Mommy, how can I get someone to stop trying to out me in public?

Question

This chica acts like we're good enough friends that she can borrow from me all the time and when she pays me back, it's used immediately to her advantage. She says we're on "dates" (in public), says we have a "secret" (we don't) and frankly, I don't like that she called me her "partner" in front of three coworkers. I just don't have the heart (yet) to say I know you're just playing a game and go back to the playground, but when I do, I want to be civil and keep things cool. How to?

She always ONLY says this type of thing in front of her friends, people she knows, or anyone I might be embarrassed around....

Answer 1

First off, NO ONE can embarrass you, but you. People can try, but they usually look foolish or downright sad. By that, I mean that many people want to tease the guy/gal they have the secret crush on, and sadly just because we've grown to adulthood, doesn't mean some of us have learned new tricks. :/

You can invite one of her friends to play a trick with you ahead of time, knowing she will do this again. I had a girl who was doing something similar and even though I liked her as a person I just didn't have time in my life for anything but work. So to mess with her head, I involved a friend of hers, secretly ahead of time. I went to her, explained the situation and how honored I was by her attentions and kindness to me, but at this time, there was simply no way in my life between family obligations, work and catching up on past obligations with a part-time job. Obligations had to come first. Since I was not insulting or rejecting her friend because I was better than her or another reason, her friend was really sweet and wanted to defuse the situation so we could all be friends. So, we talked about it, decided what to do and did it. It was idiotic but it broke the ice and she got a laugh and got to me me, got her introduction with being "obvious" and then her friend privately explained that my family and obligations had to come first right now.

We called her over and her friend introduced me and said, do you know his sister, "so and so" that works at this place. (We made her up out of thin air). She said no, but she knew my other one. Her friend said, no, not her. This is the one that has the world championship longjump record. Being impressed she asked her friend about it. (I made sure to be in eavesdrop closeness, and her girlfriend, said, don't be shy, ask him about her. His family is important to him.) So she calls me over and says "mary is telling me your sister has the world longjump distance record." (THIS IS WHERE THE REAL FUN STARTS). I bugged my eyes out as far as I could and tried to look like I was in shock or going to cry and run. When she saw something was wrong, she was like almost panicked and said, "oh, no, what's wrong." I said, "that's not funny, my sister doesn't have any legs." and turn and ran off (LYING OF COURSE, HEHE). (on other people it was my sister holding her breath for the world record and I would say, "that's not funny," my sister is dead).

Either way, its the shock value that gets'em. Of course, after 15 seconds, you walk over to her girlfriend and start high-fiving and letting her know the trick. That you just want to be friend but, truthfully, there really IS not time for more than that right now however, friends until then you can never get enough of.

Answer 2

Tell her to knock it off or you will knock her block off. It's extremely rude and insensitive.

Just because she may be out, does not mean you have to be out. Coming out is a very personal decision that needs to be made by YOU, not your assinine friend. If she can't respect that, then she is not a friend.

Answer 3

Tell her to stop it, obviously she is not your friend. Don't worry about being civil just be blunt.
Tell her she is acting like a kid and she needs to grow up.

Answer 4

It's time to come out of the closet. There is no reason to deny who you are to others.