!!
but has probably trying to protect you from it, he probably thinks you don’t want to be around alcohol so he doesn’t bring you, just explain that what’s in the past is in the past and you can still go out and enjoy yourself without the need to drink!!
you both need to talk!!
good luck!
2007-08-18 08:42:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention your age. I would be upset. Was there noone to watch the children? Are they your children, his or both of yours. I would not only be upset, but wonder what he is doing until 3 in the morning.
2007-08-18 08:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by Beatrice C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too right you are. What is he doing as he doesn't want you with him? I wouldn't stand for that behaviour. Tell him that you will find a baby sitter and you WILL be attending the next party whether he likes it or not.
2007-08-18 10:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How you react is up to you, Rachael, but do you think that he hasn't yet ;learned to trust you again?
There is the other possibility, but I don't think we need to air that here. Talk to him about it barebones.
2007-08-18 08:46:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋