I hate him. For many things. For bringing me here, for ruining my life before this, for never having a wedding, for being an a$$ all the time, being lazy, not wanting to work a real job, complaining constantly, making me do everything, for blowing up whenever I ask him to help me with something, for making me feel like I can't do anything online but make money, for having no cable, for getting rid of the cats, everything I hate everything about him and I wish I could just kill him or beat the cr@p out of him. I flip him off behind his back all the time, I make faces at him, I do nothing but talk smack about him while he is gone. I just hate him so much! We have a 1 yr old son together too. It's complicated. I don't know if these are normal feelings, what should I do? Counseling is out of the question. Inside I just want to run away and never see him again. It's the worse hate I've ever felt towards someone.
2007-08-17 23:11:07 · 23 answers · asked by VanillaRoses7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best thing to do is leave. If you have no money to leave which alot of people in your situation has the same problem. Is try to save enough to get out. Life is too short to be miserable and don't think well the kids will hate you forever or it will ruin their life. What will ruin their life is having two parents that can't stand each other. Trust me I'm speaking from experience. Whether the child is 1 or 20 they can sense the tension. Alot of couples go through what you are going through. Been through it myself. But you've got to reach out.If your husband is anything like mine talking and expressing how you feel does no good because they don't care.When people get married alot of things change . I dont know why but it does. My hubby was awesome before we got married now he just goes to work and sits on his computer when he gets home. I am currently saving to leave and he knows it. But he doesn't care. when you get to the point where you cant stand someone the best thing to do is leave.Everybody says well try communication whats the point when they can care less what you say. Its not worth it.Good luck to you!
2007-08-17 23:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must find someone to talk to. You need a friend and no you are not a lunatic. You are just going through a very hard time right now. You will survive. Don't do anything drastic. There's got to be someone you can talk to--your sister, your minister, your mom, a priest. You don't really want to kill him, then you would just be locked up forever and god knows who would get your kid. If you can't find anyone to talk to, write everything down in a journal, and hide it! Life has a way of surprising you sometimes, things will work out, you have options, you will see!
2007-08-18 00:12:49 · answer #2 · answered by bookluffer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is in honey, leave him!!! Take you and your baby and get you a nice apartment and you'll be just fine!! There is no need to be that unhappy!! If he treats you like that now it will get worse in the future!! So take him tlo court for sole custody with visiting from dad on the weekends!! This child can still grow up and know his father and turn out wonderful!! Your going to stress yourself into an early grave if you dont leave him!!! Good Luck and be safe doing it!!
2007-08-18 00:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥Mommy to 2 Divas♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time that you sit down write your husband a letter telling him everything that you have just told us. Then find a place and get out of this relationship. My advice would be to leave when he isn't around--then leave him the letter. You are not doing yourself or your son any good by staying in this relationship.
2007-08-18 03:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by mom of 5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
I am not sure what is the reason in the frst place you marry your hubby.
If you really love him give him chance to change.
If financial problem maybe you can start working & let him take care your son.
If both will not happen within 6 months or less, find yourself a better man who can accept you & your son before you left him.
2007-08-17 23:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by NY 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get a legal separation leave him before you do something stupid. I am assuming that you married for love and not as an escape either way you dont have to love him but for your sons sake never belittle his father in front of him he will grow up and make up his own mind but if he hears you belittle his father he will resent you.
2007-08-17 23:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by shelly f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't happy in the situation you are in, then you have to get out of that situation. If you truly can't stand to be with him and he can't have a serious talk with you and understand your feelings and is willing to do better or do something to make it work, you need to leave him.
2007-08-17 23:19:09 · answer #7 · answered by me 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
im sure he just didnt turn into a low life,it sounds like he was like this before ,but you probably thought he would change.All i can say is if you hate him so much get a divorce,go get a job and support your kid yourself .
2007-08-18 00:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by shepardman1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't thing so you spend your whole life with a men who don't care you and especially wont work its so hard for you its better you leave him. Don waste your time .
See some other guy i hope you got a right men
Thanks
2007-08-17 23:55:09 · answer #9 · answered by Heaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
were u blind when u married him.. well the easy way is to run... the hard way (in which your son would still have his father) is to fight for this marriage.. and yes counselling is a solution... {}
2007-08-17 23:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by who ?? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋