an now she has found out were i live i dont want to call police cause it will cause more trouble i am thinkin off going into a refuge but dont know if they will take me cause i just want to get out of my home town an i just started seeing a lad but his ex girlfriend keeps threatin to put my windows through or attack me in street when i have my 2 children wiv me i am 2 scared 2 go out an my children r suffering wot can i do?
2007-08-18 00:17:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
call womens aid here is there national number 0808 2000 247 is free and open 24hours a day, they will help you get into a refuge and to safety, they will then help you get re-housed in anew area (you can choose how far or how close you want to move) they are the best people to help you now sweetie, dont let yourself or your kids be the victims anymore!
here is the womens aid website too http://www.womensaid.org.uk/?gclid=CJrThbj4_o0CFQmIlAodnG26OQ
if you have a home full of stuff you can either sell it all off, or they will help you move it into storage etc untill you gt a new home. pack your bags and some treasured possesions and go....... im sure they can get you into a refuge TODAY!
i doesnt matter who is threatning you with violence you dont have to take it and shouldnt have to take it, call womens aid now please and be safe.
2007-08-18 00:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You are in MUCH better shape that most that move away from home for the first time. You should take a deep breath and count your blessings. $7000 in the bank and already a college junior? What a great start! Here's an idea. Why not hold off on that used car purchase for a time and make a 'deal' with one of your friends to pay them for a ride to and from school? remember once you get the car you have to get the insurance, do the maintenance, worry about parking and permits - and a used car is always a huge unknown. I assume you've already checked into taking a bus As for how busy you are - you just need to be better organized. Unless you're ill you can postpone those doctor's appointments. You don't need to change your license address right away - and you can usually do that online. Make a grocery list and try to make just one or two trips a week. As for your family - don't feel like you are the lone ranger. You had the courage to cut the ties and do what was best for you! Don't second guess yourself.. Embrace your new life and independence! But do your part to keep the lines of communication open. Call home once a week. If they hang up or start screaming just hang up and try again the following week.And the following week. It will take some time for your family to accept that you are an independent adult with your own ideas on how best to live your life. Good luck to you!
2016-05-22 01:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must think about your children,if some ex and your cousin is threatening you then they may do something stupid which will hurt your kids(Say a brick is thrown through your window and one of your children is there),it sounds horrible but your kids lives could be in a danger,and maybe yours.How would you or your kids feel if you were not there for them?you owe it to the little ones to stay safe and to keep them safe,do go to the police asap.Are you also worried about what your family will think?Don't worry about them,think of yourself and your children first,they come first.If your parents take this cousins side then i am sorry but you are better off without them.
2007-08-18 01:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to the police and social services. Cousin or not she is mental and if the rest of the family accept her behaviour then you need to move for the kids sake!!!
They are the only ones able to deal with this legally so she can't hurt you or the kids!
Be brave hon'.....in the long run you will never forgive yourself if the mental cow isnt' sorted out now...by NOT dealing with her she thinks you have given her permission to continue to behave this way as you are too scared to do anything!
You need to show her you aren't!!!
2007-08-18 00:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by Confuzzled 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She said it was his ex girlfriend. Wow sounds like youre around an awful lot of psychos... Maybe just find someone else to date. Without the Pyscho Ex.... And what did you do to your cousin to get them so mad?
Maybe an apology is in order. Or If they are just plain psychotic I'd go with the calling the police option. Stay away from them also.
2007-08-18 00:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your cousin and your boyfriend's ex are the same person. If that's the case you were stupid and need to do the smart thing now which is call the cops. While you may have to deal with you started your kids need as much protection as they can get.
2007-08-18 01:17:44 · answer #6 · answered by riding128 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
About the only thing you can do is move, or report to the police! But with two children I wouldn't take too many chances! I wish you lots of luck!
2007-08-18 00:23:07 · answer #7 · answered by B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you genuinely feel physically threatened and you have two children you've got to inform the authorities- even if that makes you the bad guy with your family- your being forced to move round pillar to post which is disrupting yours and your children's lives, and she has no right to do this regardless of the circumstance.
2007-08-18 00:23:49 · answer #8 · answered by miserable old git 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's all talk - and the second she actually DOES anything, then call the cops!
By moving once already, she knows that she has POWER over you - and will continue to act like a BULLY until she gets her way!!!
Stand your ground now - because there's very little that she can ACTUALLY do without getting arrested ;);););)
2007-08-18 01:35:27 · answer #9 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to go to the police.Get a restraining order preventing
her contacting you.Then if she does.It's down to her.I think you
should forget your families opinions.They seem to have forgotten you.Look after yourself.If you went to a refuge.They will
call the police at the first hint of trouble.
2007-08-18 00:25:57 · answer #10 · answered by angler 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋